Archive for January, 2013
Are you in the post-holiday doldrums? Try something new today – a different route to work, a new food – and ask your spouse to do the same. Compare notes at the end of the day.
Today is the feast of the Baptism of the Lord. Baptism includes symbols such as water, candles, and white robes that point to a deeper commitment of faith. Ask your beloved what the key element of faith is for him/her.
The National Marriage Project identified 10 key factors linked to successfully combining marriage and parenthood. Numbers five, six and seven are: shared religious faith, commitment, and having a college degree. Which is your strongest suit as a couple?
Does marriage begin at its high point, with couples enjoying their greatest life satisfaction during their first year together as husband and wife? According to research conducted in Australia, the most satisfied couples were those married 40 years or longer.
(Reader’s Tip) Praying together as a couple and a family has carried us through some tough years. We always try to attend Mass together.
Couples separated by distance have blessings and challenges. Absence can make the heart grow fonder, but it also provides an opportunity for infidelity. Honest talk about temptations and solutions can help. Plan ways to keep close even when you’re far away.
(Reader’s Tip) Compromise, saying “yes,” and the occasional “you look beautiful” have made the last 26 years together a walk in the park.
So maybe your marriage is feeling wear and tear but you’ve been holding off till the holidays were over. Don’t throw in the towel. Try Retrouvaille or The Third Option. If you don’t need it, pass the information on to a couple who does.
The author, an abuse survivor, offers helps for those who experienced childhood sexual abuse. She draws on the wisdom of the saints, such as Ignatius of Loyola and Theresa of Lisieux, to guide the sufferer through difficult periods.
Passing on the family’s stories can help children to understand who they are and where they came from. Who better to tell these stories than grandparents? The authors offer some suggestions for sharing family stories with the grandchildren.
Recently Justin asked Sara: “What do you hope to gain by staying at home with Gus?” Sara has been pondering the question and offers three outcomes she’d like to see.
Do you have a regular date night? It’s one of the keys to a satisfying marriage. It needn’t always involve money or going out but it should be a time set aside for meaningful conversation (not about money or the kids)–and fun.
(Epiphany) “Behold, Magi from the east arrived in Jerusalem.” (Mt 2:2). The wise still seek Jesus. What gifts of wisdom do you possess? A lesson learned from your childhood? A proverb that steers your life? A virtue to which you’ve struggled to be true?
The National Marriage Project identified 10 key factors linked to successfully combining marriage and parenthood. The first four are: shared housework, good sex, marital generosity, and date nights. Do you have these covered?
A new State of Our Unions report warns that raising children outside of marriage is becoming the new norm. It urges national leaders to pay attention to family structure and the effects on children’s well-being.
A trip back home to the beautiful Black Hills rekindles Josh’s sense of awe and wonder. He reflects: “If I want our family to have a spirituality of wonder, I need to find ways for us to experience moments of depth and mystery where we live.”
This year, as part of Catholic 101, we begin a new series called “Married Saint of the Month.” We’ll feature a man or woman who responded to God’s call to holiness through the vocation of marriage. Our series begins with Elizabeth Ann Seton, the first American-born canonized saint.
“On the 11th Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 11 Pipers Piping.” What’s your favorite style of music? Can you guess your beloved’s favorite song? Listen to each other’s favorite today. Hint: Check the internet if it’s an oldie.
“On the 10th Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 10 Lords-a-Leaping.” Leap to each other’s needs today. “No honey, let me serve YOU.” Laugh over the silliness of each trying to “out serve” the other.
Sara is not looking forward to a 10-hour drive to visit Justin’s parents. But she realizes the importance of giving both sets of grandparents the opportunity to get to know Gus.
“On the 9th Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 9 Ladies Dancing.” If you and your spouse like to dance, do it – even a quick turn around the living room. Don’t worry if you’re not an expert. No one is watching.
(New Year’s Day) “And Mary kept all these things, reflecting on them in her heart.” (Lk 2:19) It’s a new year – a chance to start over. What’s one change you’d like to make for the better? Tell your spouse. He/she can keep you honest and accountable.