Archive for December, 2013
(New Year’s Eve) New Year’s Eve can be a rousing time – if you’re single. Less so, if you’re married and even more complicated if you have young children. Why not use this day to take stock of what you liked best about last year. Share it in a quiet moment with your honey and […]
A Christmas two-for-one special: two posts about Christmastime by Stacey and Josh. Stacey writes about the importance of “presence” – not just presents – at Christmas, while Josh writes about the importance of traditions for families and faith life.
As 2014 begins, Sara and Justin say a heartfelt “goodbye” to their blog readers and share their favorite posts from the past three years. The For Your Marriage website is grateful for all they’ve contributed and wishes them all the best in future endeavors!
“On the 5th Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 5 gold rings.” Really only one is necessary and that’s the wedding band. But gold is a precious metal and reminds us of the precious love we share. Which of you cares more about jewelry? Both? Neither?
(Holy Family Sunday) Today’s reading (Sir 3:2-6,12-14) reminds us to honor our parents all the days of our lives. Do you treat your spouse’s parents with the same respect you treat your own? Do you help your spouse take care of their needs?
“On the 4th Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 4 Calling Birds.” What do you call each other? Honey? Babe? Darlin’? What pet name would you like your beloved to call you? When do you call each other? On trips? From work? On a cell phone?
“On the 3rd Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 3 French Hens.” French hens are known for their gentleness. Be gentle with each other today, a tender caress or a soothing word would be perfect.
“On the 2nd Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 2 Turtle Doves.” Turtle doves are migratory birds that form strong pair bonds. Perhaps you are traveling over the holidays, hopefully together. Even if you are separated, confirm your commitment to each other.
What’s left of Christmas when we strip away the gift-giving, parties and decorations? It’s the reality that God has taken on human flesh, been born as one of us, like us in all things except sin. Fr. Larry Rice explains.
(Christmas) If you are a parent, take a moment today to ponder the awesome miracle of your child’s birth. If you are not a parent, ponder a mysterious way that God has acted in your life. Look around. It’s there.
(Chistmas Eve) Christmas traditions are important but some just add stress to our lives. Christmas Eve Mass is nice but not with cranky kids. A special meal is unifying – but not if it makes you cranky. Pause for five minutes today to be quiet. Simplify your expectations.
Enjoy the Christmas lights with your spouse: at the mall, on your street, on the city tree, in your own home. How has your spouse been a light in your life?
What makes a happy marriage? Many things of course, but one glue that helps a lot of couples is being able to laugh when things go wrong. Is there a blunder that happened in your past that you’re now able to laugh about?
(Winter Solstice) Dec. 21 is the longest night of the year. Advent is about waiting in the uncertainty of darkness. Ponder the times you have waited in the dark with a family member. Perhaps it was illness, or maybe fear, that kept you in vigil together. Be not afraid.
What husbands like to hear: “I love being married to you.” “I think you’re a hunk.” “I really respect the way you handled that.” “You turn me on.” “You are right.” What could you say today?
What wives like to hear: “Let me help you with that.” “I’m so glad I married you.” “I love the way that outfit looks on you.” You’re an awesome wife and mother.” “Sounds like you had an exasperating day.” “You are right.” What could you say today?
Emily Macke looks at a relatively new phenomenon called “co-parenting,” where two (or more) adults contract with each other to have a child, without any expectations of relationships between them.
Sometimes it can be frightening to embark upon a big change in life – a birth, a death, changing a job, retirement…Call to mind a fear from the past or a current one. Trust that sharing it with your beloved will be safe.
Justin teaches a health class to college students, and at the end of the semester the topic of sexually transmitted diseases is covered. He writes here that he hopes to show the students that chastity really does lead to happiness.
Parenting teens can put stress on a marriage. If you have teenagers you know that you can’t always pick the time when they are in the mood to talk. When they do open up, the parent needs to STOP and LISTEN.
Often enough, Christmastime is stressful for couples, overloaded with everyone else’s high expectations and the competing demands of family, friends and workplace associates. What are some of the causes of
For no particular reason make tonight’s dinner special: Light candles, sip a glass of wine, turn on soft music. Relax and enjoy each other’s company.
In today’s Gospel (Mt 11:2-11) Jesus reminds John’s disciples about the fruits of his ministry. How has your marriage helped the people around you, in your family, parish, or community?
At Mass on Sunday, December 15 you’ll probably see the priest wearing rose-colored vestments. Learn about the significance as we mark the midway point of Advent.
Affair-proof your marriage. Often affairs start because one partner starts confiding in a friend of the opposite sex. Once personal troubles are compassionately received by another, a bond starts to deepen. If something’s troubling you enough, a counselor is the safer outlet.