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St. Catherine of Siena boldly proclaimed her love for Christ. How can you courageously accept your call of discipleship?
When you feel negative about something your spouse says, try to look at the statement from a different perspective (especially his/hers) before responding.
Thank your spouse for something s/he does for you, especially on a daily basis. A text mid-day or a welcome home “thank you” goes a long way.
Love needs care and cultivation; it can’t grow on its own. Talk with your spouse about areas where your love needs some growth.
Schedule a lunch break call with your spouse this week if possible. Don’t talk logistics, just check in about how each of you are doing.
“The former heaven and the former earth had passed away and the sea was no more” (Rev 21:1). If all earthly matters are pushed aside, what does your marriage look like? Talk with your spouse about it.
Make spring cleaning fun! Set aside the day in advance and end the night with a favorite movie or dessert. Make sure to plan a special lunch to keep the helpers engaged!
What helps you calm down when you are upset? Are there “trigger” words that cause situations to escalate? Identify these and work with your spouse to adjust your conversations accordingly.
Of all of the things you have to do today, is time with your spouse a priority? Be sure to give him/her the attention s/he deserves.
Spring planting time! Plant some lettuce outside, or prepare the soil for summer crops. Do the work with your spouse and add some fresh air to your daily routine.
Finances aren’t always fun, but they can be! Take a date night to look at the budget and share some dreams. End it with a favorite dessert.
Know where you are emotionally. Take an inventory throughout the day on how you’re feeling. Talk with your spouse about what events cause strong emotions and how to react well.
“My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all” (Jn 10:29). God has placed us in the care of Christ; pray with your spouse to place your hardships in his hands.
When things are really busy, take fifteen minutes for each other, even if it’s only once a week. Make this time together a top priority.
When it comes time to apologize, try incorporating empathy, and acknowledge rules or promises that were broken. This leads to restoration of relationships.
Now that the weather is warming up, plan a picnic! It’s a great way to spend some quality time together. Make it a just-for-two date or bring the whole family.
“A day without laughter is a day wasted.” – Charlie Chaplin Keep conversation light by laughing at your spouse’s jokes. And say some too!
When conflicts arise, use open-ended questions that allow your spouse to voice his/her feelings and opinions honestly. Avoid asking questions in a demanding tone.
Write a poem to your spouse. Even if you are not creative, you can write it with love!
“Worthy is the Lamb that was slain to receive power and riches, wisdom and strength, honor and glory and blessing” (Rev 5:12). How can your family give God honor and glory? Offer up your Sunday for His glory.
Instead of pointing out faults you see in your spouse, offer ways for improvement. When your spouse does this, be open to his/her feedback.
Organize a sport or game night and invite your friends. Friendly competition can be a great way to spend time with differing personalities.
Add an extra prayer to your daily routine, asking God to bless your spouse’s day.
Consider going the extra mile to spend time with a family member your spouse wants to visit.
Thank your spouse for the lifelong journey he/she chose to take with you – just because.