2013 May, available at: ForYourMarriage.org

Archive for May, 2013

May 31, 2013

”J” months have the highest number of divorces. In January many spouses have waited until after the holidays. In June even more couples file for divorce (after school is out). Don’t become a statistic. Avoid the “D” word by tending to your marriage every month.

May 30, 2013

One of the top 10 things couples argue about is the past. Let it go. You can’t change it, but you can learn from it. Focus on what you’re doing today to stop a bad habit or start a healthy routine. Fix yourself, not your spouse.

It’s Written Into Us

“There is a space in the basement [that]…had come to accumulate a number of odds and ends that we didn’t feel like dealing with when we first moved, and then items that we just didn’t feel like dealing with at all. Yesterday, the time came to open it all up and pare down.” The cleaning process yields an important insight.

May 29, 2013

(Reader’s Tip) In bad times repeat your vows aloud: “In good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, ’til death do us part.” Remind yourself that you vowed not to give up; that can help make it easier to go forward with repairs.

Yard Work

Justin’s bad foot means that Sara has to do more yard work than she expected. She learns an important lesson about finding God in everyday tasks.

Can Couples Use Money To Buy Happiness?

New research shows that money can, indeed, buy happiness. But it depends on whether couples spend money on others, and whether they use money to buy experiences rather than things.

May 28, 2013

“Wee, wee, wee, all the way home.” Marriage is not for piggies, but our language can betray our values. Do you refer to “my home,” “my money,” or “my kids”? Try changing it to “our home,” our money,” “our kids.” Our words can remind us that we’re a team.

May 27, 2013

(Memorial Day) Today we honor those veterans who gave their lives for their country. Say a prayer of gratitude for those who risk their lives for others.

May 26, 2013

“Everything that the Father has is mine.” (John 16:15) The same can be said for spouses. This sounds nice and fair until you talk specifics, like my paycheck, my time, my toothbrush… Is there anything you don’t want to share?

May 25, 2013

Just as birth order impacts how children face life, it also can influence how married couples face each other. Two “firstborns” can compete with each other. Two “middle children” can avoid conflicts. Two “youngests” can be unduly impulsive. How do you match up?

May 24, 2013

(Reader’s Tip) Tell you spouse specifically what you’d like him or her to pray for. Then ask what he or she needs prayers for.

May 23, 2013

Are you a detail person while your beloved sees the big picture – or vice-versa? These differences can complement each other for good, but if too extreme they can cause friction. Make a commitment to develop your shadow side.

May 22, 2013

You think you’re right. Your spouse thinks the opposite. Neither of you wins by making the other wrong. Try giving the benefit of the doubt to your beloved. Try it their way – at least once.

Gus Exerts His Will

Over the past few weeks baby Gus’ personality has started to emerge. “I can’t prove it,” says Dad, “but my intuition has started to tell me that he knows when he is doing something he is not supposed to be doing.”

May 21, 2013

(Reader’s Tip) When you get frustrated, pray for understanding.

May 20, 2013

Often the simple act of rebooting can remedy a computer problem. Sometimes marriages need a reboot. If a problem is not resolving readily, try this: Stop. Let both of you cool off. Forgive. Ask for a “do over.”

May 19, 2013

(Pentecost) “How does each of us hear them in our native language?” (Acts 2:1-11) Do you understand your spouse’s love language? Check out Gary Chapman’s bestseller, The 5 Love Languages.

May 18, 2013

One of the challenges to married couples is to know how to be life-giving. Natural Family Planning helps couples develop an attitude of welcoming children. NFP can also be used to space or limit family size, but an open heart goes a long way.

May 17, 2013

(Reader’s Tip) When he has long workdays I surprise him and drop off special treats at his office. It always re-energizes him, physically and mentally.

Why Family Life Is Now a Choice

“Family life doesn’t just happen; it is a decision, a choice,” say the Catholic bishops of Manitoba, Canada. Today, “perhaps more than ever before, we must choose to be a family.”

May 16, 2013

Is your lovemaking out of balance? This is a touchy topic but if your spouse is almost always the one who initiates physical intimacy, he or she may not be really satisfied – even if you say “Yes.” The real desire is to be desired. Take the first step.

May 15, 2013

A marriage rule you can break: “Never go to bed angry.” Although generally this is a fine rule, there are times when all this accomplishes is a tired body. Sleeping on it can provide a cooling off period and help you get fresh perspective.

Us, Together

“For our 15th wedding anniversary, my wife took me mushroom hunting, and it was every bit as glamorous as you might imagine.” Fortunately, there was also a beautiful bed-and-breakfast and time away from the daily routine.

May 14, 2013

When you and your beloved are at loggerheads it’s hard to remember that your beloved is your beloved – not your enemy. He or she isn’t trying to be difficult; just trying to say that something is very important to him/her. Listen to the need.  

A Catholic Mother’s Companion to Pregnancy

Drawing on the example of Mary and the saints, the author offers helpful guidance for pregnancy, childbirth and baptism. She reflects on the mysteries of the rosary, offers simple faith practices, and explains an element of Catholic belief related to each chapter’s theme. A perfect gift for a newly pregnant friend or family member!

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