Archive for January, 2014
(St. John Bosco) Sometimes spouses have different conversation goals. I might raise an issue because I want to complain about how something didn’t work. My husband used to think I wanted him to explain why it didn’t work or try to fix it. Now I just say, “Hey, I just want to vent.”
In his 2014 World Day of Peace message, Pope Francis emphasized the importance of recognizing all human persons as our brothers and sisters – a recognition that begins in our families.
Our Christmas journeys (and hosting) this year taught us the importance of being present with others – a lesson the three wise men knew well.
When long-married couples are asked the recipe for marital success, many identify patience as a key ingredient. It’s the indispensable virtue for living together day after day in relative peace, without constant struggles to change the other to our liking.
How much does it cost to get married in the Catholic Church?
Actually, nothing. Sacraments are not for sale. It’s appropriate, however, for the bride and groom to share their joy and, in generosity, to contribute to the support of the Church and its ministers.
Parents and families play a crucial role in fostering vocations to the priesthood and consecrated life. One religious sister reflects on specific ways that her family formed her to hear and heed God’s call.
“The deepest insecurity for women is the fear of isolation and deprivation, and for men it’s a dread of failure and shame.” (Kristin Taveira) Does this ring true for you? Check it out with each other.
In 2 Samuel, we hear of King David giving in to lust for Bathsheba and then covering it up. Don’t put yourself in places of temptation. Put your energy into the one you vowed to love.
(St. Thomas Aquinas) Do your kids drain you of so much energy that you just want to stay home and veg out on a Saturday night? Consider sharing kids! Offer to take another couple’s child(ren) one night to give them a break. Then trade the favor the next week. Or if you don’t have kids, […]
(St. Angela Merici) “Marriage is a lifelong partnership of the whole of life.” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan) Partnership here means sharing in life together, helping each other, journeying together toward heaven. Does that describe your marriage?
“I urge you, brothers and sisters…that there be no divisions among you.” (1 Cor 1:10) Husbands and wives united in love are a great gift to the world! Consider those things that divide you and your spouse: old grudges or disagreements. Ask the Holy Spirit for the gift of unity.
(Conversion of St. Paul) Today we celebrate the conversion of St. Paul. Conversion is an ongoing process for all of us. Talk with your beloved today about “conversion moments” you’ve experienced – big or small.
(St. Francis de Sales) There are people in our midst who quietly go about doing thankless jobs like cleaning the toilet, changing sheets, stocking grocery shelves, picking up other people’s garbage, or working in a fast food restaurant. Thank someone for making your life easier. Maybe it’s your spouse.
David Gibson served for 37 years on the editorial staff at Catholic News Service, where he was the founding and long-time editor of Origins, CNS Documentary Service. David received a bachelor’s degree from St. John’s University in Minnesota and an M.A. in religious education from The Catholic University of America. Married for 38 years, he […]
“Where you put your time, you put your life.” (Clayton Barbeau) What are your deepest values? Does the way you spend your time reflect these? If not, why not? Take charge.
(Roe v. Wade Anniv) Marriage is the “sanctuary of life.” (Bl. John Paul II) We grieve today the loss of so many lives to abortion. Do something pro-life today: pray together for the protection of human life or visit a sick, elderly, or disabled person. Little actions of kindness build a culture of life.
(St. Agnes) “Taking time to rest is not a waste of time.” (Susan Vogt) Give yourself a break today or tomorrow – from kids, a chore, worries. It doesn’t have to be long to refresh. Take your cue from God, our creator, who rested on the seventh day.
(MLK Jr. Day) Do you have a dream for your life together? You may not express it like Martin Luther King did, but having a dream gives direction to your life. Tell each other your dreams.
Sunday “Here I am, Lord; I come to do your will.” (Ps 40:8a, 9a) When’s the last time you and your spouse have prayed together to know God’s will for your family? Spend time today asking the Lord what more he has to teach you. Pray to be always ready to do His will.
Jesus often reminds his disciples not to be afraid: “Take heart, it is I; do not be afraid.” (Mt 14: 27) We are human, however, and we still have fears. What are you afraid of? Share your fears with your beloved, and encourage each other.
(St. Anthony) Did you have a dream last night? Recently? You say you seldom remember dreams? Make an intention to remember tonight’s dream. You may be surprised. Share your scariest dream with your spouse.
Winning an argument is not about proving you’re right. It’s not YOUR problem or MY problem. It’s OUR problem. Sometimes the marriage can win if you lose.
You may not think about your decision to marry as a call from God, but rather as an intense attraction to your beloved. Hmm, isn’t that what compelled the apostles to follow Jesus?
Parenting can be a joy but can also put stress on a marriage. Parenting young children is physically demanding. Parenting teens is emotionally draining. Take time today to reconnect with your spouse.
Are you a talker while your beloved is quieter – or vice-versa? Are you happy with the balance you have in conversation? If yes, count your blessings. If not, talk about it – but make sure the quieter one starts.