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Parenting to Beat the Bedtime Blues

Parenting to Beat the Bedtime Blues

Our daughter Mary just won’t stay in bed. We vacillate between comforting Mary, demanding that she go back to bed, and criticizing each other’s parenting style. It’s beginning to wear on our relationship. What can we do to preserve our sanity and get a little quality time with each other at night?


Give Your Kids a Life: Keep Them Off Drugs

Give Your Kids a Life: Keep Them Off Drugs

There’s been a big change in peoples’ attitudes about using marijuana, and it’s a change that may affect parents all over America. One recent poll discovered that 46 percent of Americans support legalizing small amounts for personal use. What does this trend mean for parents?


Marriage and a Special Needs Child

Marriage and a Special Needs Child

It used to be hard to find time for each other what with work and the boys, but when our Jimmy was diagnosed with profound autism, it was like a bomb went off. Tom just withdrew into work and all my time was taken up taking Jimmy from one doctor to another and trying to keep my other kids’ lives as normal as possible. All of a sudden, the little bit of time Tom and I had was totally gone.


Premarital Inventories

Premarital Inventories

Readiness for marriage cannot be scientifically measured, but an inventory helps engaged couples to make sure that they have discussed the most important issues. These are NOT tests, but rather instruments that prompt discussion on sometimes sensitive issues


Remarrying Well with Children

Remarrying Well with Children

Sam (45) and Sally (37) have been married for 2-1/2 years. It’s a second marriage for both. Sam was married at 20, divorced at 35 and has done co-parenting with his ex-wife for a number of years. Sam brings two children from his first marriage, ages 14 and 12.


Afraid a Budget Will Cramp Your Style?

Afraid a Budget Will Cramp Your Style?

Budgeting falls into the category of things that are good for you but not necessarily emotionally appealing, like flossing your teeth or exercising. The truth of the matter, though, is that everyone budgets. Drawing up a budget is just making your spending more intentional rather than allowing your whims to determine how you will spend your money or your time.


The Lunch Box Legacy

The Lunch Box Legacy

This is a generational story about lunch boxes. My daughter, Carole, wanted a new lunch box for first grade. To save money, I spray painted the old one, much to her dismay.


Family of Origin Exercise

Family of Origin Exercise

Exchange answers with your fiancé(e). Which experience of your fiancé(e) is most different from yours? Discuss what impact this might have on your future marriage.


7 Reasons Not to Marry

7 Reasons Not to Marry

The decision to marry is the biggest decision that most people make in a lifetime. Following is a list of danger signs. If any of these are present in your relationship now, it is best to postpone the marriage until the issue is resolved.


When Teens Know One Parent Will Say Yes

When Teens Know One Parent Will Say Yes

We have been happily married for fifteen years and believe we have handled most of our parenting well, but now our fourteen year old daughter’s drive for independence often causes us to argue. When she wants to go to a party or to the mall with her friends, my husband and I react differently, in ways that surprise both of us.


Ten Important Research Findings On Marriage

Ten Important Research Findings On Marriage

A study from the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University.


January 29, 2010

Dates don’t always have to be in the evening. Consider a lunch date. It’s cheaper than dinner and if your kids are in school you don’t need a babysitter.


Quickening!

Just when you thought I couldn’t possibly have any more wedding-related news, at eight months out, I finally put the last batch of thank you cards in the mail this week! I’m terrible, I know. What remained of them after the first half was finished had been stashed in a grocery bag and moved around […]


January 28, 2010

Is your marriage going well? Great! Maybe it’s time to give back. Consider passing on your hard-earned wisdom as a mentor to engaged couples or taking leadership in a marriage enrichment program.


January 27, 2010

“Nothing – not even divorce or death – can place limits on God’s gracious love.” (Follow the Way of Love) Strive to love your spouse as God does.


January 26, 2010

Marriage is like owning a car. Preventitive maintenance (enrichment, paying attention to the little grumblings, counseling before it’s broken) can save a big repair bill later.


January 25, 2010

What’s the most important factor in choosing a spouse? Consider these three criteria: physical attraction + shared values + full committment = a chance to make marriage work.


January 24, 2010

How much money is really necessary to have a happy marriage? Some would say, “just a little bit more.” Have you noticed that as your income rises it seems like your needs increase also?


January 23, 2010

“[Love] is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury.” (1 Corinthians 13:5) Sure, you might be right, but nursing that grudge will not heal your relationship. Let go of negative feelings.


January 22, 2010

In the spirit of learning new skills, try trading homemaking tasks for a day. It can bring new appreciation for the other. Even if the job doesn’t get done as well, it can provide a laugh.


All the If-Only’s

Throughout my life, there has always some particular thing that I was sure would be able to improve my life. For example, “If only I had bell bottom pants, everything would be better” (grade 6); “If only I had a better hair straightener” (grades 8-12); “If only I could find pants that fit me perfectly […]


January 21, 2010

Martin Luther King, Jr. spoke about equality between the races. In marriage we call this mutuality. Is there any area of your marriage you want to be more equal (chores, parenting, income, affection)?


January 20, 2010

Resolving an argument: Strategy #5 CREATE A NEW SOLUTION. If compromise or co-existing won’t work, try brainstorming new win/win solutions.


January 19, 2010

Resolving an argument: Strategy #3 CO-EXIST. When neither of you is willing to move from your position, it may be possible to agree to disagree. Tomorrow: #5


January 18, 2010

Resolving an argument: Strategy #3 CHANCE. If it’s not a matter of importance or morality, fliping a coin can save time and a headache. Tomorrow: #4


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