Archive for November, 2011
Traditional advice to newlyweds: Never go to a place you wouldn’t take your wife. Don’t go to bed angry. Argue naked. Always part and greet with a kiss. What advice would you give a newly married couple?
“When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls.” (Proverbs 31:10) Describe the value of your wife in poetic terms today. If you are the wife, try filling in the blank: When one finds a worthy husband, his value is far beyond _______.
Boredom and frustration are part of life. Let your children experience both so that they can learn how to handle it. develop the skills to overcome them. Don’t rescue too quickly. Discipline differences between you as parents may be the bigger challenge.
(Reader’s Tip) A priest said in a homily that we should treat our spouse as we did our youngest child: Smile when they enter the room, hang on their every word, laugh at the joke you’ve heard five times before.
Do emotional or internet affairs count? YES. They are painful because you’re giving your best self to another person and cheating your spouse out of your energy. It’s often the first step toward physical infidelity. Pour your energy into making this marriage work.
Football season’s in full swing, and Justin and Sara are not always cheering for the same team. Sara reflects on the rituals surrounding their teams, and wonders if they’re stronger than those that surround her Catholic faith.
Fighting Fair Tip: Hold hands. It may sound corny but try holding hands when discussing something sensitive. It physically reminds you that you may disagree about something, but you’re still connected and committed to each other.
(Election Day) Do you and your spouse have similar or different political views? Just as serious political and religious differences challenge our country, they can also stress a marriage. Seek the common good, not just my good.
Stacey finds that she’s entered a new phase of parenthood, as the mother of three school-age children. She reflects on letting go of what she knows how to do and embracing a new identity.
What do you think your spouse’s most cherished personal possession is? Check it out. Were you right?
“Resplendent and unfading is Wisdom” (Wisdom 6:12). What’s the wisest thing you’ve done so far in your life (other than marrying your beloved)? How is your spouse wise?
One way to prepare your children for a healthy marriage is to let them see you courting and being romantic with each other. Within the bounds of propriety, a little playfulness helps them see the wholesomeness of married life.
Remarriage following a death or divorce raises difficult issues, some of which are unique to second marriages. This small book covers everything from dealing with loss and guilt to creating a blended family.
A new research report says that many divorces are preventable, and children and society could benefit if these couples had a second chance.
Justin and Sara get some much-needed time for relaxation: A visit with Sara’s parents, the fun of Halloween, and the inspiration of All Saints Day.
More and more, fathers have been discovering how their involvement in parenting enriches both their children and themselves. (Follow the Way of Love, USCCB)
What does your spouse do that makes you laugh? Often it’s the silly idiosyncrasies or foibles that can be special secrets between you.
Spiritual Direction is one of the Church’s great resources. Could you benefit from having a spiritual director? One wise director observes that spiritual direction is “always useful and sometimes necessary.”
(All Soul’s Day) Do you know much about your spouse’s deceased relatives? Spend some time remembering and telling stories about the people in each other’s past. They may not have been perfect, but they are all in the family.
(All Saints Day) Today the Catholic Church honors all saints known and unknown. Look for a saintly quality in your spouse. Is he or she generous, humble, self-sacrificing, courageous…Celebrate the saint you are living with today.