Archive for September, 2013
October 7 is the feast of Our Lady of the Rosary. This feast is a good reminder of the power of the rosary: a simple, beautiful prayer that leads us to Jesus through Mary. Consider praying the rosary together with your spouse and children this October.
What’s your spouse’s favorite flower or snack? Surprise her/him with it.
In today’s reading, the parable of the rich man and Lazarus (Luke 16: 19-31), Jesus challenges our attitudes towards the poor. How has your marriage been a blessing to someone in need? Is there something you can do today?
Do you know a childhood disappointment of your beloved? A goal or dream that was never achieved? If not, ask. Console. Is it too late?”
“Before we were married I expected that Rita would always be ready for sex when I was and that we would do it the way they vote in Chicago – early and often.” (Bob Boeke) Over time sexual desires can diverge. The cure? Patience, creativity, and compromise.
In a now-famous interview, Pope Francis shared many insights about marriage and the family. David Gibson writes about the Holy Father’s take on community, patience, “daily sanctity,” and more.
Over the years spouses learn little tricks to make life together work more smoothly. Are there any adjustments you’ve decided to make to accommodate your beloved’s idiosyncrasies like timing, temperature, eating, or sleeping preferences?
Sara is in training to join the Adult Faith Formation team at her parish. In this post, Sara and Justin reflect on discipleship and evangelization, and how they are at the heart of parish life.
Humility is a great asset in marriage provided it is not laziness disguised as humility. “I don’t care. Whatever you want” can be gracious or it can mean you are overly passive. Check it out.
Josh recently spent several weeks away from his family, working at a nuclear power plant. Removed from the routines and responsibilities of family life, Josh reflected on his identity as husband and father. He writes that the “lines of connection” in a family – which can seem like constraints at times – are “freeing and fulfilling because they…anchor me to my truest and deepest identity.”
Christ died for us. Parents give their lives daily for their children. Overlook one fault of your child today. If you don’t have a child, give your spouse a free pass on an annoying habit.
(Reader’s Tip) It’s easy to go about our daily life without really connecting. I make a point of sitting next to my spouse and holding hands to reconnect.
What’s your shopping personality: In and out as quickly as possible; shopping as recreation; never met a bargain I didn’t like; research project? How do you reconcile your differences?
If one of you is sad, sick, or depressed how can you tell? What do you usually do to comfort each other? Does talking about it help or only make it worse? Do hugs and kisses help? Would you rather be left alone? What does your beloved want you to do to help? Ask.
How do you signal each other when you’re ready to leave a party? Does the signal mean say goodbye to the host and leave? Or does it mean, “I’m heading for the door but I’ll probably pass five people on the way and want to have a conversation with each of them.”
How do you feel about parties? Some people love to host them while others prefer going to them. Still others would rather stay home and cocoon. If you don’t have the same socializing style, what compromises have you worked out?
Many married couples wonder, “How can we communicate better?” In her new book “One in the Lord,” spirituality writer Susan Muto talks about the habits that sustain good communication, and especially good listening, such as kindness, other-centered love, and patience.
Marriage is not always 50/50. Sometimes one of you will need to give much more than the other. Striving to give your all to your beloved is better than measuring tit for tat.
Last week Sara and Justin talked about saying “no” to good things. This week, they reflect on the relevance that concept has for the Catholic practice of fasting and/or making a sacrifice on Fridays.
Josh and Stacey’s oldest son is almost a teenager, and in her latest post Stacey reflects back on what it was like when Oscar was a baby. While he wasn’t an “easy” baby, Stacey realizes something about Jesus’ words, “My yoke is easy.” She writes that God gives us work that “is enough to stretch us but not too much to handle.”
“It is easier to build a child than to repair an adult.” (Marilyn Krock) Think about this the next time a child stresses you or your marriage. If you’re tempted to say, “Later, dear” or “Can’t it wait” consider the long term cost benefits, not just your patience.
What’s your favorite food? What’s your spouse’s favorite food? Did you guess right? How soon can you make or buy the favorite for your sweetie?
(Reading: The Prodigal Son) Which person in this parable do you identify with—the father, the younger son, the older son? Ask your spouse. It’s a good way to start a thought-provoking conversation.
(Reader’s Tip) Do you and/or your spouse have parents who have been married a long time? What can you learn from them?
Breaking up is hard to do. But modern technology, and especially social media, might make it even harder to really end a dating relationship, says researcher Scott Stanley. The rise of what he calls “soft” breakups could have effects on a person’s future commitment to a spouse.