Archive for July, 2011
(Reader’s Tip) Be humble. Thank God every day for the blessing of your spouse.
What contributes to marital success? The authors find five keys to intimacy: communication, couple closeness, couple flexibility, personality compatibility and conflict resolution. The book explains each one, includes exercises that couples can do together, and offers a free “Couple Checkup” to purchasers.
The Big Day has finally arrived! Sara and Justin recount the events leading up to their wedding, including missing groomsmen, wilted flowers and uncooperative weather.
Some spouses need to bite their tongues more; others need to loosen their tongues and share more. Which are you? With time, hopefully you become like Goldilocks and find the middle ground that is “just right.”
Will the real Mary Magdalene please stand up? We don’t know much about this saint, whose feast we celebrate on July 22. She probably wasn’t as portrayed in “The Da Vinci Code,” “Jesus Christ Superstar” or “The Passion of the Christ.” What we do know is that she was a woman of faith who stood by Jesus to the end.
“Your life is more than your work and your work is more than your job” (from the song by the same name by Charlie King). Is your job getting in the way of your family relationships? Both are important but as another song puts it, “Can’t buy me love.”
In a recent pastoral letter, Bishop Alexander Sample of Marquette, Michigan says that the permanent deacon “preaches” by the witness of his marriage and family life.The deacon’s family “will model what a Christian family is” in the heart of the parish, says Bishop Sample.
Marriage Challenge (41 years and up) Aches and pains are inevitable but remind yourself daily that you still have a spouse to love, and who loves you.
Stacey explores the difference a shift in perspective can make to the mixed bag of events that life can dish out – especially during family vacations.
Marriage Challenge (41 years and up): Humbly offer your life’s wisdom for the good of others. You may not know how to tweet, but your experience is priceless.
“You shall indeed hear but not understand” (Isaiah 6:9). People can fool themselves. A spouse might be quiet, as if listening, but not necessarily understand the meaning behind your words. Some are better at this than others. Check out the true message.
“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing” (Albert Schweitzer). Is there a trait that you would like to foster in your spouse or child? How can you model that behavior this week in your own life?
(Reader’s Tip) Make time for a “speed date”—any small amount of time you have alone. Walking from the car to the store could be a speed date. Hold hands. Laugh together.
Does your spouse accuse you of being irresponsible? Sometimes it might just be a different personality style, but don’t ignore the criticism. Failure to address any truth that might be behind the charge can be terminal.
Sara and Justin are back from their honeymoon. In this week’s entry, Sara recounts the days leading up to the wedding. It was a little more stressful than she had imagined!
Marriage Challenge (26-40 years): While you may have settled into a comfortable lifestyle, routines can get boring. Try something new together.
Even in the best marriages, conflicts erupt. Don’t let an argument, whether it’s big or small, damage your relationship. Keep in mind these tips to ensure a “fair fight.”
Marriage Challenge (26-40 years): Careers are often at their height while every day parenting is ending. Forgive yourself for any parenting regrets.
(Independence Day) What does it mean to be “free” in a marriage? It certainly doesn’t mean that we’re free to have an affair or do whatever we please. Rather, we freely chose our spouse and freely choose to continue loving.
“Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened, and I will give you rest” (Mt 11:28). Although our culture does not always support it, scripture tells us that Sundays are a day of rest. Take time to recreate and relax with your beloved today.
Are you a perfectionist? It’s natural to want to do a good job but don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. If your spouse advises you to “lighten up” it might be good counsel.
Newly-married couples, when you find yourselves in a crisis…recognize that divorce is not inevitable and is certainly not your only option” (Follow the Way of Love).