Archive for August, 2010
When we come to marriage we each bring our histories – healed or broken, reflected upon or repressed – to our life together. Our vocation is to help each other become fully human. This means finding a way to share hurts, to risk allowing the other person to know us so intimately that we are willing to open up old wounds and allow God to heal them through each other. Marriage at its best creates a safe space where healing and forgiveness can take place.
“Do not use harmful words, but only helpful words.” (Ephesians 4:29) Do you swear? Are there hurtful words that you know bother your spouse? For one day make a conscious effort to watch your words.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan By the power of the Holy Spirit, spouses become willing to do the acts and courtesies of love toward each other.
A little pamphlet offers big help for troubled marriages. A recent News Note, published by The Christophers, offers seven principles for couples to practice in the face of tough times. The principles help couples to communicate well, fight fair, and learn to forgive.
The Lord withholds no good thing from those who walk without reproach. O Lord of hosts, happy are those who trust in you! Psalm 84:12, 13
Are you too hard on yourself? Do you expect never to disappoint your spouse, your children, your parents, yourself? Forgive yourself today for being human.
From Follow the Way of Love When children are born, both mother and father are important in nurturing and forming them.
Weekly Date Idea: Take an early morning or evening bike ride together. Explore your neighborhood or the countryside. Stop for a treat along the way.
“I’m very neat. My wife is messy. She doesn’t even notice the mess. I cured myself from my annoyance with her by imagining that she had died and then asking myself, ‘If I could bring her back to life but she’d still be messy, would I still want her back?’ ‘Yes, for sure!’ It cured [...]
From Follow the Way of Love Join with other couples and families who are making a conscious effort to follow Christ’s way of love.
Charlie had his first babysitter on Sunday. Daniel and I had several errands to run, and we figured it would be much faster if we went together and much easier if we didn’t take him with us, so we dropped him off for my mom to babysit him.
From The Human Family, A Community of Peace Message of Pope Benedict XVI for World Day of Peace 2008 [We must not] overlook the poor, who are excluded in many cases from the goods of creation destined for all.
The birth of a baby is one of the happiest days for married couples. What many don’t fully appreciate till they are sleep deprived and time strained is the toll it can take on their marriage. Take time for a weekly date.
We have had a “helluva” summer. What was supposed to be three and a half months of down time at home and at the office – kicked off with a fun vacation at the beach – turned into multiple funerals and cross country trips by car and by plane.
From Address of Pope John Paul II at the Fourth World Meeting of Families Whether you were married recently or many years ago, the Sacrament of Matrimony continues to be your own special way of being disciples of Jesus.
“I wanna make you smile whenever you’re sad; Carry you around when your arthritis is bad. All I wanna do is grow old with you.” (The Wedding Singer) Aging is natural but can be disconcerting. Have you talked about how changes in your health might impact your marriage?
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan The Holy Spirit binds the spouses together through their exchange of promises in a bond of love and fidelity unto death.
A good argument can be a labor of love. Have something sensitive or difficult to talk about with your spouse? Try holding hands and maintaining direct eye contact when you are having a discussion about a disagreement.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan As a sacrament, marriage signifies and makes present in the couple Christ’s total self-gift of love.
“There is a season for everything…a time to weep and a time to laugh.” (Ecclesiastes 3:4) A compassionate spouse is truly a blessing, but a spouse who can make you laugh is a double blessing. Tell a joke today, even if it’s corny.
Does your marriage need a bit of preventive maintenance? Even good marriages can benefit from periodic check-ups. Try this end-of-summer tune-up to keep your marriage running smoothly.
When couples share “core religious and spiritual values,” and “practice in-home devotional activities such as prayer or Scriptural study,” they tend to be more satisfied in their relationship, according to a just-published study. These religious factors fulfill a uniquely important role for many U.S. African-American and Hispanic couples.
“Marital arguments are often not so much about you or me, rather it’s all those things that creep into our lives that we begin to blame each other for.” (Mary Kay Vetter) Watch what you say after phrases like, “You always…” or “You never…”
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family The family which results from this [marital] union draws its inner solidarity from the covenant between the spouses, which Christ raised to a Sacrament.
Weekly Date Idea: Try star-gazing in your own back yard or out in the country. Just bring a blanket and gaze upwards together. If you’re the scientific type, you might get a star map and try to identify constellations.