Archive for May, 2011
“It is sometimes essential for a husband and a wife to quarrel – they get to know each other better.” (Goethe) Be wary of a couple who says they never fight or argue. They’re either lying, avoiding something, boring, or dead.
“A worthy wife brings joy to her husband, peaceful and full is his life.” (Sirach 26:2) How does your beloved bring you contentment and peace? Linger in each others’ arms a moment today and thank God for each other.
Out of a typical 24 hour day many spouses spend 8+ hours away at work, 7+ hours sleeping, and 2-8 on home and child care and other activities. That leaves only a short time to relate. Be present when you are present.
The words of the wedding vows matter, says Fr. Stephen Wang, a British theologian. He believes that young people are “longing to give themselves to something of lasting value.” The wedding vows express their sense that love demands a definitive, public promise.
Weekly Date Idea: Try a theme date like one around “quarters.” Think of all the things you can do that use quarters, like play a juke box, wash the car, take your picture together at a photo booth, play video games at an arcade.
Do Catholics “worship” Mary? What are some of the Church’s key beliefs about Mary? Read more about the first and greatest disciple of Jesus.
Sara’s lease is up and the packing and moving process has caused her to reflect on all her “stuff.” How can she live more simply and relate to those who have much less?
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day – 30,000 to a man’s 15,000. The wife replied, “That’s because we have to repeat everything to men.” The husband turned to his wife and asked, “What?”
“[Love] bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (1 Cor. 13:7) Whether your spouse has committed a big or little offense, search your heart for acceptance or forgiveness.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” (Mignon McLaughlin) What new relationship skill would enhance your current stage of marriage?
If you attend a Catholic Mass during the Easter season, you’ll hear a reading from the Acts of the Apostles. Why is this New Testament book unique and how does it speak to Christians today?
Josh comments on the TV show “Parenthood” and its recent theme of sexual relationships. Unfortunately, the show buys into the common myth that sex is a purely private matter with no public consequences.
“Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that’s a real treat.” (Joanne Woodward) What’s a funny thing your spouse said or did recently?
(Mother’s Day) Your spouse’s mother had an important influence on him or her becoming the person you love. Honor your mother-in-law today for giving birth to your beloved. What positive quality did your spouse learn from her?
Do you ever let your spouse sleep in while you take care of morning duties? Try it on a random day (other than Mother’s or Father’s Day) as a treat.
Weekly Date Idea: Visit your local zoo this weekend. Spring is often an especially engaging time since you’re likely to see some endearing zoo babies and glorious flowers.
The religious celebration of the marriage of Prince William and Catherine Middleton highlighted important truths about all marriages. Among others: A couple’s “great act of generous commitment” reminds us that commitment remains desireable and possible.
Sara and Justin go apartment-hunting and get a reality check. Some things on their wish list need to go!
Hopefully you say, “I love you” frequently to your spouse. Today, tell your parent, an aging relative, one of your kids, or a friend that you love them.
“Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.” (Zig Ziglar) Never undercut or blindside your spouse. The team will suffer.
Motherhood, says the author, is clearly a spiritual pursuit. It enlarges the ability to love so that one can spend eternity with a boundlessly loving God. Among other topics, Callahan looks at Christian perspectives on sexuality, including theology of the body; maternal dangers such as depression; balancing family and work; and joy and suffering.
32% of men and 23% of women say they typically bottle up their feelings during a marital spat – known as self-silencing. When women stay quiet it takes a surprising physical toll. So let her vent, men.
During the Easter Season, many liturgical readings focus on the activities of the Apostles and Disciples. Who are they and is there a difference?
Josh finds that attending Sunday Mass with small children is often not a transcendent experience. He talks about scaling back his expectations, plus finding ways to engage the children in the liturgy.
Usually a “do-it-yourself” approach saves money and can be more satisfying. For dual career couples, however, don’t be too proud to pay for services like cleaning, meals, etc. This buys you time.