Archive for April, 2012
Catholic social teaching has been called the Church’s best-kept secret. This week we begin a four-part series on the principles of CST.
(Reader’s Tip) I look my husband in the eyes when he is telling me a story. I really pay attention and try to be present.
“No one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but they had everything in common.” (Acts 4: 32) What’s your attitude toward his money and her money? Does it matter who earns it? Does one of you have more say in how it’s spent than the other?
If you want someone to change, encouragement is more effective than criticism. Look for one thing about your spouse or child’s behavior that you can compliment today.
This year the meditations for the 14 Stations of the Cross in Rome where composed by Danilo and Annamaria Zanzucchi, an Italian couple who have been married for 59 years. The couple “wanted to make sure that these texts bore the mark of a lived Christian experience and, at the same time, reflected our understanding of the Passion as it has developed through years of contact with thousands of couples.”
“We need to care for the environment: it has been entrusted to men and women to be protected…with the good of all as a constant guiding criterion” (Pope Benedict XVI)
Doing one’s taxes might be stressful, but Sara and Justin find it’s an opportunity to see how much they’ve grown together since their marriage.
Take a trip down Memory Lane. Retell the story of your engagement and wedding day to each other or your kids. What was the craziest, funniest, most endearing part of these milestones for you?
Fighting Fair Tip: Use “I feel” statements. This is an old standby but it still works. Instead of saying, “You make me so angry when you…” say, “I feel upset when you… Would you be willing to …” It’s not a magic cure but it decreases defensiveness.
Josh and Stacey have finally found a buyer for their house in Oregon. But with the deal about to close, a major hitch develops. Will God show them a way through all this?
Is the internet robbing you of couple time? Sure it saves time and answers a lot of questions, but it can also be an addiction. If your spouse complains about it, it’s a problem. Decide on mutually agreeable limits.
What’s your favorite thing you like to see your spouse wear? Maybe it’s time for a shopping trip.
(Easter) Celebrate new life today! Recall a hardship in your marriage that is now history. Rejoice that you’ve weathered it together. Remember this, and Jesus’ resurrection, in future tough times.
(Holy Saturday) Forgiveness was instant with Jesus. It may take the rest of us longer. Open your heart to the possibility.
(Good Friday) “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34) Do you need to ask forgiveness from your spouse? Maybe you need to offer it. If there’s nothing recent to forgive, forgive someone you’ve been holding a grudge against.
For the Catholic Church, the Easter Vigil is its most important feast. Participants joyously celebrate Christ’s rising from the dead and welcome new members into the Church. But the Easter Vigil doesn’t just celebrate something God did in the past; it also celebrates what God is doing in our lives today.
(Holy Thursday) A meal is a holy thing to share. Who cooks, prepares the table, or cleans up in your family? Who leads a prayer? Share it all.
While the Pope’s message about marriage and family may be familiar to U.S. Catholics, it may not be well-known in Cuba, where the Church has had little access to the media.Other themes during the recent papal trip included religious freedom, human dignity, and the contribution the church’s values make to society, so that the Church does not threaten society.
As her pregnancy advances, Sara and Justin have many questions: Should Sara continue to work outside the home? How will they pass on the faith to their child? Sara reflects: “At times when I am anxious, I look at our crucifix and it puts it all into perspective.”
(Reader’s Tip) I remember my wife and kids every day in the special intentions after praying the rosary.
Parents-In-law can be a great support both practically and emotionally to a young married couple, but the negative jokes and stereotypes about in-laws aren’t created out of thin air. If there’s in-law tension in your marriage, remember that you both love the same person.
Is God always present and active in family life? The authors believe so. Their many stories reaffirm their belief that only the hand of God explains the outcome of key events in their lives.
As the Church prepares to celebrate the feast of the ordained priesthood on Holy Thursday, Stacey reflects on the priesthood of all the faithful. She writes: “I have a priestly sacrifice to prepare in tending to this week’s details of family life and bearing hardships patiently.”
Working together on decisions and projects is what marriage is all about. Are there any decisions that you leave only to your spouse? Don’t let family planning be one of them. Cooperate with each other and with God.
(Palm Sunday) From the ecstasy of Palm Sunday to the crucifixion on Good Friday, it all seems so foolish and surreal. Is your life ever like this rollercoaster? How do you calm each other in the midst of joy and tragedy?