Archive for August, 2011
Author Christopher de Vinck gratefully contemplates the people, events and things of daily life. Our reviewer says: “Readers are likely to come upon a few mirror images of themselves in this book’s pages.”
(The Assumption) Mary’s “Yes” was the vehicle for God’s entry into human history. But passion, death and resurrection were still to come. Your “I do” was only the beginning of your marriage.
“A Canaanite woman … called out, “Have pity on me, Lord! … My daughter is tormented by a demon” (Mt 15:22). Jesus healed the daughter. Sometimes it is our intense love for our children that drives us to seek God. Let a child be a vehicle of grace for you today.
Procrastination. The Christian Family Movement suggests: If not now, when? If not me, who? If not here, where? Are you putting something off until the kids are older or the house paid for? Relationships don’t always wait.
Bishop Kevin Rhoades, chairman of the Committee on Laity, Marriage, Family Life and Youth, addressed a first-ever Marriage Summit convened by the National Association of Catholic Family Life Ministers. He identified four cornerstones that are essential for a “marriage-building” church.
Sara and Justin, married for one month, have just completed their first major purchase together. What did they buy and how did they go about it?
(Reader’s Tip) Little gestures can get the day off to a good start. Fix your spouse a cup of coffee or compliment your spouse’s appearance.
Do you talk too much? As necessary as communication within the family is, sometimes spouses and children can tune you out if you tend to be long winded. This is not something you can self-diagnose. Ask your honey or kids. Avoid TMI (Too Much Information).
“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes!” (Jack Handey) To curb the urge to criticize your beloved, you may need a little distance and perspective.
On Monday, August 15, Catholics celebrate the Assumption of Mary into heaven. It’s one of six Holy Days of Obligation in the Catholic Church. Do you know the others?
Even if you’re newly married, try fantasizing about what it will be like to grow old together. As Robbie Hart sings in the “The Wedding Singer, I’ll “carry you around when your arthritis is bad…get your medicine when your tummy aches…even let ya hold the remote control.”
“Family life has softened my heart a good bit,” writes Stacey. For example, since she became a mother Stacey looks at movies in a whole different light.
Although it’s risky to assume your spouse can read your mind, a perceptive spouse can pick up negative feelings and attitudes through vibes and non-verbals. If you hold a negative thought toward your spouse (nag, selfish, jerk) try changing your mind; the feelings may follow.
Just as Elijah recognized the Lord in a “tiny whispering sound” (1 Kings 19:13) so we must attune ourselves to the sometimes subtle signals our spouse gives of distress, warmth, concern. Learn to read between the lines.
How do you use the “waiting” times of your life? Waiting for your spouse to get dressed or put on makeup? Waiting at the doctor’s office, red lights, commercials, or check out lanes? Use these as a prompt to pray rather than getting impatient.
The next World Meeting of Families, to be held May 30-June 2, 2012 in Milan, Italy, is certain to discuss the question: Are couples today successfully balancing the demands of their life at home with the demands of their jobs outside the home?
“In a healthy family life we experience some of the fundamental elements of peace: the role of authority expressed by parents” (Pope Benedict XVI). Do you back each other up when you exercise authority over your children?
Sara relates some of her and Justin’s experiences on their honeymoon and reflects a little on their first month of married life!
Couples who have a television in their bedroom have sex half as often as those who don’t (2006 Ladies Home Journal study). TV’s are not bad; neither is sex. Just don’t let the TV substitute for cuddling and intimacy.
Saying ‘I love you” out loud is important, but sometimes indirect gestures of love carry an even stronger impact. Be creative. Put your love in writing as a love letter or a short “sweet note” hidden in some unexpected place where your beloved will find it.
Attending the wedding of friends causes Josh to think about the different “moments” that make a marriage.
Even though married couples share an intimate life together, sometimes talking directly about sex can feel awkward. Learning Natural Family Planning gives you language and a daily routine to prompt those sensitive discussions. Try it. You’ll like it.
Why does the Catholic Church normally expect couples to get married in church? Fr. Rice explains that while the park or the country club may be beautiful, a Catholic wedding requires sacred space.
Because “difficult times visit every marriage,” the goal of “Stress-Proof Your Marriage” is to strengthen couples “so that when life’s challenges happen, [a] marriage will bend, not break.”
(Reader’s Tip) “Pray together! We pray at meals and before bed…sometimes he prays over me when he leaves for work in the morning—we pray for our marriage, our family/friends, and intentions.”