Archive for February, 2012
(Valentine Day) What’s the most romantic trip you can take? Perhaps it’s a trip down memory lane. On this day of love, remember how you met, your first date, your first kiss, your proposal/acceptance, your first night as a married couple…
What’s your spouse’s favorite treat? See if you guessed right. Now you’ve got a plan; it’s just a matter of when you surprise your beloved with it.
(World Marriage Day) Renew your vows today or on Valentine’s Day. “I _____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”
As Valentine Day approaches, give your spouse a gift of memory. If you haven’t already, memorize your wedding vows. Few people like to memorize but it’s a way to keep your vow always in mind. Try it. The wedding vows will be tomorrow’s tip.
It’s easy to be committed to a marriage when it’s meeting your needs. But what happens when you’re not getting what you want out of a relationship? Researchers discover a “second dimension” of commitment that can keep the marriage afloat.
(Reader’s Tip) Say the Lord’s Prayer every night before going to sleep. And live it the next day!
A movie, a simple request from a colleague, a homecoming story–all these have been enough to get Sara crying. She talks about coping with her up and down emotions.
An easy way to deepen your marriage today: Find one interesting tidbit (article, blog entry, exercise…) on www.foryourmarriage.org and share it with your spouse. This Tip doesn’t count.
“In these hectic, hurry-up, stressful times, every couple we know – including ourselves – is rushing around to get more done in less time,” say the authors. “Life in the fast lane inevitably means less time with the one you love.” Read how couples can maximize their time together.
Fighting Fair Tip: Keep it current. One couple has the rule of thumb that any issue older than the milk in the refrigerator is no longer game. Recurring arguments usually mean that there’s something behind the presenting problem that irks the other.
Look at your beloved’s hands. Then, try eating with your non-dominant hand today. (Remember that some people have no hands or disabled hands.) Everyone’s gifts and talents are different. Cherish the ways that you and your spouse are “differently abled.”
Josh is fuming after neighborhood pranksters wrecked the snowman that he and the kids built. He’s all set for revenge–until his thoughts take a decidedly different turn.
High school biology is good – but not sufficient for the more important medical decisions we make in life. Learning Natural Family Planning as a couple can update and deepen your knowledge of how the female body works. Information is always helpful.
“They brought to [Jesus] all who were ill.” (Mk 1:32) How do you like to be treated when you are ill? Do you want to be left alone or fussed over? What about your spouse? Don’t assume that what you like is what your beloved would like. Ask.
What trait most annoys you about your spouse? He/she probably already knows it. Let it go.
The Australian Catholic Bishops’ Conference encourages married couples to use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to affirm marriage and life-long romantic love. They urge couples to practice “smart loving,” that is, knowing the way one’s spouse likes and needs to be loved.
(Reader’s Tip) I sing to him whenever he needs a little encouragement. Love songs work really well.
As Justin awaits the birth of his and Sara’s child, he observes, “I have noticed how different the experience of “expectation” is for me as a man versus the experience for Sara as a woman.” Read how Justin is dealing with the reality of a baby and the prospect of greater responsibility.
(Ground Hog Day) Today it is customary for the groundhog to look for its shadow. Psychologists like to talk about recognizing our shadow side – our weaker traits. Identify one of your weaknesses. Does your spouse balance that with a corresponding strength? Vice-versa?
(Black History Month) What is your ethnic heritage? Is it similar or different from your spouse? February is Black History Month. No matter what your race, it’s interesting to learn about your ethnic heritage. Are there any ethnic traits that you carry into your relationship?