Archive for July, 2013
Don’t rush to supply activities when your child whines, “I don’t have anything to do!” A certain amount of boredom is a pre-requisite for creativity. Besides, you can run yourself ragged trying to entertain a child 24-7. Save energy for your honey.
Some spouses need to bite their tongues more; others need to loosen their tongues and share more. Which are you? With time, hopefully you become like Goldilocks and find the middle ground that is “just right.”
In today’s gospel we hear the story of the Good Samaritan. Sometimes we can miss the hurts and needs of those closest to us. Does your spouse have a wound that needs tending?
“Your life is more than your work and your work is more than your job.” (from the song by the same name by Charlie King) Is your ‘job’ getting in the way of your family relationships? Both are important but as another song puts it, “Can’t buy me love.”
(Reader’s Tip) Marriage can be like a boxing match. Sometimes we feel like we’re being knocked down, that we are opponents. But in the end we embrace the wisdom of our coach, Christ, and never throw in the towel.
Pope Francis issued his first encyclical, “The Light of Faith,” on July 5. He writes: ““Faith reveals just how firm the bonds between people can be when God is present in their midst.” Faith “sheds light on every human relationship because it is born of love and reflects God’s own love.”
What do restaurants and marriages have in common? Justin learns a lesson from top chef Gordon Ramsey: Both succeed only when those involved recognize their faults and make an effort to improve.
Family vacation season is here! Josh writes: “I am really enjoying the quiet pace of this vacation, which has been about sleeping in, resting, and playing. It has led to great connections with the kids, for example, because of the meaningful time we can spend together.”
Are you and your spouse retired? Humbly offer your life’s wisdom for the good of others. Your experience is priceless. Consider sharing it with your church or community.
A spouse might be quiet, as if listening, but not necessarily understand the meaning behind your words. Some are better at this than others. Check out the true message.
“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” (Albert Schweitzer) Is there a trait that you would like to foster in your spouse or child? How can you model that behavior this week in your own life?
Marriage between persons of different races and cultures is happening more frequently. What can such couples expect and how can they deal with the challenges?
“This book bothered me right at the beginning. Something about the cover image — a woman wearing a polka-dot dress, 3-inch heels and a halo while sitting on a cloud — turned me off. The word “bodacious” made me wonder if the book should be taken seriously. So what made me change my mind?”
Does your spouse accuse you of being irresponsible? Sometimes it might just be a different personality style, but don’t just ignore the criticism. It may hurt, but not addressing any truth that might be behind the charge can build resentment.
In today’s Gospel Jesus sends his disciples out in pairs to proclaim the good news. How do you and your spouse publicly witness to Jesus—perhaps through works of charity or standing up for social justice?
Spouses often find that they have settled in to a comfortable lifestyle. But routines can get boring. Try something new together this week, such as a new food, recreation, or book.
Have you celebrated your Silver Anniversary? At this point careers are often at their height while you learn to let go of every day parenting. Forgive yourself for any parenting regrets.
(Independence Day) What does it mean to be “free” in a marriage? Certainly as Christians we don’t believe that it means being free to have an affair or do whatever we please. In marriage it means you freely chose your spouse and freely choose to continue loving.
Stacey writes that Oscar and his younger brother Simon have “a veritable brotherly love fest 24-7.” Unfortunately, little Lucy often gets left out. Stacey reflects on how to expand her children’s understanding of generous love.
(Reader’s Tip) Marriage is like running a marathon. There are long uphill and downhill stretches but you must keep going. It takes a lot of hard work and encouragement from others.
Sara wants to attend Mass during the week, but will Gus cooperate? The result might surprise you.
Are you a perfectionist? It’s natural to want to do a good job but don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. If your spouse advises you to “Lighten up” it might be good counsel. Marriage and parenting are tough jobs.
The Second World War produced several saints; one of them was Blessed Franz Jagerstatter, husband, father and Austrian conscientious objector.
(Reader’s Tip) My husband refuses to fight back when I try to start an argument. Half the time, he just calms me down. The other half he cracks a joke and makes me burst out laughing.