Archive for June, 2011
On June 24 Governor Cuomo signed into law a bill legalizing same sex marriage in New York. The state’s bishops called the new law a “radical act of social engineering.” Bishop Salvatore Cordileone, chairman of the Subcommittee for the Promotion and Defense of Marriage, said the law represents an “abandonment of the common good.”
Climate change can be a boon to your marriage. If you feel frustrated with each other, try changing the environment. Cool off if it’s too hot. Warm up if you’re freezing. Light some candles if you’re depressed.
Sara and Justin were united in the Sacrament of Marriage on June 25. While they enjoy their honeymoon, guest blogger Fr. Matthew Rolling, who officiated at the wedding, shares his reflections.
(Reader’s Tip) Make little sacrifices for your spouse. “I shoveled my driveway, walk and porch so my husband, who has a bad hip, did not have to. I had fun doing it, offering it up as I shoveled.”
Sexual intimacy is a key part of a marriage. Josh offers a few insights on sex and sexuality that he and Stacey have gained over the years.
Marriage Challenge (16-25 years): As a member of the “sandwich generation” be consoled that you can never fully meet the needs of both your kids and your own parents. Relax.
“Fighting For Your Marriage” has become a classic since its publication in 1994. In this new edition, the authors encourage couples to protect their marriage by working on the positives and to follow “ground rules” for discussing difficult topics.
Marriage Challenge (16-25 years): Balancing couple, parent, work, and personal time: Which one gets the least attention in your marriage? Fix it.
Today is the feast of the Body and Blood of Christ. In holy matrimony we join our bodies and remember that Christ gives us his body to strengthen us in the Eucharist. May this holy bread remind us to feed each other and all those who hunger in our world.
If your child (or spouse) has a problem and wants your input, but you are caught off guard, try saying “Tell me more about that.” or “What do you think you should do?” Responses like this can buy you time and clarify the situation.
A new report from Boston College finds that balancing home and work is not just a women’s issue. Fathers, too, are struggling to have it all. They want more time at home and with their children, but career advancement remains an important goal.
(Reader’s Tip) “Don’t let mistakes ruin your relationships. Put them behind you, so you can move on and grow stronger together.”
Sara shares final reflections before she walks down the aisle on Saturday. She admits that she’s excited, nervous, anxious and sad–all at the same time.
Couples often have different time clocks. Is one of you often ready to walk out of the house while the other is still deciding what to wear? Do you need to talk about these differences?
Marriage Challenge (8-15 years): If you desire children but are not yet parents, tenderly support each other. Consider how your love may flow out to others needing your generosity.
A birthday often causes us to reflect on how quickly time passes. Josh pauses to savor the blessings of family life.
Today is the official beginning of summer and the longest day of the year. Take advantage of the daylight and do something fun, foolish, or refreshing. Maybe run through a sprinkler together or soak your honey with a squirt gun.
Is the end of the world near? How can we know? Catholics believe that we are already living in the End Times. Father Larry Rice explains why.
Marriage Challenge (8-15 years): If you have a child(ren), the challenge is to negotiate child care responsibilities and still have the energy to be lovers. Consider starting the custom of a weekly date.
Greet one another with a holy kiss” (2 Cor. 13:12). There are kisses and there are kisses. Some cultures greet even strangers with a kiss on both cheeks, some simply bow. The marital kiss is special. Pay attention to how you kiss each other today.
“We are responsible for the process we use in parenting, not the outcome. Our children have free will and can choose their own paths, even destructive ones. We can guide but we can’t control. Sometimes all we can do is pray” (Susan Vogt).
The Church’s lofty vision of marriage can sometimes seem hard to grasp. Does it really relate to ordinary married life? Two bishops show how this vision is rooted in, and gives meaning to, the real lives of real people.
“In a healthy family life we experience some of the fundamental elements of peace: justice and love between brothers and sisters” (Pope Benedict XVI). How peaceful is your relationship?
“Why” questions can be an obstacle during marital arguments because they can sound accusatory. “Why did you do that?” “Why don’t you just…” Be careful of “Why” questions disguised as innocent queries.
Problems are part of every marriage. The U.S. Catholic Bishops have identified a variety of resources to help couples with marital difficulties–everything from skills-building programs and support groups to professional counseling.