Archive for ‘For Every Marriage’
Breaking Open the Theme In creating man and woman for each other, God made marriage to be love-giving and life-giving. We call these two purposes or “ends” of marriage the unitive and the procreative. They are inseparably connected and are ordered to each other. The two purposes cannot be separated “without altering the couple’s spiritual […]
Breaking Open the Theme In the beginning, says Sacred Scripture, God created man and woman in his image, “male and female He created them” (Gn 1:27). In His wisdom, God planned that man and woman would be made “for each other”: “they are equal as persons…and complementary as masculine and feminine” (Catechism of the Catholic […]
Breaking Open the Theme As Adam recognized Eve as God’s gift to him, likewise spouses should recognize each other as God’s gift in their lives. Through life’s journey, sometime a husband or wife may need to reflect on the gift of the other, especially when misunderstandings or difficulties arise. To remember how this person came […]
Breaking Open the Theme “Among the many blessings that God has showered upon us in Christ is the blessing of marriage, a gift bestowed by the Creator from the creation of the human race” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan, p. 1). The vocation to marriage is inscribed in the very nature […]
Breaking Open the Theme Jesus heals marriage and restores it to its original purity of permanent self-giving in one flesh. But the Lord does not stop there. Christ generously invites husband and wife to participate in His spousal love for his Church. Christian spouses are invited to model their love on God’s inner life and […]
Breaking Open the Theme The early Church understood the Christian family as an ecclesia domestica, or domestic Church. This idea recognizes that the smallest expression of the Church is not the parish, but the Christian family. The family, our first community, is the basic way God gathers us and forms us. Christian families not only […]
As Thanksgiving approaches, we take time to think of the many people in our lives for whom we are grateful. How about starting with our spouse?
A lack of common values can be a deal-breaker in a marriage. How close are you and your spouse, or fiance(e), on basic marriage values? Try this short exercise.
How can a couple discern God’s will when making moral decisions? That’s a critical question in any marriage. Moral decision-making is a process that includes prayerful reflection, conversation, and evaluation before reaching a conclusion. Here are some specific steps.
As summer begins, it’s good to remember that rest, relaxation, and even play can be helpful in a marriage. Play as a virtue? Of course! Whether we call it playfulness, a sense of humor, or a joyous spirit, this virtue can help a marriage over the rough spots and deepen intimacy. Here are some ideas for cultivating playfulness in your marriage.
Did you try to simplify your life this Lent? Do you wonder what it would be like to live simply throughout the year? Here are some ideas for making simplicity a lasting and fulfilling way to live.
Do you and your spouse seem to have the same arguments? A best-selling author identifies the top five arguments that occur in every family and shows how to stop them.
Anger management experts often advise couples to try to move from “unhealthy” to “healthy” anger. Dr. David Sanderlin points out that “healthy anger” is not all it’s cracked up to be. He shows how couples can grow towards a Christ-like, anger-free marital love.
Problems are part of every marriage. The U.S. Catholic Bishops have identified a variety of resources to help couples with marital difficulties–everything from skills-building programs and support groups to professional counseling.
The recent royal wedding has prompted many people to wonder: What makes for a happy,enduring marriage? It’s not just luck! Read what social science research has discovered.
Easter is an exciting time as the Catholic Church welcomes tens of thousands of new members. Each has a story of conversion. Read about some of these new Catholics and their journeys of faith.
Have you ever thought about how uniquely we approach a difficult situation when we know there is no other option? We put our heads together and keep working until we figure out a game plan. We get help. We pray. Sometimes, we hold our breath, muddle through until time passes and things change but we […]
As the effects of the Great Recession continue, many couples are struggling with unemployment and its consequent stress. But couples are not powerless in the face of job loss. Here are seven positive actions a couple can take.
(From “Thriving Marriages” by John Yzaguirre, Ph.D., and Claire Frazier-Yzaguirre, M.Div., M.F.T, New City Press, 2004. http://www.thrivingfamilies.com/) It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted or just putting up with each other. One husband described this bluntly: “When I get home my dog is the only one who seems excited to […]
The children have left home. You’re physically and emotionally tired, and perhaps feeling disconnected from your spouse. Can you really reinvent your marriage for the second half? Two well-known marriage educators offer some concrete tips and encouragement.
The holiday season is back. With family gatherings, high expectations and the pressure to make everyone happy, December can be the most stressful month of the year. How can couples keep their cool and make sure their marriage stays strong and that children see them at their best?
Pride is a mortal enemy to love, and also to lasting marital happiness. The antidote is humility–an acceptance of who and what we are.
Couples often speak of the joy of having married their best friend. What does friendship in marriage look like and how can it be nurtured?
Newly married couples begin life together in anticipation that their marriages will last. If a marital relationship subsequently ruptures couples can find themselves in very uncertain and sometimes fearful circumstances.
When we come to marriage we each bring our histories – healed or broken, reflected upon or repressed – to our life together. Our vocation is to help each other become fully human. This means finding a way to share hurts, to risk allowing the other person to know us so intimately that we are willing to open up old wounds and allow God to heal them through each other. Marriage at its best creates a safe space where healing and forgiveness can take place.