Archive for November, 2013
Boredom and frustration are part of life. Let your children experience both so that they can learn how to handle them.
Do emotional or internet affairs count? YES. They are painful because you’re giving your best self to another person and cheating your spouse out of your energy. Besides, it’s usually the first step toward physical infidelity. Pour your energy into making this marriage work.
Do you sometimes “beat around the bush” with your spouse rather than ask a direct question? Practice using tact and gentleness to ask a difficult question.
Military service is a challenge not just to the families involved, but to parishes and the wider society. Archbishop Timothy Broglio discusses issues that confront military marriages, including finances, reentry into society, and post-traumatic stress.
Fighting Fair Tip: Hold hands. It may sound corny but try holding hands when discussing something sensitive. It physically reminds you that you may disagree about something, but that you’re still connected and committed to each other.
Do you and your spouse have similar or different political views? Just as serious political and religious differences challenge our country, they can also stress a marriage because they reflect our deepest values. Seek the common good, not just my good.
What do you think your spouse’s most cherished personal possession is? Check it out. Were you right?
Do you thrive on routine, or love being spontaneous? Sara and Justin write about the importance of routine to their marriage and family life: “I am convinced that our routine is the key to thriving as persons and maintaining the balance we need in our family.”
In new research on divorce, Catholics enjoy a lower-than-average divorce rate – a sign of hope. But marriage rates continue to be low among both Catholics and the general public – a sign of concern and a reminder of the need to encourage young people to embrace the vocation of lifelong marriage.
What’s the wisest thing you’ve done so far in your life (other than marrying your beloved)? How is your spouse wise?
Hospitality has always been important to the Noems. Here, Josh talks about being hospitable…to his wife: making her homecoming after work pleasant and tending to her needs.
One way to prepare your children for a healthy marriage is to let them see you courting and being romantic with each other. Within the bounds of propriety, of course, a little playfulness helps them see the wholesomeness of married life.
November’s Saint of the Month is St. Elizabeth of Hungary. Married at a young age, St. Elizabeth and her husband Louis enjoyed an exceptionally happy marriage. St. Elizabeth endured the death of her husband and was renowned for her works of charity. She died at age 24.
November is national adoption month. Read MaryPat and Tom’s story about adopting four children after experiencing the heartache of infertility. “We could not even begin to have known how much more joy God’s plan for us would bring,” writes MaryPat.
What does your spouse do that makes you laugh? Often it’s the silly idiosyncrasies or foibles that can be special secrets between you.
Today’s reading from the Book of Wisdom reminds us that God loves all that He has made. Just for today, try to see you spouse as God does—precious and lovable despite his/or faults.
(All Soul’s Day) Do you know much about your spouse’s deceased relatives? Spend some time remembering and telling stories about the holy people in each other’s past. They may not have been perfect, but they are all in the family.
Looking for good advice about disciplining children? Popular author and psychologist Ray Guarendi weaves his typical humor and common sense into true-to-life “discipline scenes” and offers “stage directions” to Mom and Dad. Readable as a whole or in parts.
On the first two days of November, the Church celebrates two great feasts: All Saints Day (November 1) and All Souls Day (November 2). How are these feasts linked, and what does it mean to remember our beloved dead?
During the month of November Catholics traditionally pray for deceased family members and friends. What do we believe these prayers can accomplish?
(All Saints Day) The Catholic Church honors all saints known and unknown today. Although your spouse may not always act like a saint, look for a saintly quality today. Is he or she generous, humble, self-sacrificing, courageous? Celebrate the saint you are living with today.