Archive for July, 2012
Sara writes: “Most of the time, I feel like a broken record. ‘Is baby here yet?’ is a common question via email and Facebook. ‘Nope, not yet,’ I respond. Now that I am over 41 weeks, it’s hard to wait for Baby.”
Here’s an ideal book for couples who want to strengthen their marriage from the outset. It outlines five challenges couples will experience as they begin to build their own marriage, and it directly relates each challenge to an opportunity flowing from it.
Stacey admits that she and Josh are pretty intense competitors. Recently they joined forces to compete in the Urban Adventure Games. How did their personal adventure turn out?
It’s trite to say a “Marriage is made in heaven,” but sometimes the random way we meet the person we marry can seem miraculous. How did you meet your beloved? Was it accidental or calculated (like an online matchup)? Reminisce about it today.
Do you offer your spouse a real kiss or a quick peck? Try a 10-second kiss at least once a day.
Have you ever had to feed a large crowd? Perhaps more guests came than you planned. Yes, plan ahead, but when circumstances surprise you, take what you have, give thanks, and offer it. It will be enough. Don’t fight with your spouse over who didn’t plan enough.
How many children are right for you? Before you’re pregnant Natural Family Planning can help you know when you are fertile. The experience of being a parent can help you discern how many future children you can support.
Catholic Charities in Kansas has kicked off a new state-wide campaign to foster healthy and stable marriage and family relationships. This comprehensive effort encompasses relationship education, public awareness and online outreach.
(Reader’s Tip) Say “thank you,” especially for the little things. It lets your spouse know you noticed and appreciated what they did, no matter how little the task.
Sara and Justin are still awaiting Baby Kraft’s arrival. Waiting is difficult, and the last stretch is often the hardest, but Sara and Justin are touched by the kindness of those around them.
When you are not able to have intercourse (illness, fatigue, wrong time of the month, separation, not in the mood…), how do you still “make love” in a non-physical way? Find a creative and satisfying way to express your love today.
Are you both satisfied with how frequently you have sexual intercourse? As wonderful as lovemaking is, it can often cause tension when there is “desire discrepancy.” Don’t measure your love by the numbers but do try to please each other.
A healthy sexual relationship is important and necessary to support marital love, BUT, it is not sufficient. In addition to sex, what does your spouse do for you that you really look forward to (conversation, a backrub, a kind word…)?
Different children require different types of parenting. Josh is learning to relate to his and Stacey’s oldest child so that he feels heard. And then there’s that wicked sense of humor…
(Reader’s Tip) Find peace in your role in the family, and prayerfully respect the roles of all members of the family. We help each other out but honor each others’ distinct role.
“Woe to the shepherds who mislead and scatter the flock.” (Jer. 23:1) Sometimes it’s hard to hear the voice of God and know who to believe. The prophet, Jeremiah, tells us to look for justice. What injustice can you as a couple take a stand against?
Since before Cinderella, stepparents have had a bad rap. Stepparents play a precarious role, trying to love as a true parent but often unsure of their job. If you have a stepchild, listen and wait to be accepted. If you don’t, pray for those in step relationships this week.
(Reader’s Tip) Talk behind your spouse’s back…to God. If there is something your spouse is struggling with or trying to discern, your prayers on their behalf are very important.
Sara is less than a week from her due date. She writes: “I’m working hard to appreciate the last few days (or hours or minutes) before we have Baby outside the womb.”
Almost 40 million Americans have tried internet dating and almost 20% of marriages began as an online relationship. What should you know about the advantages and limitations of dating websites?
Togetherness is good but, depending on your personality, some spouses can feel smothered. Do you have enough alone time or independent hobbies to refresh your spirit and bring a renewed you and new ideas to your marriage?
Do you and your spouse want to connect when you’re apart? Set your phone/watch/computer to ring at an agreed upon time. Then, even though separated, you both pause for a moment, picture your spouse, and think a kind thought.
When your honey is gone for more than a day, how do you stay connected? A nightly phone call? Skype? Email? A treat snuck into the luggage? Praying for each other?
Catholics love blessings; there is a blessing for almost anything and anyone. But what is a blessing and how is it effective?
(Reader’s Tip) Marriage is until death do us part, not until we have a disagreement. Keep this in mind when you hit rough spots and work through them prayerfully and together.