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For Your Marriage

Meet Sara and Justin. They married in June 2011, they welcomed their first child in August 2012.

The Grass Is Green

Sara: Lately, Justin and I have been heading to open houses on Sunday afternoon as we begin to discuss the possibility of buying a house. Several times a month, we’ll look online at the open houses, and pick a few to attend. We’re trying to see lots of houses at several different price points so we can determine what is important to us in a house, and what a realistic budget is for us.

We are also watching a lot of home and garden television online lately, and it is fun to dream together and plan for our future.

We haven’t picked out a realtor, so most of our dreaming occurs online or at open houses. We think we’d like to buy come spring, but perhaps a good deal on the right house could change our minds.

Going “house shopping” is both fun and hard. It’s hard because it’s easy to become discontented with our current place. After looking at a three bedroom house, it’s easy to say that our two bedroom apartment is too small, too noisy, or has too small of a kitchen. It’s especially easy to wish away our lives with future dreams. It’s easy to say, I can’t wait until we have a house…or a car….or our first child. We (well, probably mostly me) have to work hard to enjoy what’s been put in front of us today.

Justin: It’s easy to be attracted to something when no demands are placed on you. About a month ago we looked at a house which I just loved. Especially the basement, as I could already picture myself watching the game on my new big screen TV. I was actually thinking to myself, “Maybe this house is worth changing our plans for.” Then Sara asked, “Are you ready shovel the snow this winter?”

Let’s just say that my desire to own a home melted faster than the first snowfall will.

I think this is an important lesson. We will be attracted to many things in life and it is easy to have a “grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” mentality. That’s only true because I don’t have to cut the grass on the other side of the fence. Many of the temptations that we face creep up on us in this way. The pleasure or the appeal is desirable only because it places no demands on us. Perhaps we want to escape to work because we don’t want to face a problem at home. Or perhaps, we want to have a million Facebook friends because we only have to communicate with them when it meets our needs. After all, our friends and families can seem so needy sometimes, can’t they?

Sara: It was great when our toilet broke a week or two ago to call Mr. Landlord, and the toilet was fixed the next day. We enjoy not having to spend our Saturdays mowing, or getting up at 5 am to shovel snow before heading to work. And, if we don’t like our neighbors, it’s not too difficult to move.

While it’s fun to think about the future, I’m trying to be grateful for all God’s blessings. Hopefully, one day, we’ll be living in our own house. Right now, I’m going to try to be content watching our apartment complex mow the grass and shovel the snow.