Archive for ‘Marriage Resource Center’
Do one or both of you struggle with pornography use? Despite what the culture says, pornography use is never okay. It can cause severe harm to marriages and families. For help, look into the “Create in Me a Clean Heart” resources available from the USCCB: www.usccb.org/cleanheart
“Blessed are those who have not seen and have believed!” (Jn 20:29) While we don’t see the Risen Lord like Thomas did, we still encounter Him in the Eucharist. On this Divine Mercy Sunday, thank God especially for the gift of His mercy which is ever abundant and ever new.
“It is at home that people truly learn to live, to value life and health, freedom and peace, justice and truth, work, harmony and respect.” (Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI) What did your family teach you growing up? How do you teach truth to your family today? What do you still have to learn?
In the midst of married life, Kathleen is inspired by the words of Mother Teresa, “do small things with great love.” It is the little, selfless acts of love, Kathleen notes, that strengthen married life.
You’ve heard of “Take your child to work day,” but what about “Take your spouse to work day”? Your spouse doesn’t need to take a day off work to join you, but does your beloved know enough about your work environment to understand your stresses? Does your spouse know your colleagues?
Is your marriage going through a rocky spell? It’s tempting to blame it on a stressful job, the kids, or getting older. All of these things can stress a marriage, but not necessarily kill it. To find the underlying cause most couples need help. Don’t be afraid to ask for it.
Where did all the flowers and magic go? Infatuation may get a couple together but eventually fades and romance alone will not keep you together over the long haul. Common values, commitment to each other, and shared experiences are the glue.
The noise of daily life can be tiring and distracting. On his annual retreat at a nearby monastery, Dennis reflects on the beauty of silence and creation, two important ways the Lord speaks to us.
“Praying the Rosary together, as a family, is very beautiful and a source of great strength!” (Pope Francis) Do you pray the rosary as a family? Try it!
Reminder: Easter lasts for 50 days! (Lent was only 40.) A lesson that joy will have the last word. How can you and your spouse practice being joyful this Easter season?
Christ is risen! Alleluia! Celebrate new life today. Recall a hardship in your marriage that is now history. Rejoice that you’ve weathered it together. Remember this, and Jesus’ Resurrection, in future tough times.
Today, as we mourn Christ’s death and await Easter morning, remember those who grieve. Perhaps it is your own family. Share in each other’s grief to make the burden lighter.
“Spouses are therefore the permanent reminder to the Church of what happened on the Cross.” (St. John Paul II) Powerful. As a sacrament, marriage shows to the world the love Christ has for His Church – love that took Him to the Cross. Pray to live this love in your own marriage.
“As I have done for you, you should also do,” Jesus tells his disciples after washing their feet. (Jn 13:15) A tall order! Talk with your spouse about ways to “wash their feet” – do small, humble acts of service for each other.
Would your spouse describe you as a good listener? If you’re not sure, humbly seek out their opinion, and be willing to grow.
“Marriage…is to be a school for nurturing gratitude.” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan) How do you foster gratitude in your marriage? Try coming up with three things every night to be grateful for. Add them to a “gratitude journal” and count your blessings!
If you want someone to change, encouragement is more effective than criticism. Look for one thing about your spouse or child’s behavior that you can compliment today. Although easier with pre-schoolers, perhaps sending an older child an e-mail or text would work. Kiss your spouse.
Hosanna to the King of Kings! The start of Holy Week – with its stark reading of Jesus’ Passion – is a great reminder to reexamine our hearts. Is Jesus the King of our marriage and our home? Pray to enter fully into Holy Week with your spouse and children.
Don’t let the “terrible trifles” eat away at your marriage. If the kind of toilet paper is important to your wife, don’t fight it. If your husband likes to buy in bulk to save money, it may be an annoyance but not the hill you want to die on. Try to find the good in […]
From the moment a man and woman say their vows, they become a new family, and being a family includes the possibility of children. Soon-to-be-married Brooke reflects on what it means to be open to life both before and after her wedding.
Parents-in-law can be a great support both practically and emotionally to a young married couple, but the negative jokes and stereotypes about in-laws aren’t created out of thin air. If there’s in-law tension in your marriage, talk about boundaries and always treat your spouse’s parents with respect.
Do you find yourself giving your spouse the “dregs” of your time? Whatever your life circumstances, making time for one another is an ongoing challenge. Try taking a good hard look at how you spend your time: what could be cut out? Could you “schedule in” your spouse more often?
A meal is a holy thing to share. Who cooks, prepares the table, or cleans up in your family? Is one of you very nutrition conscious and the other not? It doesn’t have to be gourmet to be healthy and delicious. Who talks the most? Who leads a prayer? Share it all.
Did you know that there are many married saints? If you’re not familiar with any, do some research. You might start with reading about St. Thomas More, St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, and St. Gianna Molla.
Pope Writes on Theme for 9th World Meeting of Families, “The Gospel of the Family: Joy for the World”
In a letter written in anticipation of the 2018 World Meeting of Families in Dublin, Pope Francis announced the theme of the meeting and expressed his hopes for a deepening and strengthening of the Gospel of the “joy of the family.”