Our Greatest Adventure
Sara: I’ve been so excited to read about fellow For Your Marriage blogger Stacey’s travels to Madrid for World Youth Day. During the last World Youth Day, I watched and read coverage over various forums, and saw the life changing experiences pilgrimages enjoyed. I then decided I wanted to try to attend the next World Youth Day in Spain.
As Justin and I planned for our wedding, marriage, and new life together, at some point I realized it wasn’t feasible with both timing and financially for Justin to go to El Salvador in May, for us to get married in June, go on a honeymoon in July, and for me to attend World Youth Day in Spain in August.
As World Youth Day began to gear up, I realized I didn’t have any reservations about not being able to go. For Stacey and many others attending, this pilgrimage was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, and I am so excited to have the opportunity to learn and grow through their adventures. For me, during the same time, I was content to be experiencing exactly what I was supposed to at the time – the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity of being a newlywed.
That’s not to say that just because we are married our “adventures” outside the great adventure of our lives together are through. Justin very much wants to go ice fishing with his family in North Dakota again this year, and it’s not very realistic for me to take that much time off of work. If the opportunity presents itself, he may even lead another mission trip to a Latin American country while I take care of the home front. Likewise, I imagine sometimes Justin will take care of the home front while I potentially travel or have other adventures, just as Stacey and Josh do for each other. I very much enjoy reading how much of a team they are, and I hope Justin and I can live up to their example.
And I’m surprised to say that both engagement and marriage have changed me such that the idea of a “grand globetrotting adventure” no longer holds the same appeal it once did. While I would one day enjoy the opportunity to see Rome, Europe, or a Latin American country, I no longer dream about them in the same way. Right now, I’m content to be exactly where I am.
Justin: It’s important to understand that you can still have adventures. However, I think it is also important to understand that they have to be calculated adventures. You should get married because you want your life to change, to be fuller. Every adventure now affects two (even if only one of you is taking it). I sometimes hear stories or see men on TV who have gotten married but don’t realize this. They want to make plans as if no one else matters. To me this is really sad because they are missing one of the biggest truths about marriage; every adventure is better when you can share it with someone.
Sara: I now realize my greatest adventure in life will not be to Europe, Latin America, or even Rome. Despite any traveling I may do, my greatest adventure will be in helping my family grow in holiness, and helping them know, love, and serve God more fully.