Archive for November, 2010
From God Is Love It is characteristic of mature love that it calls into play all [our] potentialities; it engages the whole [self].
Children are a blessing, but they can also strain a marriage. Reach out to relatives and friends to get the support you need. Offer support to other parents who may be going through a rough time.
What most attracted you to your spouse when you were dating? What qualities have been added to that now that you know each other better? Tell your beloved one endearing quality that you appreciate today.
From Follow the Way of Love The graced experience you have as a Christian family in your domestic church should be shared more extensively with all of us.
Stacey and I were recently daydreaming about what we would do if our time was our own. Stacey’s ultimate luxury would be to take a nap whenever she wanted to. I’m not sure what I would do, but lots of things come to mind as possibilities, such as being able to catch the light-rail downtown […]
What model of marriage offers the best prospects for success? A new report finds value in a traditional, or institutional, model with its supporting social networks. But couples also need the expressive dimension of married life–the soulmate model.
Your spouse may not be able to read your mind but he/she can usually read your face. The message is usually generalized joy, disgust, fear, or anger, so specific causes need to be explained, but don’t think you can hide negative feelings from your spouse.
From Follow the Way of Love Time given to solitude is time well spent.
“I love being parents with you,” I whispered as I snuggled up next to Daniel in bed and laid my head on his right shoulder. Daniel laughed. With his left hand he was rocking the cradle beside our bed in a desperate attempt to get our son to go back to sleep. It was 5:30 […]
“The way of the fool seems right in his own eyes, but he who listens to advice is wise” (Proverbs 12:15). Some couples think that talking with a counselor is a sign of weakness. When your marriage hits a snag, however, it is wisdom and preventive medicine to seek help early. Don’t let pride stop […]
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan While [spouses] can cling to the unconditional promise that they made at their wedding… this will require persistent effort.
Christian marriage is a covenant, not a contract. Contracts are 50/50 agreements in which rights are spelled out. Contracts can be broken if either party fails to fulfill their part. A covenant, however, is a sacred promise where each party gives 100%. Do you?
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan On their wedding day, the couple says a definitive “yes” to their vocation of marriage. Then the real work of marriage begins.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan Marriages and families are compelled, by their very nature, to contribute to the life of the Church and to the broader needs of society.
Friends bring out the best in each other. How does your spouse bring out the best in you? Compare notes.
From On Anthropological Foundation of the Family Address of Pope Benedict XVI at the Ecclesial Congress of the Diocese of Rome The of the right relationship between man and woman sinks its roots in the most profound essence of the human being.
The fifth decision-making strategy, Consensus, looks at the most likely solution and asks if both partners can live with the decision even if it isn’t perfect. If all else fails, there’s always, “Agree to Disagree.”
When conceding or compromises aren’t working, another decision-making strategy is Chance in which you flip a coin or play paper/rock/scissors. An even better approach, however, is to Create a new solution. In this way you create a win/win situation that satisfies you both. See tomorrow for more.
From On Anthropological Foundation of the Family Address of Pope Benedict XVI at the Ecclesial Congress of the Diocese of Rome One must begin to understand… the meaning that marriage and the family have in the plan of God, Creator and Savior.
A new study finds that higher education for women no longer puts them at a disadvantage for marrying. However, a “marriage gap” still persists, with college-educated couples more likely to be happily married and less likely to divorce.
From Address of Pope John Paul II at the Fourth World Meeting of Families The family founded on marriage is a patrimony of humanity, a great good of priceless value, necessary for the life, development, and future of peoples.
In couple decision-making one spouse can simply Concede to the other if it’s not something he or she feels strongly about. Compromise, however, is the more common strategy where both of you agree to meet in the middle. See tomorrow for more.
I will espouse you to me forever. I will espouse you in right and in justice, in love and in mercy. Hosea 2:21
Making joint decisions is both a skill and an art. One technique is called the Five C’s: Concede, Compromise, Chance, Create a new solution, and Consensus. See tomorrow for an explanation of the first two.
“Love is kind” (1 Cor. 13:4). Of course you want to be kind to your spouse; after all you love each other deeply. Today, however, try being kind to a stranger or enemy with a random act of kindness.