Archive for January, 2013
(Reader’s Tip) When you and your spouse have an argument, remember that the goal is not to “win.” The two of you are on the same team, fighting for your marriage, not one another.
“Love is a decision” is a maxim from the Marriage Encounter (ME) movement. Wonderful as marriage can be, it’s not always lived on an emotional high. Some days, we must just decide to love. The feelings will eventually follow.
Stacey writes on chores and the unitive aspect of marriage. “This will not be embarrassing,” she promises.
Are you a talker while your beloved is quieter – or vice-versa? Are you happy with the balance you have in this area of speech? If yes, count your blessings. If not, talk about it – but make sure the quieter one starts.
Sara and Justin discuss Sara’s transition to staying at home with Gus. It’s both easier and harder than they imagined.
(Reader’s Tip) Every night we ask each other forgiveness for the things we didn’t appreciate or for the things we did wrong or if we’ve offended each other.
“If one part [of the body] is honored, all the parts share its joy.” (1 Corinthians 12:26) Bodies are complicated and we humans can be embarrassed by some parts and proud of others. What about your beloved’s physical appearance do you find especially attractive?
Despite open attitudes toward human sexuality, couples often have difficulty talking about it seriously. Natural Family Planning can give you the language and motivation for those sensitive talks.
A three-year study of families conducted by the University of Virginia’s Institute for Advanced Studies in Culture reveals some of the similarities and differences among America’s parents today.
Cook a special dinner together even if it’s an ordinary night. Recall a special meal you shared during your courtship.
The internet and social media can enrich our lives, but they can also threaten your marriage. It’s not only pornography or finding old flames on Facebook, but also the time taken from interaction with your beloved. Agree on mutual limits to screen time.
Perhaps your children are grown and it’s just the two of you again. Great, but maybe not. Has your attention to each other grown stale or routine? Take up a new hobby, sport, or volunteer effort together.
Josh’s new workout program has resulted in a pulled muscle–but that’s not the only thing that’s out of whack. His relationship with Stacey needs a little TLC, too.
Sara says good-bye to the parish where she’s been working. As she reflects on the “lasts,” she also looks forward to her new vocation as a stay-at-home mom.
(Reader’s Tip) Every anniversary we write love letters to each other and take a “couple” picture. Put them together in a binder to treasure for years to come.
(Martin Luther King Day) Martin Luther King is an American icon. His marriage, however, wasn’t perfect. Nobody’s is. Do you and your beloved have an ongoing tiff? Dream up a win-win solution.
“There are different spiritual gifts but the same Spirit.” (1 Cor. 12) Which gift does your beloved have in a special way: wisdom, knowledge (of how to fix things), faith, the ability to heal, industriousness, intuition, decision making skills, communication?
The National Marriage Project identified 10 key factors linked to successfully combining marriage and parenthood. The last three are: the support of friends and family, a sound economic foundation, and quality family time. Which is your weakest?
In his new pastoral letter, Bishop Michael Bransfield of Wheeling-Charleston notes that 30% of West Virginia children under age 5 live in poverty. He addresses the complexity of poverty and the need for a moral commitment to overcome it.
(Reader’s Tip) I try once a day to write my wife a text or a note to tell her I love her. She does the same for me.
With the birth of your first child, you may think you don’t have time or money for a regular date night. Do it anyway. Think of it as insurance.
In-laws are often a touchy subject in a marriage. As Stacey points out, they can stretch us in new ways. But they’re not the family we grew up in, which can cause discomfort from time to time.
(Reader’s Tip) If in doubt, don’t say it.
The early years of marriage require adjustments and compromises. “My way is the right way” will only lock you into fights. Make sure it’s not always the same spouse yielding to the will of the other.
Last week Sara reflected on what she hopes to gain by staying home with Gus. This week it’s Justin’s turn, and he sees a lot to look forward to.