Archive for August, 2013
70 percent of women in a recent survey said they would rather have chocolate than sex (Redbook, 2007, February). Husbands, want to woo your wife? Maybe chocolate is not the treat that your honey enjoys, but take the time to notice what turns her on. She’ll appreciate the effort.
Wives, what turns your husband on? Is it special clothing (or lack of it), perfume, a special food, flirting, anything and everything. You know best. Don’t make him beg for sex. Being surprised and wanted can be a turn on. He’ll appreciate the effort.
When asked, “If you could come back as anyone after you die, who would it be?” Winston Churchill thought for a second, turned to his wife, and said, “Mrs. Churchill’s second husband.” Make a tribute to your spouse today.
When Joshua and Stacey speak about “good community” or “good marriage” they try to convey that good community (marriage) comes down to good communication. Here they share three golden rules, or guidelines, for good communication.
Sexual intercourse is one of the joys of married love, but our sexual desires may differ. If (when) “desire discrepancy” appears in your marriage, sometimes one sacrifices for the love of the other. Sometimes it’s the reverse.
Gus has graduated from “baby” to “toddler” and is starting to do things he shouldn’t. Sara says: “Part of my responsibility as a mother is to teach Gus there are consequences for our actions.”
Temper Taming Tip #3: A child’s disobedience can trigger rage from a parent. Try pre-empting your anger with a plan. Inform your child (ideally after discussion) of what consequence will follow disobedience. Then, don’t yell, just calmly enforce the plan.
Temper Taming Tip #2: Noise can lower your resistance to anger. If whining, TV, roughhousing, or crowds are on your nerves, lower the decibel level. Call for a “Quiet Time Out.” For example, turn off the TV, have kids go outside (or to separate rooms). Talk softly yourself.
Temper Taming Tip #1: Check your own temperature first. Maybe you’re tired after a long day or feel stressed or worried. Try strengthening your resistance. Taking a short nap helps some. Others may listen to quiet music or take a bath or a walk.
(Reader’s Tip) If your spouse asks what’s wrong, don’t say “nothing” if there is. Even if you can’t talk about it right away, let them know there is something that needs to be resolved.
(Reader’s Tip, from a recent widow) Treasure each moment with your beloved spouse. We know neither the day nor the hour when our loved one will be taken from us.
One version of the marriage vows states, “to have and to hold from this day forward.” Pay attention to that little word “hold’ today. When times are tough or emotions raw, sometimes firmly and lovingly holding each other is the best comfort.
In marriage we hold the keys to each other’s heart. Spouses should know each others’ internet passwords lest one be tempted to lock out the other from personal conversations.
Is your family life a chaotic race from sunup to sundown? The author proposes “to help you run your family with more clarity and context and purposefulness by provoking you to answer three simple questions that can change your life.”
Can a one year old really participate in Mass? You might be surprised!
Self-deprecation can be disarming. Tell a silly story on yourself from your youth. If you have children, they may be relieved that you made mistakes, too. Teens often appreciate the role reversal. It might even generate an evening of reminiscing.
According to new research, over one-third of young adults ages 18 to 31 were living in their parents’ homes in 2012. Even after the recession’s official end, this percentage is continuing to grow.
The Noems now have an in-house babysitter! Josh reflects on preparing the children to take on roles of increased leadership and responsibility.
(Reader’s Tip) We pray for couples when we attend their wedding and offer support if they need it.
Don’t “trash talk” your husband – even among your girl friends. Don’t make fun of your wife – even when out with the guys. It may be tempting and just lighthearted banter, but as Stephen Covey says, “Be loyal to those not present.”
Magic Marriage words: “Honey, you were right.” “Let’s try it your way.” “What’s your opinion?”
(Reader’s Tip) We offer to babysit for other couples so they can spend time alone. Our children look forward to those occasions and enjoy entertaining the visitors.
Mary’s Assumption brings closure to her role on earth – or does it? Just as the “I do” of your vows was only the beginning of your marriage, so passion, death, and resurrection are still to come.
Do you talk too much? As necessary as communication within the family is, sometimes spouses and children can tune you out if you’re long-winded. This is not something you can self-diagnose. Ask your honey or kids. Avoid TMI (Too Much Information).
An article in ESPN the Magazine prompts Justin to reflect on our society’s view of children. As a new Dad, how does he feel about fatherhood? How many children are too many?