Archive for October, 2011
Research says it takes five positive comments to counteract one negative. Try keeping track for one day. If you have children and they’re old enough, maybe they’d like to take part in the count.
(Reader’s Tip) “I use free media to express my feelings for him. For example, I will send him an e-card in the middle of the day. Or I might plan a home date and make an Evite just for him.”
Catholicism can be lived out in many ways. Members of the Catholic Worker Movement, founded by Dorothy Day ini 1933, commit themselves to voluntary poverty, prayer and non-violence. Their houses of hospitality provide food and shelter to thousands of people each year.
Balancing home and work is a major issue for most couples.But how they manage their work within the home can have long-term effects on each spouse’s health.
Sara and Justin are thinking about buying a house. Are they ready for the responsibilities of home ownership?
Fighting Fair Tip: Pick a good time. That probably means not when one spouse is about to leave the house or just getting home from work. Sleep deprived or frantically busy spouses don’t make receptive listeners either. When is a good time for you?
Who usually has the final word in an argument or family decision? If it doesn’t balance out, check if one of you is taking unfair advantage of the other. Somebody may be talking too much.
Josh has started to make his daily commute on foot. He describes the blessing of having silent, uninterrupted time to reflect.
Have you ever sought professional help for troubles between you? Perhaps you don’t need it, but don’t let pride or procrastination rob you of the chance to learn new skills and heal.
What prompts your beloved to cry? Nothing? Anything? A sad movie? How do you usually respond? Is it a welcome response?
“I know indeed how to live in humble circumstances; I know also how to live with abundance.” (Philippians 4:12) St. Paul gives us this lifestyle wisdom probably earned by receiving hospitality of many different kinds. Does one of you need or desire more creature comforts than the other?
Learn something from a child today. From an infant it might be to let others care for you. A school age child might offer a technology tip, and a teen can recommend a cutting edge movie.
New research finds that stress in a marriage may not be all bad. A couple who successfully handles moderate stresses early in a marriage can be better prepared for major stresses later on.
Sara tries to balance home and work responsibilities and wonders if she’s pulling her weight on the domestic front. She’s learning to appreciate all that Justin does to enable her to minister in the parish.
“Marriage is a give-and-take experience, involving hurt and forgiveness, failure and sacrifice” (Follow the Way of Love). What have you given to your marriage today? What have you taken?
What is your role in marital disputes – the problem solver, peacemaker, challenger? Are you satisfied with how you solve disagreements? If not, it’s easy to get helpful ideas from this website.
Stacey reflects on how the Jesuit Volunteers has helped to shape her family’s values. Each of the values, she says, is about relationship: to material goods, to God, to others, and to those who are marginalized.
Gifts on birthdays and Christmas are fine, but a surprise trinket/flowers may be even more delightful.
How do you use the “waiting” times of your life? Waiting for your spouse to get dressed or put on makeup? Waiting at the doctor’s office, red lights, commercials, or check out lanes? Use these times to pray rather than getting impatient.
The For Your Marriage campaign has launched a new round of TV and radio public service announcements with the theme, “A good marriage goes a long way.” The campaign is a major activity of the U.S. Catholic Bishops’ priority to strengthen marriage.
How many children should we have? It’s a key question for married couples. Although the Church reminds couples to be open to life, she also respects the physical, financial, and emotional requirements of raising children. Balance generosity and prudence.
“Have no anxiety at all…if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (Philippians 4:6-8) What do you feel anxious about today? Sharing it can lessen its power. Look for a positive thought to balance your anxiety.
It’s usually easy to pray for our own children. Their needs are so apparent to us. October is Respect Life Month. Pray today, not only for your own children, but for all children in our world, both born and unborn, and for all lives that are threatened or suffering.