Archive for October, 2010
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan Marriage must be understood within the primary vocation to love, because humanity is created in the image and likeness of God who is himself love.
Weekly Date Idea: Find a corn maze and wander through it. Ponder how your experience may mimic times in your life together when you felt lost, found each other, or found your way through a difficulty together. No corn mazes in your area? Search out a labyrinth. Many retreat centers have them.
The Church teaches that marriage is an authentic vocation, or divine call… just as necessary and valuable to the Church as other vocations.
Does your spouse have an annoying habit? Instead of nagging, try making a joke out of it. “Oh honey, I noticed you forgot to empty the dishwasher. Since we need some extra money, I put it up on E-Bay. I agree, it’s just too much trouble to empty it.”
List your three favorite hobbies (sports, games, crafts, anything you do outside of your job and parenting.) Compare with your spouse’s list. Make sure some of your recreational time is together. Maybe take up a new hobby together.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan When the two spouses live together in peace, they provide a reminder… that progress toward the unity for which Christ prayed is possible.
“There is a season for everything…a time to embrace, and a time to be far from embraces.” (Ecclesiastes 3:5) It might be hard to imagine when embracing your spouse is not good but there are illnesses, separations, and times when you don’t want to conceive. It doesn’t mean your love is any less.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family Fatherhood and motherhood represent a responsibility which is not simply physical but [also] spiritual in nature.
The ring tone for my lady friends on our cell phone is “Single Ladies” by Beyonce. Now, with one recently married exception, the friends I am referring to do all happen to be “single ladies.” But I didn’t choose the song as a label for their vocational state.
From The Human Family, A Community of Peace Message of Pope Benedict XVI for World Day of Peace 2008 The moral norm must be the rule for decisions of conscience and the guide for all human behavior.
“In sickness and in health…” How do you deal with illness? Do you like to be coddled or ignored? What does your spouse want from you when he or she is sick?
How good it is, how pleasant, where the people dwell as one! Psalm 133:1
Make a commitment to laugh at least once a day. No matter how hard life is going, laughing with your spouse can lighten your load.
From Address of Pope John Paul II at the Fourth World Meeting of Families Christian couples, be good news for the third millennium by bearing convincing and consistent witness to the truth about the family.
You may be newly married and can’t get enough togetherness, but God willing, some day you will both be retired. During the retirement phase of marriage make sure you have some solo time for the sake of sanity.
Charlie is turning Sarah into a morning person! Read Sarah’s update as Charlie turns four months old.
From Address of Pope John Paul II at the Fourth World Meeting of Families Jesus is always present at your side, just as he was for the newlyweds at Cana in Galilee during a moment of difficulty.
Weekly Date Idea: Plan a “Favorites Night” around your favorite food, clothes, games, sports, etc. Each spouse could choose a favorite activity which you then combine into one evening, or the wife could propose her favorite activities for one date and the husband plans the next date with his favorites.
From On the Family The indissolubility of marriage [is] a fruit, a sign …of the absolutely faithful love that the Lord Jesus has for the Church.
“You shall love your neighbor [spouse] as yourself.” (Leviticus 19:18) The first job of love is to have a healthy love of self lest you depend on your spouse to fill you up, to meet all your needs. What three things do you like most about yourself?
Every marriage has problems from time to time. A new study identfies constructive strategies that couples can use to deal with conflict and improve their chances of staying together.
It’s natural to want your children to like you. It’s especially hard for step-parents to wait for the new parent/child relationship to develop naturally. Don’t take it personally when your children say they “hate” you. Cling to each other.
From On the Family Conjugal communion is characterized not only by its unity but also by its indissolubility.
“Love is patient.” (1 Cor. 13:4) Who is the more patient of the two of you? If you are the less patient one, study your spouse’s ways and learn. If you are the more patient one, resist the urge to feel superior. You have other faults.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan A family matures as a domestic church as it every more deeply immerses itself within the life of the Church.