Archive for October, 2012
Stacey admits she’s been a step off her game recently, not able to engage the children as fully as she would like. The answer? She shares a prayer that she’s found helpful.
Sara has been invited to speak to a class on human sexuality at a state university. She says: “Although it shouldn’t have surprised me, talking to this class made me realize that many of these students saw sex simply as recreation.”
(Halloween) Halloween is a time when adults and kids get to play and pretend – guilt free. If you could be any famous couple in history, who would it be? Why?
Add generosity to the classic qualities that make marriages last (along with commitment, communication, common values/spirituality). Research has found that generosity (giving good things freely and abundantly) brings significant marital happiness. Be generous today.
(Reader’s Tip) Say yes before the request is made. Forgive before the offense is given. Pray before there is need. Anticipate one another in showing honor. (Romans 12:10).
The blind man Bartimaeus asked Jesus to cure him and Jesus did. Handicaps can be spiritual and emotional as well as physical. Ask Jesus to cure you.
“We need to become intimate enough with our adult children to understand the questions they are asking, not the answers we think they need to hear.” (Susan Vogt) Certainly parenting does not end once your child turns 18 or 21, but it should get more subtle.
In popular culture, a wedding ring’s significance would probably be that it conveys that a person already is married. Do wedding rings have more meaning for Catholics?
(Reader’s Tip) Too often we behave admirably when we have an audience, but less so in our private lives. How do you interact with your spouse when no one is looking? Do you need to curb the sarcastic remark or put-down?
“Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that’s a real treat.” (Joanne Woodward) Think of a way to help your honey laugh today – even if it’s embarrassing.
What’s the #1 marriage killer? Some would say nagging. It’s like death by a thousand jabs with a pin. One won’t kill you but after a while you don’t want to live with the jabber any more. How to stop nagging? Ask the “nagee” for help.
Josh likes to think of himself as the strong, silent type, but after a serious conversation with Stacey, he realizes that this image had to change. He talks about the need to let it go.
As Sara prepares to return to work, she’s savoring each moment with Gus. She reflects: “I know that letting go and trusting in God is a vital part of parenthood.”
Spouses needn’t know where each other is every hour of the day, but it’s nice to know each other’s daily routines. Pick a common time during the day to pause and hold each other in prayer for 10 seconds.
Here’s a book for anyone who faces important decisions, whether related to marriage and family or not. The author explains how to discern God’s will when we are faced with two good possibilities.
(Reader’s Tip) You do not have to like your spouse 100% of the time, but love them with all your heart.
“Whoever wishes to be great among you must be your servant.” (Mk 10:43) Just for fun see which of you can serve the other more today. Make a game out of it if you wish. “No, let me get the door, the snack, make dinner, etc.” “No, honey, you must let me do it.”
“Son, why have you done this to us? Your father and I have been looking for you with great anxiety.” (Luke 2:48) Have you ever lost a child physically or emotionally (to mental illness, drugs, a bad mood)? Go to Mary. She understands.
As the Synod of Bishops continues in Rome, many emphasized the role of married couples and families in the new evangelization. They are not just the recipients but the agents of evangelization.
(Reader’s Tip) See your spouse as the most precious gift you will ever receive. Do not underestimate God’s ability to send you the spouse who will help you grow spiritually and personally.
Spoil your spouse – not your children. Yes, marriage should be a relatively equal proposition, so if only one partner is giving it’s out of balance – but if both of you are giving more than 50% that’s just fine.
“If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?” (Anonymous) A little mystery is more exciting than seeing everything at once. What mysterious side of your beloved do you still seek to understand?
Most parents have certain aspirations for their children, which don’t always take into account the child’s unique personality and interests. Stacey notes: “It is more important that my children know they are loved and valued regardless of what they do or how they perform.”
During her time at home with Gus, Sara has the chance to develop her culinary talents. Surprisingly, she says, she’s enjoyed her time in the kitchen.
Do marriage enrichment programs work? Aren’t those just for couples with troubles? Yes and No. Research shows that couples attending marriage enrichment programs (even if they go reluctantly) report more marital happiness.