Archive for May, 2012
This week Justin and Sara discuss keeping perspective in the midst of the ups and downs of pregnancy – and home improvement!
The Trinity is a central doctrine of Christianity, but most Christians struggle to explain it. Fr. Rice offers some helpful insights.
Rita Boeke tells of how she played a practical joke on her husband, Bob, by filling his car with balloons when he was a teacher. (Forever And A Day) Can you think of a practical joke that would bring a smile to your beloved – and not get you in trouble?
Whose fault was your last fight? Maybe it clearly was one of you, but more often it’s a combination of misunderstanding, forgetting to do something, and spouses having different expectations. To resolve an argument look at what you contributed more than what your spouse did wrong.
At the beginning of this season of graduations – and farewells – Stacey reflects on surrender and discernment through the Gospel of John.
Is your own marriage strong and happy? Good. Perhaps it’s time to give back by mentoring engaged couples or becoming involved with marriage ministry in your parish.
(Memorial Day) Memorial Day is a time for picnics and parades. Have you or any of your relatives served in the armed services? For whom and for what cause would you give your life?
“Now there were devout Jews from every nation under heaven…but each one heard them speaking in his own language.” (Acts 2:5-6) Do either of you know a foreign language? You don’t have to be fluent to welcome an immigrant. Say hello to someone who is different from you today.
“To listen carefully to one another, especially those who disagree with me, and to consider others’ feelings and needs rather than insist on having my own way.” (#3, Family Pledge of Nonviolence) Could your family say “Yes” to this? World peace begins at home.
Good communication is essential in marriage, but the lack of common values can be a deal breaker. An experienced marriage educator observes: “If the values are significantly different, it’s unlikely that even the best communication will be enough.”
A good argument can be a labor of love. Have something sensitive or difficult to talk about with your spouse? Try holding hands and maintaining direct eye contact when you are having a discussion about a disagreement.
Spring is the season of confirmations. Confirmation is a Catholic sacrament, but it’s also seen as a rite of passage. Fr. Rice explains why these two realities can be in tension.
Even though married life is challenging, couples can still aspire to holiness. This new book shows how couples can use the Beatitudes to develop a more loving attitude.
It’s probably no surprise that couples argue the most about money. But what three money-related issues cause the most conflict?
Justin attends an out-of-town wedding without Sara, and the experience reminds him of his “carefree” single days. Is he ready for the added responsibility of parenthood?
What lifts up your spirit? A funny story, a good meal, a hug, a compliment? Lift up each other today. You may not be Jesus and able to ascend into heaven, but you never know how much time you have left together.
“Marriage is a public good, not just a private relationship. We have a public stake in healthy marriages and two-parent families. Our society suffers with the collapse of the relationship of the couple who brings a child into the world.” (Bill Doherty) Support other’s marriages too.
Bedtime stories are a favorite tradition in the Noem household. Josh writes, “In the Little House on the Prairie series, I’m finding an avenue to develop a moral imagination with our kids—the capacity to wonder about how their lives might be different.”
Let fire reignite your love. Try a candlelit dinner, sitting in front of a fireplace, or light the house with candles. Be creative. Don’t forget to talk.
Consider taking an adult education class together. It could be on technology, a book club, marriage enrichment, a scripture study, or learning more about your faith. Don’t have time to go to a class? Send each other informative emails.
“God is love, and whoever remains in love remains in God and God in him.” (1Jn 4:16) Some people quibble over who is saved and who is worthy to be considered a Christian. Look for the love. Would others know you were a Christian without you telling them?
“It takes a certain quantity of time to catch the quality times. The time it takes to listen to a child’s worry may take less than a minute. Being there when the worry comes up may involve an entire day of just being around.” (Susan Vogt) Same goes for spouses.
(Reader’s Tip) I make a pot of coffee every morning, put two cups on a tray with a smattering of M&M’s…and deliver it to her when she steps out of the shower.
This year the Vatican’s World Meeting of Families, to be held in Milan, will focus on the relationship between work and the family. The Meeting will call attention both to workplace goals and the goals of family life apart from work, especially on Sundays and holidays
Sara has gotten a lot of advice during her pregnancy. One piece, offered by a good friend, sticks in her mind: Nothing can truly prepare one for parenthood and how hard it’s going to be.