Archive for March, 2011
Have you ever thought about how uniquely we approach a difficult situation when we know there is no other option? We put our heads together and keep working until we figure out a game plan. We get help. We pray. Sometimes, we hold our breath, muddle through until time passes and things change but we […]
(St. Patrick’s Day) St. Patrick used the shamrock to explain the Trinity. It can also describe the unity of married love – husband, wife, and God working together to create a lasting union. When you see shamrocks today think about the 3rd partner in your marriage.
Some decisions in marriage are self-evident or insignificant. When they aren’t and you’ve weighed all your options and are still stumped, most major moral decisions come down to: What is the life-giving and generous thing to do? Prayer can help you decide.
A broken dishwasher means the Noem family is washing dishes by hand. And that’s not all bad! Stacey reflects on some of the unexpected advantages.
“You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my beloved, as lovely as Jerusalem, as awe-inspiring as bannered troops. (Song of Songs 6:4.) Surely you can come up with better modern analogies to compliment your spouse today. Today, say at least one, “You are as beautiful (or handsome) as…”
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So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13
Perhaps we should tweak the golden rule to “Do unto others as THEY would have you do unto them.” A wife may find a gift of flowers endearing but that doesn’t mean the husband will. A husband may want a lot of physical affection but that might not be the wife’s primary love language.
If I have all faith so as to move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:2
Husband: “I TOLD you I bought a car. Didn’t you listen?” Wife: “I did listen but when you mumble I get tired of asking you to repeat things. I thought you said you ‘shot par’.” Sometimes when spouses don’t really hear a message they guess. Sometimes they guess wrong. Listen!
It’s nice to say, “I love you” to your beloved but the power of pen and paper adds a dimension of firmness to the statement. Try writing it in different ways – on a card for no reason or on the bathroom mirror.
From On Anthropological Foundation of the Family Address of Pope Benedict XVI at the Ecclesial Congress of the Diocese of Rome May the Family of Nazareth be for our families and our communities the object of constant and confident prayer as well as their life model.
Will Justin ever ask Sara out on a date? Sara tells how their relationship survived what proved to be a helpful separation.
Newlyweds are often told to take off the rose-colored glasses when thinking about their spouses. Otherwise, they risk disappointment when they find their spouse is imperfect. New research finds that this “conventional wisdom” may be wrong.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan [The Church cherishes marriage] as the school of a deeper humanity and a cradle of the civilization of love.
(Weekly Date Idea) Look through old photo albums and tell each other stories of your childhood and families. If you feel really energetic, make it a time to put all those loose photos in albums or on a disc. It’s a big job but your children will appreciate it one day.
As the effects of the Great Recession continue, many couples are struggling with unemployment and its consequent stress. But couples are not powerless in the face of job loss. Here are seven positive actions a couple can take.
“Ever felt like picking a fight with your spouse? Just say, ‘I’m cranky.’ They’ll ask why, and that’s when you get to let it all out – but more like a report instead of an attack. Your mate can be the comforter and you’ll still get to vent, but without the damaging consequences of a […]
From Address of Pope Benedict XVI at the Sixth World Meeting of Families The witness and public commitment of all the baptized is necessary to reaffirm the dignity and the unique, irreplaceable value of the family.
(From “Thriving Marriages” 2nd ed. by John Yzaguirre, Ph.D., and Claire Frazier-Yzaguirre, M.Div., M.F.T, New City Press, 2015. http://www.thrivingfamilies.com/) It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted or just putting up with each other. One husband described this bluntly: “When I get home my dog is the only one who seems […]
How can families live in–and enjoy–the present, when they’re usually rushing to the next activity? Josh explains how he and Stacey are trying to create some “open space” that allows them to connect more deliberately with the kids and with each other.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family Everyone is called to love, including spouses and families. In the Church everyone is called equally to perfect holiness.
(Ash Wednesday) “What! You aren’t giving anything up for Lent!” Consider giving up complaining or criticizing. Psychologists tell us it takes about three weeks of daily practice to create or break a habit.
Traditionally, the 40 days of Lent are a time of fasting, prayer and almsgiving (good works). Read more about these Lenten practices.
From Letter to Families from Pope John Paul II for 1994 – Year of the Family We need to pray that [married couples] will be faithful to their covenant with God.