Archive for March, 2013
Are you and your spouse tired after a long week? Give each other the chance to vent for a few minutes, then focus on the positive and the time you can spend with each other this weekend.
Your mission today (should you accept it) is to laugh. You don’t have to be a joke teller or comedienne but laughing together is a marriage builder. Can’t think of anything funny? Exaggerate a foible you have.
So you’ve got a good marriage. Great! You’re not reading these tips because you’re in trouble but because you want to keep it strong. A good way to invest in the next generation of marriages is to volunteer to do marriage preparation with engaged couples.
Sara reflects: “As we continue to ponder how best to best Gus in the faith, I realized perhaps the answer is simpler than we realize.” Read what she and Justin discovered.
Have a “Remembering Night.” Remember the first time you saw each other…Your first “date”… When you first realized this might be “the one.”…The night before your wedding. Share your feelings about each of these times.
How many times have you heard the suggestion to pray together as a couple? But how do you actually going about doing something that can seem strange and awkward, at least at first? Here are some practical tips.
The spring wedding season is almost here. Do you know someone who’s getting married soon? Send a quick note or e-mail assuring them of your prayers.
“The Lord does not see as humans see.” (1 Samuel 16:7) As the saying goes, “Love is blind.” God and your beloved can see beauty beneath the surface. Beyond physical appearance or prowess what invisible gift do you see in your beloved?
What do you owe your kids? Toys? An allowance? A cell phone? No, these are extras to be granted, not entitlements. Food, clothing, shelter, safety, an education, time, and your love are essential. Spouses can often disagree on parenting practices like these. Take time to sort it out.
A new Census Bureau report finds that millions of Americans commute more than 60 minutes a day each way. What effect do these long commutes have on family life?
How long has it been since you had a real date with your beloved? This is the time of year when spirits lag. Christmas and Valentine’s Day have passed. The weather is gloomy. Plan a romantic pick-me-up.
This book by a Bruderhof pastor has “the tenor of wise counsel,” says our reviewer. It’s “full of advice for cherishing, guiding and nurturing children, and it is realistic about the challenges of parenting.”
This month our series on married saints features Blessed Peter To Rot, a lay catechist who ministered during the Japanese invasion of Papua New Guinea.
Josh reflects on the hit movie Les Miserables and its great insight into God’s unconditional love. Love, says Josh, “is something that only grows the more we give it away. I have found this to be utterly true in marriage and family life.”
When is self-care (pampering oneself) legitimate and when is it just selfish? Does your self-care interfere with the urgent need of your spouse or child? Does one of you claim to need it a lot more than the other? Try to be fair.
Your domestic church—church of the home—is intimately connected to the larger church. Just as you pray for family members, pray for church leaders, especially during this time of transition.
Sara’s visit to a homeless shelter prompts her to consider the many blessings she and Justin enjoy. She says: “In the coming weeks, Justin and I will continue to ponder how we are called to help the less fortunate and serve our Lord in this small way.”
Sometimes having a romantic evening together means doing less – like eliminating something from your calendar that’s stealing time. Do you really have to watch that TV show, wash the curtains, attend that meeting? Let it go.
How does one respond in love when you’re angry with your spouse? Usually it requires calling a “time out” on yourself. After you calm down a bit, you might say, “I still feel pretty upset. Can we talk about this in an hour or later today?” How do you usually handle anger?
The story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4:5-42) is about secrets and conundrums: how to get water, how many husbands, secret food. Spouses should keep no secrets from each other. Is there something you don’t understand about your beloved?
A pediatrician asked a new mom when she and her husband were going to have a date that week. The doctor said, “I’m serious. Unless you agree to have a weekly date, you can find another pediatrician. Your child is more likely to thrive if your marriage is strong.”
The Vatican has announced the official date for the World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia: Sept. 22-27, 2015. Philadelphia Archbishop Charles Chaput says a World Meeting has “the power to transform, in deeply positive ways, not just the spirit of Catholic life in our region, but the whole public community.”
Have you prayed together during Lent (not just grace before meals)? Try saying a prayer together before bedtime, or share your reflections on a short passage of Scripture.