Archive for April, 2011
(Palm Sunday) Palm Sunday reminds us that life is a roller coaster. One day we’re shouting “Alleluia.” Five days later we’re in the shock of death and grief on Good Friday. Just as marriage “highs” don’t last forever, neither do the “lows.” Be willing to ride the hills and valleys.
“What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?” (George Eliot). What might your spouse be struggling with today? Can you do anything to make it less difficult?
Sara and Justin reflect on how prayer has been part of their relationship.
Every Christian marriage is a sign of hope, says Archbishop of Canterbury Rowan Williams, who is about to preside at the wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton. He hopes the royal wedding will refocus society’s attention on the meaning and value of marriage.
How do you account for your money – joint or separate checking accounts? Be mindful that your money is always “ours.” It doesn’t matter who earns it, spending it should be a joint decision. Is yours?
Even if you’re right, you may be wrong to correct your spouse – especially in public. Some things are better done gently and in private. Besides, you might not be right either.
How does an adult convert enter the Catholic Church? Most go through a process called the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults (RCIA). Read what this involves.
“How beautiful you are, how pleasing, my love, my delight!” (Song of Songs 7:7) Tell your spouse something that you think is charming about him or her today. It can be appearance, personality, or an action.
Stacey becomes a fulltime stay-at-home mom while Josh is away. The experience gives her a new appreciation for those who sacrifice careers, and adult stimulation, to stay at home with small children.
Keeping up with your career need not be a full time job. Often couples wish they had more time for their family but are afraid of losing career advantages or brain cells if they quit. Consider part-time work or volunteering in your area of expertise.
Money arguments in marriage are not always about money. Often they are about power. Does the spouse who makes the most have the most say in how it’s spent? Is the person who has the higher income more important or more valuable? Is power the source of your tension?
Sara and Justin are beginning to learn that marriage involves compromise. One big issue: Where to live after they’re married.
Although stereotypes develop because there is a kernel of truth in them, resist stereotyping your marriage jobs. Yes, women can change the car’s oil and men can cook. Don’t let historical customs limit you from trying new things—unless you like it.
Give your spouse a free day (or half day). Take care of the kids and chores while your beloved is free to sleep in, shop, or do anything he/she wants. Perhaps you’ll get your turn later.
There is little disagreement that effective communication between a wife and husband contributes to marital happiness. What makes for effective communication in a marriage?
(Weekly Date Idea) Waiter’s Night. Pick a night to “wait” on your spouse. You get the drinks, the snacks, his/her slippers, favorite game, etc. You can even dramatize your role as servant. Just make sure that you alternate the favor sometime soon.
“The first duty of love is to listen” (Paul Tillich). Can you accurately repeat anything your spouse said earlier in the day? Check it out.
“[Love] is not quick-tempered.” (1 Cor. 13:5) A calm temperament comes more easily to some people than others. If you are the quick-tempered type work to slow down your anger. Wait to hear your spouse out before jumping to conclusions.
The proposal has been made and accepted. Now comes the hard part: planning a wedding on a budget. Sara and Justin learn they’ll have to make some compromises.
Whether you’re a couple with experience in praying together, or a couple who is just starting to do so, this book offers prayers to suit all situations. Its down-to-earth approach to spirituality makes this a valuable resource for couples who desire a deeper relationship with God and each other.
Recently Josh became a victim of theft. He recounts his feelings–anger, sadness, a feeling of being violated–and how he handled the difficult process of getting over them.
“Repair attempts are crucial and are highly predictive of marital happiness. They can be clumsy or funny, even sarcastic, but the willingness to make up after an argument, is central to every happy marriage” (SmartMarriages). How do you typically make up after a fight?
Easter’s just around the corner–a good time to think about going to confession. Haven’t been for a while? Don’t worry! Here are some resources that can help.
Sometimes it’s OK to talk behind your spouse’s back – at least when it comes to telling someone how well he handled a home repair or how deftly she finessed a troublesome neighbor. The compliment will eventually get back to your spouse and sound so sweet through the back door.
We’re halfway through Lent. How are you doing with your Lenten resolutions? Encourage each other to persevere.