Archive for September, 2010
The early years of marriage–the honeymoon phase–are also the riskiest. These two books offer practical advice for building a solid foundation for your marriage.
After 12 years of marriage, I am surprised at what still surprises me. Three things surprised me recently.
My wife hates ketchup, for one.
From Follow the Way of Love To thrive, love requires attention, communication, and time.
“If a married couple with children has fifteen minutes of uninterrupted, nonlogistical, non-problem-solving talk every day, I would put them in the top 5% of all married couples. It’s an extraordinary achievement.” (Bill Doherty, Take Back Your Marriage) Try it for a week.
The Great Recession has forced many wives to become the primary breadwinners in their families. How are American families coping with the new financial realities?
If you’re caught up in the stress of wedding planning, step back for a moment and consider what’s really important about your big day.
The interaction of men and women in the workplace can pose a danger to marriage. Work colleagues with similar interests see each other daily, mostly on their best behavior, and with make-up. Recognize the temptation and inoculate yourselves with commitment.
From Follow the Way of Love Balancing home and work responsibilities is a shared obligation for spouses.
Couples often speak of the joy of having married their best friend. What does friendship in marriage look like and how can it be nurtured?
From Follow the Way of Love Humility is forged in prayer: husbands and wives praying with and for each other… This is the heart of ministry within the church of the home.
“I give you a new commandment: love one another.” (John 13:34) So simple, so profound, so difficult. If spouses, who chose each other following strong physical and emotional attraction, can fight and contemplate divorce, is it any wonder countries also war with each other?
Try “drive-thru communication” for couples. You know the drill – you give your order, the cashier repeats it, then you confirm it. It works for clean couple communication too. You express an idea, your spouse repeats it, you confirm.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan The Christian family has an evangelizing and missionary task.
Weekly Date Idea: Go to a public place (a train station, airport lobby, downtown gathering place) and people watch. If you see someone who looks sad or distressed say a prayer or lend a hand.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan A married couple shares in [the] live-giving communion of love by together procreating children in the conjugal act of love.
From On the Family The unity of marriage will radiate from the equal personal dignity of husband and wife, a dignity acknowledged by mutual and total love.
Are you a “good cause” widow(er)? It’s possible to get your need for validation met by doing good works while neglecting your spouse. Check at home for spouse neglect.
Can you interpret how your spouse is feeling based on his or her words and actions? Take this quiz together to find out.
The home is the place where “the most striking and generous” forms of peacemaking are witnessed. Unfortunately, the home also is a place where violence occurs. The Catholic bishops of Australia address both in a statement for Social Justice Sunday, observed Sept. 26 in their country.
From On the Family This conjugal communion is …is nurtured through the personal willingness of the spouses to share their entire life-project.
Lingering anger or bitterness only delays healing – even if you were right. Think through what bothered or disappointed you, then express what you would like your spouse to do differently the next time. Let go.
Last week Daniel and I were asked to be the pro-life chaircouple for our parish’s Knights of Columbus council, and we accepted the position.
What have you done for your marriage today? Visiting this website and reading this tip counts. Next step is to share this resource with your spouse. That’ll take care of tomorrow. Third step is to share this website or tips with another couple.
From On the Family [Husband and wife] are called to grow continually in their communion through day-to-day fidelity to their marriage promise of total mutual self-giving.
Do you and your spouse have compatible personalities? You don’t have to be identical, you just have to realize that being different from you does not mean your spouse is wrong or inferior.