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Tomorrow is St. Nick’s Day, which means that many parents will put a treat in their child’s shoe tonight. Even if you don’t have a child living with you, consider treating a child whose parents may not. Planning together for ways to help others can draw you closer as a couple.
“John (the Baptist) appeared in the desert proclaiming a baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins.” (Mt 3:1) In any marriage hurts are inevitable. It may not be major, like a sin, but often small, like a pinch. Is there anything to forgive today?
“Children benefit from our ‘presence’ more than our ‘presents’” (Raising Kids Who Will Make a Difference). During this Advent, ponder the tone that time with your spouse, children, and extended family will take during the upcoming Christmas season.
If your parish or employer has a Giving Tree, take your children with you when you buy the gift. Or at least, let them help you wrap it. Your example of helping others will speak more loudly than any words.
What’s your spouse’s primary love language – Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Physical Touch? (Take the test here!) Is yours the same or different?
“Come after Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” (Mt 4:19) St. Andrew immediately responded to Christ’s call. Listen to the voice of God as you go about your day at your job and in your family. What is He calling you to do?
Colder, darker days call for warmer, cozier evenings. Make a hot beverage with your spouse and set aside a few hours for quality time involving board games, a favorite old movie, or long conversation.
“Both husband and wife should try to renew their love day after day, and that is done through sacrifice, with smiles, and also with ingenuity.” – St. Josemaria Escriva
One way to prepare spiritually for Jesus’ coming is to try to correct a bad habit. Have you been overly critical of your spouse? Judgmental? Too preoccupied to really listen? Pick one fault and work on it.
Tomorrow marks the beginning of a new liturgical year. Take a spiritual inventory of the past year with your spouse. Make a spiritual New Year’s Resolution for the new liturgical year to grow in holiness.
Instead of joining the craziness of Black Friday shopping, go through your belongings and set things aside to donate.
“And now, bless the God of all, who has done wondrous things on earth.” (Sir 50:22) There is no better way to celebrate Thanksgiving than with prayers of gratitude!
Today, make a list of things you love about each member of your family and share it with them.
Today is the feast of St. Cecilia, the patron saint of music. Choose a favorite hymn to sing together. If anyone in your family is musically gifted, encourage them to share their gifts with your family today.
Fatigue and burnout can be a big adversary in married life. Make time for leisure and prayer.
Jesus is the King of the universe. No matter how dark things may seem in the world, there is always hope. Let your family be a witness to the victory of Christ!
Do you find yourself comparing your marriage or family life to others around you? Gratitude is the best remedy against jealousy.
November is traditionally the month to remember the faithful departed. Visit a nearby graveyard together and say a prayer for the dead, especially those in your family.
In times of discouragement, turn to the saints. Each one is unique! They lived lives of holiness in all kinds of circumstances, and are always ready to help us.
Marriage and family life are about the ultimate goal: heaven. Fix your eyes there.
Have a weekday treat together: pick up doughnuts in the morning, go out for ice cream after dinner, or bake some cookies, just because.
Put on your listening ears and make an effort to talk intentionally with your spouse about their day.
Jesus says in today’s Gospel, “By your perseverance you will secure your lives.” Pray today for the grace for you and your family to persevere even when life is most difficult.
Do you know any veterans in your family, neighborhood, or parish? Together, call or visit them to thank them for their sacrifice.
Do the two of you have a favorite song or a good musical memory? Make a playlist and spend some time slow (or fast!) dancing together.