Archive for August, 2010
What would you do if you won the lottery–pay off debt, set up a college fund, take a dream vacation, give it all to charity? What does your spouse say?
As the sparrow finds a home and the swallow a nest to settle her young, my home is by your altars, Lord of hosts, my King and my God. Psalm 84:4
Extramarital affairs don’t just happen by chance. An affair is often a symptom that the marriage has not been given the care it deserves. Paying attention to each other’s needs reduces temptation.
Happy the chosen ones you bring to dwell in your courts. Psalm 65:5
It’s official: Two skinny people can have a very large baby. Charlie had his two month check-up this week; he measured in at 24 inches long and 16 pounds 3 ounces, which means that he has gained seven pounds and one ounce in exactly nine weeks.
From Follow the Way of Love It takes hard work to really understand another’s feelings or to practice shared decision making on important matters.
“You win or the relationship wins.” (Terry Hargrave) Rethink how important it is to be right in your next argument. If you can’t come up with a win/win solution, have you really won?
We all have our own “language” through which we communicate love. These languages don’t necessarily have to do with words; they are ways in which we give and receive affection. Stacey and I, it turns out, speak different languages of love.
From Follow the Way of Love Agreeing that you are equal might be easier than changing your behavior or accepting joint responsibility for your relationship.
You tune up your car; you do preventive maintenance on your home. Your marriage deserves at least as much marriage maintenance. Attending a marriage enrichment program is like marriage insurance. Don’t wait till it breaks down.
“Let love be sincere.” (Romans 12:9) Sometimes spouses (and parents) are free with flattery either as a bribe or because they believe it builds love and self-esteem. Compliments, however, must be true and specific to do their job well. Give one sincere compliment today.
From Follow the Way of Love Genuine marital intimacy and true friendship are unlikely without mutuality. One spouse alone is not the keeper of love’s flame.
From The Human Family, A Community of Peace Message of Pope Benedict XVI for World Day of Peace 2008 We need to care for the environment: it has been entrusted to men and women to be protected… with the good of all as a constant guiding criterion.
Happily married couples often have little daily rituals, developed over time, that are unique to them, such as bringing coffee to the sleepier one, a daily walk, or watching the news together before bed. What’s yours?
Weekly Date Idea: Go to an amusement park or arcade. It doesn’t have to be one of those fancy, expensive parks. Go without the kids and BE kids again.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family [The married couple’s] union ought to take place “in truth and love” and thus express the maturity proper to persons created in the image and likeness of God.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family It is… through the body that man and woman are predisposed to form a “communion of persons” in marriage.
“All happily married couples have approximately 10 irreconcilable differences. What’s important is to discuss [them] just as we would discuss living with a chronic bad back or trick knee.” (Ten Tips from Smart Marriages Conferences)
Most parents say they want their children to be happy. But what does that mean? Sarah reflects on what she wants for Charlie.
From Address of Pope John Paul II at the Fourth World Meeting of Families Dear Christian families, proclaim joyfully to the whole world the wonderful treasure which you, as domestic churches, possess!
Some of us are problem-solvers and some of us are “venters.” Often a problem-solver will try to give helpful suggestions to the venting spouse when all that is really needed is to listen and be sympathetic. Know the difference.
Finding Mr. or Ms. Right is hard enough. You finally locate someone who shares your interests, who’s attractive, sympathetic, enjoys being with you. There’s only one problem: He (or she) uses drugs. Should you consider marrying a drug user?
Dating can be a wonderful time in a person’s life, challenging a person to grow and to learn more about others. In this article a young adult reflects on four basic points to keep in mind when dating.
From On the Family The essence and role of the family are in the final analysis specified by love.
“As we work to strengthen marriage on a societal level, we must not neglect our own marriages.” (Mayor Bill Hardiman, Greater Grand Rapids Community Marriage Policy)