Archive for January, 2011
The flute and the harp offer sweet melody, but better than either, a voice that is true. Sirach 40:21
“[love] is not pompous, it is not inflated.” (1 Cor. 13:4) If you must boast, boast about your spouse. It’s a real boost to hear your honey say something nice about you in front of friends.
Wine and music delight the soul, but better than either, conjugal love. Sirach 40:20
Togetherness is great but, as Kahil Gibran reminds us, “let there be spaces in your togetherness.” Occasionally it’s good to have some time alone or with friends who share a hobby that your spouse doesn’t. Getting away from each other periodically can sweeten your reunion.
From Follow the Way of Love As you gather for a meal, you break bread and share stories, becoming more fully the community of love that Jesus calls us to be.
If time and expense were no barrier, what would your dream romantic encounter with your spouse look like? Fantasize together.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan Using pornography can quickly become an addiction that erodes trust and intimacy between husband and wife.
A cave-era couple stand looking at the huge dead beast that the husband has speared. With arms folded, the wife says to the husband. “This is mastodon. I told you to get mammoth.” (Sept 2007, The New Yorker Magazine) As my husband says, “Don’t complain unless you want to do the shopping.”
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan After they are married, couples are still themselves, with all their personal faults and failings.
Have Sarah and Daniel made any resolutions for the New Year? Read Sarah’s latest blog entry to find out.
(Weekly Date Idea) Wait for snow and give yourself permission to make snow angels or make a snowman. Don’t live in a snowy climate? Go roller blading or revisit your childhood by visiting a roller skating rink.
From On the Family Men should truly esteem and love women with total respect for their personal dignity.
(Epiphany) When Linda Stafford’s children were in a Christmas pageant her young “wise man” announced that they were bringing gifts of “gold, common sense and fur.” (Chicken Soup from the Soul) What’s your spouse’s idea of an ideal gift? Compare.
From On The Family The Church can and should help modern society by insisting that the work of women in the home be recognized and respected by all in its irreplaceable value.
Stacey reflects on hand-holding–with Josh, their children, and at Sunday Mass.
Did your household feel peaceful on Christmas morning? The new Archbishop of San Antonio offers some surprising thoughts on what “peace” really means. Plus, another church leader talks about grandparents and the link between generations.
Each married couple has a unique story. The author, a lay theologian, reflects on the meaning of love as he talks about his own marriage and its unexpected twists, including the adoption of two daughters from China.
Sometimes we’re more likely to express gratitude to a stranger than our spouse. Say “thank you” today for something your spouse did, even if it’s routine.
Sheepfolds and orchards bring flourishing health, but better than either, a devoted wife. Sirach 40:20
From Follow the Way of Love As primary teachers of your children, you impart knowledge of the faith and help them acquire values necessary for Christian living.
“Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it.” (Genesis 1:28) While most married couples desire children, some find that they are unable to have biological children. Marital fruitfulness also includes adoption, mentoring, and service to the community.
My faithful children: open up your petals, like roses planted near running waters. Sirach 32:19
From Follow the Way of Love To be able to share yourself –good and bad qualities–within a family and to be accepted is indispensable to forming a close relationship with the Lord.
For many this is the first day back at work in the New Year. Brighten your spouse’s day with a simple love note or a quick “thinking of you” phone call.
Thinking about taking down the Christmas decorations? We can be a bit sad as the holiday season draws to a close. Do the “un-decorating” together, then treat yourselves to the last of the eggnog.