Archive for August, 2012
(Reader’s Tip) One of the ways I express love for my husband is going to bed when he goes to bed and snuggling for a few minutes before going to sleep. Each of us normally prays silently while snuggling.
When all else fails, REBOOT. It often works for computers and it can work with relationships too. If you made a foolish comment or forgot the milk, ask for a “do-over.” Restate your words more positively, go back to the store for the milk, whatever. Try again.
Does your marriage need a little jump start? Don’t wait until the New Year to make a change. Try one or more of our Fall Resolutions to reinvigorate your marriage.
If you can’t find old letters to remind you of the blossoming of your love, how about photos? Spend an evening or hour with a photo album, or go through digital photos together. Pick a favorite for the fridge.
Josh notes that the recent Sunday Mass reading from Ephesians offers material for pillow-talk between spouses: “Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is head of his wife.” He reflects on what this passage means for his own marriage.
Memories can rekindle romance. Did you ever write love letters to each other – snail mail or email? Find one and reread it together. Smile.
In an age of widespread divorce, one might expect young adults to be wary of marriage. But, according to a new poll by Clark University, 86% expect their marriage to last a lifetime, and their attitudes towards love, marriage and children remain remarkably traditional.
Just five days after his birth, Gus is welcomed into the Catholic Church. Read about his baptism in the presence of family and friends.
(Reader’s Tip) Pray that Christ will open your heart to His love, that you may love your wife as Christ loves the Church, or your husband as the Church loves him.
“Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ.” (Eph 5:21) Mutuality is the mark of a Christian marriage. Sometimes the husband leads, sometimes it is the wife. Is your marriage balanced?
Children can stress a marriage. Has your child disappointed you in some way? You need to hold him or her accountable, but that doesn’t mean you can’t welcome your child back with open arms. Can you think of any offense that is not forgivable? God can’t.
Technology and media are useful for connecting and inspiration but they can also rob you of precious couple time. A few seconds can morph into an hour while your beloved is withering from lack of attention. Turn it off! Pay attention.
Kids are one of the joys of marriage (much of the time). But they also tend to take their time off the top of your energy reserve. You aren’t married to your kids so don’t let them substitute for the intimacy you owe each other.
Do sports or other recreational pursuits steal your attention away from your beloved? Independent interests are fine as long as they are not out of balance. Not sure if it’s too much? Ask.
Do you feel the need to jump start your spiritual life? Or have you realized that quiet time and space may help you to hear God’s call more clearly? A spiritual retreat may be just the answer.
Most parents would agree that communicating with teenagers about relationships and love is anything but easy. The book will “help parents teach their children to deal with all aspects of the relationships they’ll form throughout their lives.”
It’s a moment many parents dread: having “the sex talk” with their child. Stacey describes what happened when she raises the topic with pre-teen Oscar.
Not all infidelity is sexual. Does your work steal your attention away from your spouse? Do opposite sex colleagues at work seem more appealing because they seem to be on the same wavelength or flatter you? Pay attention to your vow and spouse.
Baby Gus has arrived, but there were a few harrowing moments. Sara recounts his birth story.
(Reader’s Tip) Take a moment each day to say how much you love your spouse. Thank them for what they do for the family, or just say that you miss them when you’re apart.
“(L)ive, not as foolish persons but as wise.” (Eph 5:15) Who is the wisest (not smartest) living person you know? Who is the most foolish? Do you and your spouse share the same opinion of these people?
“Focus on strengths more than mistakes.” (Active Parenting) Watch for one accomplishment or virtue that your child demonstrates today and comment on it. This works for spouses too.
(Reader’s Tip) Start and end each day by thanking God for letting this person be in your life. Just a quick smile when they walk in the room tells them you care that they are near you.
Our culture is often obsessed with newness. If it’s new, it’s better. Sometimes the old, the tried, and trusted is better. Over the years spouses develop a comfort with each other’s idiosyncrasies. What crazy things do you love about your spouse?
(The Assumption) There are physical assumptions (like God lifting Mary up to heaven) and mental assumptions (like assuming you know what your beloved thinks or feels). Lift up your beloved with praise today but beware of presuming you totally know each other’s mind.