Archive for July, 2010
We just undertook a somewhat convoluted “vacation” over the course of twelve days, two states and eight legs of plane travel. Gratefully the children were only a part of four of the legs of the plane trips.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family Marriage, the Sacrament of Matrimony, is a covenant of persons in love. And love can deepened and preserved only by Love.
“All those ‘and they lived happily ever after’ fairy tale endings need to be changed to ‘and they began the very hard work of making their marriages happy.’” (Linda Miles, The New Marriage) Do any fairy tale dreams block my ability to love my spouse for better or for worse?
Love is not simply a feeling; it is a decision. (Marriage Encounter principle) When the feeling fades, and it will, recommit to building your relationship. Do something loving for your spouse.
From God Is Love [Married] love is indeed “ecstacy,” not in the sense of a moment of intoxication, but rather as a journey.
If you’re too busy to pray, you may be too busy. Pick a specific and regular time each day to say a prayer for your spouse. It might be when you start the car, wash your hands, or brush your teeth. Entrusting your beloved to God’s care is prayer.
Wherever you go I will go, wherever you lodge I will lodge. Your people will be my people, and your God my God. Ruth 1: 16
A “quiet revolution” is under way among young fathers in America, born of a “new spirit and determination among men … to find their place not just at work but in the home,” according to “The New Dad,” a study released in mid-June by the Center for Work and Family at Jesuit-run Boston College.
Knowing about your spouse’s past can give you insight as to why he or she has certain habits or strong beliefs. Test your knowledge to help you understand the present and plan for the future.
Like the sun rising in the Lord’s heavens, the beauty of a virtuous wife is the radiance of her home. Sirach 26:16
“It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love.” (Dietrich Bonheoffer, writing to a young bride and groom from his prison cell in Nazi Germany in 1943) Is there a time that your marriage vow kept you working on your marriage?
If on a scale of 1 -10, you’re both about 5, seek a middle ground. If you’re both around 10, seek a creative new solution or agree to disagree. Don’t play games, though. If one partner is always a 10, he/she may need to let go of control.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan The Second Vatican Council affirms that the well-being of society is closely tied to healthy marriages and families.
Having a disagreement? Try this: Rate how strongly you feel about the issue on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being “I care strongly about this issue.” Spouse also rates the issue. Sometimes the partner with the lesser investment will be willing to give in – this time. Part 2 tomorrow.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan Just as families render an invaluable service to society, society has a reciprocal obligation to protect and support families.
On June 16 Sarah gave birth to her and Daniel’s first child, Charlie. In this posting Sarah talks about her labor and delivery.
One of the things I love most about marriage is its physicality. When all is said and done, the marital experience is fundamentally physical. Not just with sex, but also with sleeping and eating habits, sharing bathroom space while I shave and she dries her hair, washing kids before bedtime…Our bodies are essential ways we experience relationship with each other in marriage and family life.
From On the Family It must not be forgotten that even when procreation is not possible, conjugal life does not for this reason lose its value.
“In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find grounds for marriage.” (Robert Anderson, Solitaire/Double Solitaire) Discuss a significant value or belief that holds you and your spouse together.
From Follow the Way of Love Each generation of a family is challenged to leave the world a more beautiful and beneficial place than it inherited.
“Yeah, you won,” said the irate wife to her husband, “and now you get to live with the loser.” (Retrovaille leader on why win/win outcomes are a better way to resolve disagreements)
From Follow the Way of Love Parenthood… is the experience of acting as God’s instruments in giving life to sons and daughters in various ways.
(Independence Day) Independence is an important step on the journey to adulthood, but marriage also requires dependence. I depend on you to keep your word, to be there when I’m feeling hurt, to watch the kids so I can have a break. How do you depend on each another?
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan Sexual intercourse is meant to express the total and unrestricted gift of self that takes place in married love.
“Is it any wonder that couples find it more difficult to keep marriage vows when promiscuity is portrayed as normative on the sitcoms, snuck into e‑mails, and pops up on websites.” (Susan Vogt, Raising Kids Who Will Make a Difference) What is the media feeding your psyche?