Archive for March, 2013
The resurrection of Jesus that we celebrate on Easter was a hard story for the women and apostles to believe. Today, we believe on the testimony of others and two thousand years of retelling the story. Unconditional love is so hard to believe. Believe your spouse’s love anyway.
Holy Saturday is an “in-between day.” Jesus’s followers were grief stricken and afraid. They did not yet know of the resurrection. Ponder a time in your marriage when you were unsure and afraid of the future. Sometimes we just have to wait to understand.
(Good Friday) Jesus’s love for us ultimately took the form of sacrificing his life for us on the cross. What’s the hardest sacrifice you’ve ever made for your beloved? May the memory of this sacrifice unite you more closely to each other and God.
Holy Thursday is when we remember the ritual meal that Jesus had with his apostles. Since you and your spouse are a “Domestic Church” break bread together and share some wine in remembrance of Jesus. You might even wash each other’s feet as a sign of service.
Before Easter arrives, is there anything for which you need to ask your spouse’s forgiveness? Ask now.
As Sara watches Gus grow, she is reminded of Mary’s role in Jesus’s life. While she doesn’t know what God has in store for Gus, she reflects that Jesus’s own suffering ended with Easter joy.
Josh reflects on evangelizing one’s children. He says, “In my evangelizing efforts, I find that often I am the one being evangelized. To communicate love to our children, I have to first be transformed by love.”
Email a love letter to your beloved today. It needn’t be long, but it can be schmaltzy. Maybe you’ll get one back.
Many people think of Easter as one day, but Catholic teaching emphasizes that Easter is a whole season. It’s a time to ponder the Risen Christ’s continued presence in the world.
Let today be a “Change It Up” day. Often marriages get stale because they get into ruts. Change something today – the food you eat, the hand you write with, what you say when you answer the phone, what you typically wear.
Palm Sunday is like the parade before the defeat. But everything is turned upside down in Christianity. Defeat becomes the path to ultimate resurrection. Identify a high point, a low point, and a revival in your marriage.
How do you build trust in a marriage? It’s like a bank account – as you deposit honest deeds and words, trust builds up. It’s earned over time and grows. The same works for kids who cry, “Don’t you trust me?” Remind them to make deposits for future trust.
Although he was just elected, Pope Francis is already giving families much to think about. He draws inspiration from St. Francis of Assisi, his namesake, and St. Joseph, and he hopes others will also see them as models.
When we get angry, at our spouse or at God, we tend to close down the lines of communication. Make an effort to hear what your spouse or God is saying.
Think you know a lot about your faith? Don’t keep it to yourself. Consider teaching a religious education class. Ideally you could do this as a team. If that’s not possible, the support spouse can review the lesson plans and advise.
Pornography has become a major issue for many couples. This small, highly readable book offers information and guidance to men who use pornography, their wives and loved ones, and parents who want to protect their children from its tragic effects.
(Spring Equinox) Today the amount of daylight equals the amount of darkness. Equality is good – in nature and marriage, BUT equality does not make light and dark the same. How are you most like your beloved? How most different?
Sara makes a surprising connection between the new Pope’s love for simplicity and–couponing! Read what she’s already learned from Pope Francis.
(St. Joseph’s Day) St. Joseph is the patron saint of workers. Typically couples divide up work around the house according to time, skill, and interest. For a change of pace, try switching up jobs for a day. The work might not get done as efficiently but you’ll learn a lot.
It’s a common marital frustration: Your spouse hasn’t been paying attention to what you said and a while later asks you to repeat the same information. Stacey explains how spouses can process information in different ways.
“Let the one among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone.” (John 8:7) One can’t be married without finding fault. It’s inevitable. Knowing our own faults, however, can help us be more tolerant of the sins of our spouse. Stop before you criticize.
(St. Patrick’s Day) St. Patrick is said to have explained the mystery of the Trinity by using the shamrock. Which person of the Trinity do you most identify with? Is there anything mysterious about your beloved that you are still trying to understand?
In making decisions about becoming parents it’s important to not just go on a whim or hearsay. Are you aware of the science behind Natural Family Planning? Check it out at the For Your Marriage website.
On March 26 and 27 the U.S. Supreme Court will hear two cases that relate to the definition of marriage as the union of one man and one woman. Learn what is involved and why the Catholic Bishops have filed friend-of-the-court briefs in each case.
Are you and your spouse tired after a long week? Give each other the chance to vent for a few minutes, then focus on the positive and the time you can spend with each other this weekend.