Archive for January, 2012
The stress of trying to sell their house is getting to Josh and Stacey. Then Stacey finds an unexpected way to bring a little joy and laughter to their situation.
(Reader’s Tip) E-mail or write one or two positives to your spouse every day. They are worth the time!
The Church’s social teaching is always relevant, but many seem to discover it only during election years. Here’s a brief introduction to its main principles.
“The deepest insecurity for women is the fear of isolation and deprivation, and for men it’s a dread of failure and shame.” (Kristin Taveira) Does this ring true for you? Check it out with each other.
In 2 Samuel, we hear of King David giving into lust for Bathsheba and then covering it up. To find another sexually attractive is not bad in itself, but don’t put yourself in places of needless temptation. Put your energy into the one you vowed to love.
Do kids drain you of so much energy that you just want to stay home and veg out on a Saturday night? Consider sharing kids! Offer to take another couple’s child one night to give them a break. Then trade the favor the next week.
Many church leaders believe that individualism runs against the grain of marriage. One problem, they say, is that it fosters a focus on oneself. While spouses need to grow as individuals and as a couple, the hope is that they will grow with and through each other.
“Within your family, when you shun violent words and actions and look for peaceful ways to resolve conflict, you become a voice for life” (Follow the Way of Love).
What does it mean to say that someone has been excommunicated from the Catholic Church? This penalty is incurred for specific public acts that the Church finds singularly offensive. But no one is beyond the reach of God’s grace and mercy.
Carol and Howard Joynt were enjoying life as a Washington power couple. Then Howard died unexpectedly and Carol found that his financial secrets could cost her everything she owned.
How true are the stories one hears about pregnancy? Before becoming pregnant, Sara says that she discounted most of them. Now she’s discovering that they contain more than a little truth.
Sometimes spouses have different conversation goals. I might raise an issue because I want to complain about how something didn’t work. My husband used to think I wanted him to explain why it didn’t work or try to fix it. Now I just say, “Hey, I want to ventilate.”
Sometimes it’s worth doing something with your honey, just because it pleases the other person. For example, watch her favorite movie or his favorite sport, try dancing together, take a lesson…
There are people in our midst who quietly go about doing thankless jobs like cleaning the toilet, changing sheets, stocking grocery shelves, picking up other people’s garbage, or working in a fast food restaurant. Thank someone for making your life easier. Maybe it’s your spouse.
In preparation for their big move, Stacey and Josh have just put their house on the market. And they’re looking for a little saintly help…
“Where you put your time, you put your life.” (Clayton Barbeau) This week is “Take Back Your Time Week”. What are your deepest values–your spouse, your children, your faith? Does the way you spend your time reflect these? If not, why not?
“Then they abandoned their nets and followed [Jesus].” (Mk 1:18) The apostles were ready to leave their work to follow Jesus. Work is necessary but can steal time needed for our vocation – marriage. Ask your spouse if your work is in balance.
“Taking time to rest is not a waste of time.” (Susan Vogt) Give yourself a break today or tomorrow – from kids, a chore, worries. It doesn’t have to be long to refresh. Take your cue from God, our creator, who rested on the seventh day.
For most couples, preparing the family budget is a chore. One financial writer suggests another perspective: It’s a good way for husband and wife to spend some quality time alone with each other.
(Reader’s Tip) Every year on our anniversary we watch our wedding video together.
Less than a week after moving into their new house, Justin and Sara get a nasty reminder about the “joys” of home ownership. How does it affect their relationship?
Winning an argument is not about proving you’re right. It’s not YOUR problem or MY problem. It’s OUR problem. Sometimes the marriage can win if you lose.
“Take heart, it is I; do not be afraid.” (Mt 14: 27) This is only one of the many times Jesus reminds his disciples not to be afraid. We are human, however, and we still have fears. What are you afraid of? What courageous thing have you done? Share your fears with your beloved.
I have to admit, I think the resolution to try to make Joshua as happy as possible this year is a very worthy endeavor. So much so, that I have actually decided to adopt it as my New Year’s resolution.
Did you have a dream last night? Recently? You say you seldom remember dreams? Try to remember tonight’s dream. You may be surprised. Share your scariest dream with your spouse.