Archive for January, 2010
Resolving an argument: Strategy #3 CHANCE. If it’s not a matter of importance or morality, fliping a coin can save time and a headache. Tomorrow: #4
Resolving an argument: Strategy #2 COMPROMISE. Sometimes taking turns or finding a middle ground is acceptable. Try it before going on to the harder strategies. Tomorrow: #3
Resolving an argument: Strategy #1 CONCEDE. If the issue is really important to one partner and not to the other, consider this a gift to your spouse that will be returned in time. Tomorrow: #2
“Let love be sincere.” (Romans 12:9) Who is the most sincere person you know? Ponder this virtue today and think of one sincere, loving comment you can make to your spouse today.
Yesterday afternoon, Daniel and I went to the doctor for another sonogram, so we got to see our baby again! We could have found out then whether it was a girl or a boy, but we decided to keep it a surprise for June. Since it was the anatomy scan, the ultrasound technician had to [...]
Do you and your spouse have different shopping personalities? Is he utilitarian while you are a recreational shopper? Instead of getting annoyed with each other, try to understand.
How do you divide household chores? Scientists have not discovered a toilet cleaning gene. Consider dividing chores according to skill, interest, and time rather than gender.
When a person insults or hurts you, it’s tempting to respond in kind–tempting, but not helpful to your marriage. Consider the scripture “Do not return evil for evil,or insult for insult.” (1 Peter 3:9)
Listening is not the same as being quiet. After the quiet comes the effort to show your spouse you understand.
Love is a decision (Marriage Encounter motto). When emotions fade, it takes an act of the will to keep love going.
“If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong.” (1 Corinthians 13:1) Express your love with service or selflessness today.
At a loss for “inside dates” on a cold winter’s night? Try a card game like Cribbage or Gin. Other possibilities are games like Scrabble, talking by a fire, doing a puzzle together, or working on a home project.
I regret to inform you that this past week has not held much in the way of new and exciting things to write about. 2010 has arrived. This is the year that our first child will be born—which really is quite perfect, Daniel and I concluded the other day. Being born at the beginning of [...]
When the weather is not conducive to outdoor couple dates, do you have inside activities that you enjoy together? Brainstorm some possibilities.
(Epiphany) The wise men’s discovery of Jesus reminds us that Jesus came for all humankind. So too, married love is not a gift to be hoarded. Reach out to someone who is sad, in trouble, or from a different culture.
“This is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body” (Gn. 2:24). If you have children, love them with all your heart, but remember that your spouse is still your priority.
January 4 Do you have a regular date night? Your calendar reflects your priorities. Consider penciling in “date night” once a week on your 2010 calendar.
January is get organized month. Pick a room, a bookcase, a file, or a drawer to organize. Let this be a gift to your spouse if you enjoy organizing more than he/she does. If you both enjoy it, make it a date.
On this ninth day of Christmas ladies should be dancing. Treat your true love to a whirl around the living room anyway. You needn’t be good at it. The important thing is that you are in the arms of the person you love.
Marriage and family: Lessons of the recession; Study finds children are hard work – and make married couples happy; Why hasn’t cohabitation lowered the risk of divorce?; Supporting the vocation of marriage; A glance back at Christmas.
New Year’s Day Welcome to a New Year! Discover something new about your spouse today. Do you know his/her favorite website, in-law, or Scripture passage?