Archive for October, 2012
(Reader’s Tip) Find a task or chore that is your spouse’s least favorite thing to do (taking out the trash, doing the dishes) and do it for them as often as you can.
“The spirit of wisdom came to me.” (Wisdom 7:7) What’s the wisest thing your beloved has ever said or done (besides marrying you)? Tell him or her. What’s the dumbest thing you’ve ever done? Forgive yourself.
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” (Father Theodore Hesburgh) Don’t get so busy caring for your child that you forget the love that brought that child into being.
Can unrealistic portrayals of romantic relationships on television result in harm for some married couples? Quite possibly, yes. New research finds that people who believe in such portrayals are actually less committed to their spouses.
(Reader’s Tip) Love in marriage is a responsibility to God. If that is understood all else can be resolved.
This month representatives of the world’s Catholic bishops are meeting in Rome to discuss the New Evangelization. The meeting is called a synod, and it’s an important event in the life of the Church.
Have any divorced friends? All of us do. It’s risky to advise others about love, but one thing you can suggest is to wait at least two years before marrying again. It takes that long to deal with baggage from the first marriage.
Pope Benedict XVI has called for a Year of Faith starting October 11. It’s a wonderful opportunity to deepen one’s personal faith, as well as renew the faith life of the family. Here are a few ideas to get started.
Empty nest marriages can be boring, but they can also be an opportunity to discover new adventures together. You don’t have to have all the same interests but search for something new to do together.
For the first time since Gus was born, Sara and Justin get to have a real date. They speak about the importance of taking time to put their marriage first.
Josh finds a lot to like about the popular show “Cake Boss,” including its emphasis on family values. But he’s learning to monitor some less than desirable language.
Respecting human life means investing in children and nurturing their lives from conception until adulthood. Do you and your spouse support your friends’ children as well as your own children?
(Reader’s Tip) Always treat each other with respect, whether it’s in front of the children, in public or just the two of you. This includes no swearing at each other or name-calling.
“God made them male and female.” (Mk 10:6) How do you fit the stereotype of your gender, i.e., males are strong, females are sensitive? How do you differ? Would your spouse agree with you?
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. If you’re in a healthy marriage, give thanks. If you suspect someone is being abused, make sure they have the National Domestic Violence Hotline number (1-800-799-SAFE).
The Second Vatican Council’s teaching on marriage and family is often overshadowed by other topics. This teaching is significant, however, and has heavily influenced Church statements on marriage.
(Reader’s Tip) My husband and I set the alarm on our Smartphones for the same time each day. When the alarm goes off it reminds us to stop and pray for our marriage.
Are you compatible spenders/savers? Being either an extreme spendthrift or miser can put stress on your marriage. Two spendthrifts are prone to debt. Two misers have little fun. Move to the middle if you need to.
How can parents encourage each family member “to grow in faith, hope and love”? Drawing on the wisdom of St. Benedict, the author offers practical guidance for dealing with the difficult tasks of family life.
On her wedding day, a bride listed ten of her husband’s faults she would overlook for the sake of their marriage. On their 50th Anniversary she revealed that she never actually made the list, but just kept overlooking irritations. Overlook a quibble today.
Do you and your spouse disagree about whom to vote for? Respect your spouse’s choice and refrain from speaking negatively about his/her candidate.
A trip to the home improvement store gives Justin and Sara some ideas about how to share their faith in everyday life.
October is Respect Life Month. We are reminded to value all human life and creation, especially the unborn, the poor and the vulnerable. Talk with your spouse and consider making a donation of goods, time or money to a group that helps those in need.