Archive for October, 2010
From On the Family To bear witness to the value of the indissolubility and fidelity of marriage is one of the most precious and urgent tasks of Christian couples in our time.
(Halloween) Grab a small paper bag, draw a Jack-o-Lantern on it, and fill it with some of your spouse’s favorite treats—candy, gum, mints, etc.
From On the Family The gift of the sacrament is at the same time a vocation and commandment for the Christian spouses.
“Marriage is neither heaven nor hell; it is simply purgatory.” (Abraham Lincoln) Lincoln may not have improved his relationship with Mary Todd with this statement but there’s some truth to the reality that we purify each other because we know, only too well, each other’s faults. Accept a fault today.
Sarah compares her life now with her life at this time last year. Also, read about little Charlie’s latest accomplishments.
How’s your memory? We humans tend to remember what we want to hear. I’m not as likely to remember a vague or optional request my husband makes if I really never wanted to do it anyway. Are there things you conveniently forgot and then got busted? Don’t argue, just apologize.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family The sacramental union of the two spouses, sealed in the covenant which they enter into before God, endures and grows stronger as the generations pass.
Make sure that the only time you say, “I love you” is not only when you’re making love. Find a unique or surprising way to say “I love you” to your spouse today.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family Together with the words of Sacred Scripture, [family prayer] should always include the personal memories of the spouses-parents, the children and grandchildren.
How committed to you is the man or woman you’re beginning to think you’d like to marry? How do you “decode” this person’s level of commitment? Scott Stanley cautions couples not to attach a “sign of commitment” label to actions that may have little to do with commitment. “I think it’s important that people have ways to read correctly how committed their partner can be to them,” Stanley said.
Do you know something your spouse doesn’t? Don’t keep a hobby, a skill, or an interesting fact a secret. Introduce your spouse to new things you learn and enjoy.
From Follow the Way of Love It is especially important for couples to have some time alone.
“Parenthood” is one of the few TV shows that Josh and Stacey make it a point to watch. Josh explains how the show captures the give and take–and the self-sacrifice–of married life.
Pride is a mortal enemy to love, and also to lasting marital happiness. The antidote is humility–an acceptance of who and what we are.
“I want to be a good husband or wife, and a good father or mother. But work seems to suck everything out of me. How do I do justice to both?” During uncertain economic times, couples can be even more tempted to sacrifice family life for work. How can they strike a balance?
“Rejoice in hope, endure in affliction.” (Romans 12:12) Sounds a lot like the wedding vow, “for better or for worse.” Some wisdom is ancient and timeless. Would you count today as a “better,” “worse,” or just “OK” day for your marriage? Recommit regardless.
From Follow the Way of Love It is hard to imagine how a family can live faithfully, be life giving, and grow in mutuality without deliberately choosing to spend time together.
Opposites attract — but a laid back spouse and one who’s always on the go can often stress each other out. Find out if you and your spouse operate at the same speed.
Sometimes the main difference between a happy marriage and a troubled one is preserving an attitude of “goodwill” when one makes a mistake. How does one build goodwill? By constantly looking for the good rather than the fault and creating a “bank account” of positive experiences.
From Follow the Way of Love Spending time together builds intimacy, increases understanding and creates memories between husband and wife, parent and child.
Don’t use the “D” word (Divorce) when arguing. It’s like pulling out a gun and can be a self- fulfilling prophecy. The more times you successfully resolve a disagreement, the more confidence you’ll have that disagreeing is not grounds for divorce.
According to The 8 Essential Traits of Couples Who Thrive, (Susan Page) couples need: Desire, belief, and commitment; Goodwill; Clear values; Boundaries; Perspective; Relationship-enhancing communication; Intimacy; and Pleasure. Is anything missing in your marriage?
From On Anthropological Foundation of the Family Address of Pope Benedict XVI at the Ecclesial Congress of the Diocese of Rome Christian families constitute a decisive resource for education in the faith, [and] leaven in a Christian sense the culture and social structures.
Imagine celebrating Easter in your home both on March 31 and again May 5. This could happen in 2013 for a Catholic married to a member of one of the Orthodox churches. Read how the recent Synod on the Middle East discussed the issue of a common date for Easter.
Read what happens when Sarah and Daniel leave Charlie with his first babysitters. Also, Sarah muses about the future and the need to live in the present.