Archive for November, 2010
If you weren’t humble before your marriage, alert spouses usually develop this virtue from being around each other. Teens are the back-up teachers if your spouse is too gentle on you.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan The vocation of marriage, like other vocations, is the living out of the theological virtues of faith, hope, and charity.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan There is another way to look at growth in marriage: namely, as growth in virtue. As a couple grows in virtue, they grow in holiness.
“There is an appointed time for everything…a time to be silent, and a time to speak” (Ecclesiastes 3:7). In your marriage do you need to hold your tongue more so your spouse can speak, speak up more so your spouse knows what you’re feeling, or is everything just right?
(Advent begins) On this first Sunday of Advent, start to wait. Wait for your spouse to get ready to leave without complaining. Wait for her to have the last word. Wait for the other to go to bed and then close up the house.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan The… promise of love to the end makes it possible for spouses… to achieve an intimacy where there is trust instead of shame.
From On the Family Every family is called by the God of peace to have the joyous and renewing experience of “reconciliation,” that is, communion reestablished, unity restored.
When you use that wonderful communication tool of active listening (“I hear you saying…”) remember your goal is not necessarily to reach agreement, but rather to show your spouse you truly understand.
From On the Family Family communion can only be preserved and perfected through a great spirit of sacrifice.
Continue the spirit of Thanksgiving by passing on the blessings you have received to others. Call or visit someone who is confined to home, clean up litter from a park or along your street, drop off canned goods at the local food pantry.
From On the Family The Christian family constitutes a specific revelation and realization of ecclesial communion, and for this reason it can and should be called “the domestic Church.”
(Thanksgiving) Thanksgiving remains one of our purer holidays in that it has not yet been tainted by undue commercialization. Thank God today for things money cannot buy – your spouse, children, honesty, the beauty of nature, hopefully your health (or the grace to endure suffering well).
From On the Family [Faithfully married couples] in a humble and courageous manner, …perform the role committed to them of being in the world a sign.
Some people read these tips because their marriage is in trouble and they want help. If you need help check out Retrouvaille (pronounced Ret´-rō-vī) or The Third Option. Both are useful programs to help couples save their marriages.
Couples should remember when they experience the difficulties that arise in marriage and family life that God’s Word is a source of strong support for them, Pope Benedict XVI says in an apostolic exhortation released Nov. 11 titled “The Word of the Lord” (“Verbum Domini”).
When long-married couples are asked the recipe for marital success, many identify patience as a key ingredient. It’s the indispensable virtue for living together day after day in relative peace, without constant struggles to change the other to our liking.
Stacey and Joshua are invited to talk about marriage and divorce to a group of evangelical Christians. How do they approach the challenge?
From Address of Pope John Paul II at the Fourth World Meeting of Families The family is the setting in which the human person, made in the image and likeness of God, is conceived and born, grows and matures.
“Do not return evil for evil, or insult for insult” (1 Peter 3:9). When couples argue, it’s tempting to answer a criticism with another criticism or excuse. A simple, “I’m sorry” can do a world of good.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family The more common the good, the more properly one’s own it will also be: mine—yours—ours.
“The secret to having a good marriage is to understand that marriage must be total, it must be permanent, and it must be equal” (Frank Pittman). That’s why marriage is different than cohabitation. Wedding vows make a difference.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family In prayer, the family discovers… each member is for the others wither husband or wife, father or mother, son or daughter, brother or sister, grandparent or grandchild.
It’s Thanksgiving Week. Try to thank your spouse each day for something he or she has done, even if it’s something routine like cooking dinner or driving the carpool.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family The prayer of the family as a community can become a place of common and mutual remembrance: the family is a community of generations.
Need to break the routine in your bedroom? Buy some snazzy sheets or create a romantic atmosphere with low lights and soft music. Try to look at your spouse in a new way.