Archive for October, 2013
Research says it takes five positive comments to counteract one negative. Try keeping track for one day. If you have children and they’re old enough, maybe they’d like to take part in the count.
Fighting Fair Tip: Pick a good time. That probably means not when one spouse is about to leave the house or just getting home from work. Sleep deprived or frantically busy spouses don’t make receptive listeners either. When is a good time for you?
Today’s Gospel reading (Luke 17:11-19) recounts the story of the ten lepers. All were healed, but only one returned to thank Jesus. For what can you thank your spouse today?
Who usually has the final word in an argument or family decision? If it doesn’t balance out, check if one of you is taking unfair advantage of the other. Somebody may be talking too much.
Two secular magazines recently admitted women’s growing discontent with the Pill. Tired of the unpleasant side effects of hormonal contraception, some women are resorting to the withdrawal method as a way of preventing pregnancy; others are re-discovering fertility awareness-based methods. These trends suggest that the time is ripe to encourage men and women to reconsider the Church’s rich teaching on human sexuality.
Have you ever sought professional help for troubles between you? Perhaps you don’t need it, but don’t let pride or procrastination rob you of the chance to learn new skills and heal.
What prompts your beloved to cry? Nothing? Anything? A sad movie? How do you usually respond? Is it a welcome response?
What will your legacy be? Sara reflects here on the “little moments” of sacrifice for the good of her husband and son. “While small, these are tasks of monumental importance because it is through them that I will leave my legacy.”
Josh recently returned from a great weekend with his dad, watching baseball and making memories. In this post, he expresses his gratitude for the sacrifices Stacey made to let him have this trip: “I felt like she had my full thriving in mind – that she wanted the best for me, regardless of what that might mean for her.”
Does one of you desire more creature comforts than the other? Be flexible. Can you accept what you have, whether a lot or a little?
October is both Domestic Violence Awareness Month and Respect Life Month. In this Respect Life pamphlet, psychologist Frank J. Moncher, PhD recognizes the painful assault on human dignity that is domestic violence.
Learn something from a child today. From an infant it might be to let others care for you; from a school age child it could be a technology tip, teens can cue you to a cutting edge movie, from a young adult it might be an insight about relationships.
Do you feel anxious about something today? Sharing it can lessen its power. Look for a positive thought to balance your anxiety.
What is your role in marital disputes – the problem solver, peacemaker, challenger? Are you satisfied with how you solve disagreements? If not, it’s easy to get helpful ideas from this website.
Gifts on birthdays and Christmas are fine, but a surprise trinket/flowers may be even more delightful.
How do you use the “waiting” times of your life? Waiting for your spouse to get dressed or put on makeup? Waiting at the doctor’s office, red lights, commercials, or check out lanes? Use these as a prompt to pray rather than getting impatient.
In this book, popular authors Greg and Lisa Popcak offer solid advice to newly-married couples. They cover topics such as conflict, sex, and prayer.
Share a childhood memory with your beloved. What was your favorite song, TV show, toy, or outdoor activity? Is it possible to recreate it for a date?
Did you know that the parents of St. Therese of Lisieux, whose feast we celebrate October 1st, have been beatified? Louis and Zelie Martin exemplified faith, hope, and love in their marriage and family life. They suffered the loss of four children and a rebellious daughter, but their trust in God and love for each other stayed strong.
“Lately, I’ve noticed myself becoming dissatisfied with Facebook,” writes Sara. “If I want to make a difference in the world, I need to think smaller…I need to focus on the people I encounter in person on a regular basis.”
Today’s feast of the Guardian Angels reminds us of God’s care for us. Sometimes it’s hard to trust that God is with us in difficult times. Have you felt God’s presence during a rough patch in your marriage and family life?
Domestic violence is never justified, said the U.S. bishops in their statement “When I Call for Help.” Read the article to learn recent statistics about domestic violence and to become more familiar with “When I Call for Help.”
October is Respect Life Month. William B. May recalls the importance of marriage between one man and one woman as the best environment to raise a child and notes that marriage best prepares couples to be parents.
The leaves are falling, and the weather is getting cooler. It’s a good time to plan some dates with your beloved. Here are some ideas to get you started.
A phone call during her workday, from her sick son, illuminated the “internal contradiction” Stacey feels between her identity as a mother and her weekday work responsibilities. In this post, she reflects on the challenge of reconciling motherhood and work outside the home – a challenge well-known to many.