Archive for September, 2012
“Whoever is not against us is for us.” (Mk 9:40) Remember, that “us” is more than just family and friends. If others act in accord with the values that Jesus taught, welcome them and learn from them regardless of creed. Who do you know like this?
What does it mean to love our children? Of course it includes spending time listening to, looking after, feeding, washing, helping with homework, and correcting. BUT, spend more time looking for the good than reminding of the bad. This goes for spouses too.
At the recent convention of the Knights of Columbus, New York’s Cardinal Timothy Dolan said that marriage should be looked upon with a “sense of urgency.” He noted that Catholics are “hopeless romantics … when it comes to married love.”
(Reader’s Tip) We each set an alarm on our phones for the same time. When the alarm goes off it reminds us to stop our day and pray for our marriage.
It’s football season and Josh is loving every minute of it. But can he also tackle his responsibilities at home?
On October 4 the Church celebrates the feast of Francis of Assisi, one of the best-known and beloved saints. His spiritual descendants include communities of men and women all over the world.
How to safeguard your marriage while using social networking: Share passwords. Make it obvious on your profile that you’re married, i.e. refer to your spouse or perhaps use a couple photo. Make your status “married.”
Even if you’re not doing anything dishonest or flirting on Facebook or other social media, it can still steal time from your marriage. Take your eyes off your computer or phone and gaze at your beloved for a while.
Can social networking ruin your marriage? It may start out harmlessly–you’re just reconnecting with an old friend. Then you start sharing interests and news that you haven’t told your spouse. Online intimacy can grow and seem more exciting than real life.
With an infant in tow, Sara finds it difficult to get to confession. But with God’s grace she manages not only to receive the the sacraments, but to enjoy an unexpected “play date.”
(Reader’s Tip) Fall more in love every day. Don’t ever let the romance stop. Buy flowers often.
“What were you arguing about?…If anyone wishes to be first, he shall be the last.” (Mk 9:33,35) This teaching of Jesus parallels the perennial marital argument about who is right. Arguments can often be shortened if you can give up the need to be right – every time.
“Not only do I love my son’s mother, I exalt her as a queen.” (Rosario Slack) Do your children hear how much you esteem your spouse? Works for both husbands and wives.
Premarital doubts may be common but they’re not benign, says a new research study. Engaged men and women who experience doubts before marrying can be more at risk for an unhappy marriage and divorce.
(Reader’s Tip) The best advice I was given at our wedding was: Your children will learn how to love not by the love you show them but by the love you show each other.
This week Stacey springs a “pop quiz” on readers: How much do you know about the essentials of the Catholic faith? It’s a good question as we prepare for the Year of Faith, which starts next month.
“I wish to speak of the love which God lavishes upon us and which we in turn must share with others.” (Pope Benedict XVI, On Christian Love). Pick a person today to lavish love on who may not appear to deserve it.
If your parish has a permanent deacon or two, you may wonder who these men are and what they do. Read more about the order of deacons, which was revived by the Second Vatican Council.
A lack of common values can be a deal-breaker in a marriage. How close are you and your spouse, or fiance(e), on basic marriage values? Try this short exercise.
Don’t complain about anyone or anything today, even if it’s legitimate. A non-complaining/whining spouse is nicer to be around. Maybe you can hold off complaining for two days…
(Reader’s Tip) 50% of a marriage is finding the right person. The other 50% is being the right person.
Sara and Justin are learning to navigate taking little Gus to Mass. Justin writes, “Sometimes Gus feels like a ticking time bomb. Often it is impossible to predict when he is going to cry and he can go from perfectly happy to screaming at the top of his lungs in no time flat.”
“He is near who upholds my right…let us appear together.” (Isaiah 50:7-8) When was the last time you came to the defense of your beloved? It’s nice to know you have each other’s back.
“Who do people say that I am?” (Mk 8:27) Just as our public persona does not always reflect our true self, spouses are privy to the hidden truth/weaknesses of each other. What do you know about your beloved that perhaps no one else does? Honor this privileged information.
Some pregnancies are a surprise but no baby is a mistake. During your fertile years, cultivate an attitude of generosity and knowledge. Generosity can teach acceptance of the unknown. Natural Family Planning can help you plan when you conceive.