Archive for August, 2012
Stacey’s away this week, so Josh is taking care of the kids and baking treats! He finds sweetness in more than just the taste of the cookies.
When a marriage is in a rut the temptation may be to think that a different person will bring more happiness. It can be exciting for a time, but then that new person becomes old and routine as well. Click the refresh button with your spouse and try something new together.
This week, while Sara recuperates, Justin shares what he learned and experienced during his son’s birth.
On August 15 the Catholic Church celebrates one of its most important feasts, the Assumption of Mary into heaven. Although the doctrine of the Assumption was not formally proclaimed until 1950, the Church’s belief that Mary was taken body and soul into heaven has existed since the early centuries.
(Reader’s Tip) Over the 8+ years we’ve been married we’ve lived by the motto that we don’t always have to like each other, but we always love each other.
“Elijah went a day’s journey into the desert.” (1 Kings 19:4) What has been a low or dry point in your relationship with your beloved? How did you get out of it? If you’re still in a desert, ask for help – from your spouse, God, or angels who sometimes go by the name “counselor.”
Spouses make a choice to marry. Children don’t have a choice to be born. Give your children choices whenever practical. It helps them develop decision making skills. Just make sure you only give your child a choice that you’re willing to live with as a parent.
Who are the “new Dads” who stay at home full time with their children? A study from Boston College says they tend to be men who, with their spouses, made a choice “to dedicate themselves to full-time parenting for an often indefinite length of time.”
(Reader’s Tip) Like your spouse for who he/she is as a person. When I’m really angry at my husband, I realize what kind of man he is and I thank God he chose me to be his wife.
St. Paul exhorts us to remove all bitterness, fury, anger, shouting, abuse, and malice from our relationships. Instead cultivate kindness, compassion, and forgiveness. (Eph. 4:31-32). What is your biggest vice? Your strongest virtue? Does your spouse agree?
Congratulations to Sara and Justin upon the birth of Augustine Xavier Kraft!
Ruts are the bad side of habits, but marriage can have happy routines. (He always starts the coffee or she remembers to send cards on special days.) What “niceties” have become regular habits in your marriage?
“The Seven Year Itch” is a movie but not a myth. Marriages can suffer from routine and ruts. Can you identify a rut that you’ve slipped into in your marriage? (Always have the same kind of date, make love at the same time/place…) Change it up.
Josh writes, “Simon is like a pair of Chinese handcuffs—those woven tubes you put your fingers in. The harder you try to pull them out, the tighter they squeeze.” Read about the latest challenge.
Not all saints lived a long time ago, in an era vastly different from our own. Edith Stein, a convert from Judaism, was a remarkably gifted scholar and nun who became caught up in the modern horror of the Holocaust.
The United States has over 40 million people registered on over 1,500 online dating sites. It’s helpful to know how they can be useful to Catholics.
Today we remember the bombing of Hiroshima. Nuclear war destroys everything – lives, vegetation, genes, the future. Don’t “go nuclear” on your spouse. Stop before your anger escalates. How do you cool down when irritated? A walk? Music? A bath?
“The whole Israelite community grumbled against Moses.” (Ex 4:12) It’s tempting to grumble against one’s spouse, or even God, when things aren’t going well. An occasional grumble can be an OK way to let off steam, but try to balance it with expressions of gratitude.
Be careful how you express your most dearly held values to your children. Sometimes parents impose them rigidly and in an extreme way. Yes, share your faith, values, love of sports, music…but listen to what’s in their hearts too.
(Reader’s Tip) Approach everything—work, school, obstacle or victory—as a team. Support each other in times of difficulty and share with each other times of success.
When all else fails, WAIT. When things aren’t going well in your marriage – and there are bound to be those days – give it time. Sometimes we need to just separate, cool off, sleep on it and then come back with more positive feelings.
Sometimes our marriage partner can seem like an angel and we complement each other well. Other times our differences can cause hellish struggles and harsh words. Remember the former when you are in the latter state.