Archive for March, 2011
Think of a way to be playful with your honey tomorrow. A little prank my husband’s been doing lately is to move a rubber ducky around to different spots in the house and wait for me to notice it. Bringing a smile to your beloved’s face doesn’t take diamonds, just a little creativity.
Justin’s getting nervous. Sara’s patience is wearing thin. Is The Proposal about to come?
“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing” (Albert Schweitzer). If you want to change your spouse, try changing yourself first. A change in you might provoke a change in your spouse.
Perhaps you’ve heard it before when you faced suffering in your life: “Offer it up.” It’s a hard saying, but what does it mean? How can “offering it up” help us to find meaning–and even joy–in our suffering?
How do you respond when your five-year-old asks for a drum set for his birthday? Stacey takes the request seriously and uses a “theology of discernment” to come up with a rather surprising answer.
“Enjoy life with the wife whom you love all the days of the fleeting life that is granted you” (Ecclesiastes 9:9). It’s all too easy to settle into marriage and presume that you will live a long life together. Hopefully you will. But for some life is fleeting. Today, treat your spouse as if it […]
“Divorce to like an amputation. Sometimes it’s necessary but it should be avoided if at all possible because it brings about a permanent disability” (Bill Doherty). As much as you value marriage, show compassion to friends who are divorced. They need your support, not your judgment.
“If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it’s because they take better care of it” (Cecil Selig). Marriages don’t grow on automatic pilot for long. Some steps for marriage care: Show genuine interest in what your spouse is interested it. Play together. Address problems swiftly and humbly.
“No matter how free divorce, how frequently marriages break up, in most societies there is the assumption of permanent mating…No known society has ever invented a form of marriage strong enough to stick that did not contain the ’till death us do part’ assumption” (Margaret Mead).
Every couple experiences conflict. The challenge is to deal with it and move on. A new study says that the ability to bounce back quickly from an argument bodes well for the relationship.
(Weekly Date Idea) Hang out at a bookstore. Browse through your favorite sections. Many bookstores have cozy reading spots or a café connected with them. Assume an erudite persona for an evening.
Of course you love your spouse and may even say, “I love you” frequently, but sometimes it’s nice to add something like, “I’m really glad I married you because…” It can be serious or humorous. It doesn’t matter as long as it’s true.
Will he or won’t he? Sara wants a marriage proposal, but Justin is holding back.
The author finds that airlines unwittingly offer some helpful parenting advice. Why do flight attendants tell passengers to take care of themselves before assisting others?
“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you” (Robert Fulghum). They watch you fight. They watch you make up. They watch you lie. They watch you complain about taxes but use the roads the taxes pay for. They watch you give to a beggar, or not.
Parenting doesn’t end when kids leave the nest–or even when they get married and become parents themselves. The author offers practical advice for developing an adult relationship with grown children.
A sport team’s record at the end of the season usually indicates its relative success. Josh writes that his son’s basketball team didn’t win a single game, but they succeeded in the ways that really count.
Does your parish offer Stations of the Cross? Many parishes do, especially during Lent. What is this popular devotion that continues to attract so many people?
“Be subordinate to one another” (Ephesians 5:21). We’re beyond the days of slavery but willingly serving each other is a grace of marriage. Depending on each spouse’s time and talents, sometimes the husband takes the lead and other times the wife. What is your spouse best at leading?
“You need only do three things in this country to avoid poverty – finish high school, marry before having a child, and marry after the age of 20. Only 8% of the families who do this are poor” (William Galston). If you’ve avoided poverty, how can you help those who haven’t?
“To get divorced because love has died is like selling your car because it’s run out of gas.” (Diane Sollee) So go buy some more gas! Marriage gas can be obtained at marriage enrichment events such as Marriage Encounter. Or plan a special get away.
(St. Joseph’s Day) St. Joseph is the patron saint of workers. In a working marriage both partners work hard – whether for pay or not. What’s the hardest part of your marriage? Ask St. Joseph for help.
(Weekly Date Idea) Go to a fish fry. They’re all over during Lent. The fish is not the point. Seeing a community work together to feed the multitudes is a miracle in itself. Are you a member of a faith community?
A new study finds that young adults value parenthood more than marriage. They’re less likely than older generations to link marriage and parenthood and more accepting of single parenting.
How do you know when you’ve met Mr. or Ms. Right? Sara says that for her and Justin it wasn’t one big moment, but “a million small things” that led to that conclusion.