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April 16, 2014

Would your spouse describe you as a good listener? If you’re not sure, humbly seek out their opinion, and be willing to grow.


April 15, 2014

“Marriage…is to be a school for nurturing gratitude.” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan) How do you foster gratitude in your marriage? Try coming up with three things every night to be grateful for. Add them to a “gratitude journal” and count your blessings!


April 14, 2014

If you want someone to change, encouragement is more effective than criticism. Look for one thing about your spouse or child’s behavior that you can compliment today. Although easier with pre-schoolers, perhaps sending an older child an e-mail or text would work. Kiss your spouse.


April 13, 2014

Hosanna to the King of Kings! The start of Holy Week – with its stark reading of Jesus’ Passion – is a great reminder to reexamine our hearts. Is Jesus the King of our marriage and our home? Pray to enter fully into Holy Week with your spouse and children.


April 12, 2014

Take a trip down memory lane. Retell the story of your engagement and wedding day to each other or your kids. What was the craziest, funniest, most endearing part of these milestones for you?


April 11, 2014

Fighting Fair Tip: Use “I feel” statements. This is an old standby but it still works. Instead of saying, “You make me so angry when you…” say, “I feel upset when you… Would you be willing to …” It’s not a magic cure but it decreases defensiveness.


April 10, 2014

Is the internet robbing you of couple time? Sure it saves time and answers a lot of questions, but it can also be an addiction. If your spouse complains about it, it’s a problem. Decide on mutually agreeable limits.


April 9, 2014

Do one or both of you struggle with pornography use? Despite what the culture says, pornography use is never okay. It can cause severe harm to marriages and families. For help, visit www.foryourmarriage.org and search for “Overcoming obstacles: pornography.”


April 8, 2014

Don’t let the “terrible trifles” eat away at your marriage. If the kind of toilet paper is important to your wife, don’t fight it. If your husband likes to buy in bulk to save money, it may be an annoyance but not the hill you want to die on. Try to find the good in […]


April 7, 2014

Do you find yourself giving your spouse the “dregs” of your time? Whatever your life circumstances, making time for one another is an ongoing challenge. Try taking a good hard look at how you spend your time: what could be cut out? Could you “schedule in” your spouse more often?


April 6, 2014

And Jesus wept.” (Jn 11:45) Such meaning for so short a verse! Spouses share in each other’s joys…and sorrows. Don’t be afraid to weep together when heartbreaking things happen. Jesus showed his love for Lazarus through his tears.


April 5, 2014

A meal is a holy thing to share. Who cooks, prepares the table, or cleans up in your family? Is one of you very nutrition conscious and the other not? It doesn’t have to be gourmet to be healthy and delicious. Who talks the most? Who leads a prayer? Share it all.


April 4, 2014

Did you know that there are many married saints? If you’re not familiar with any, do some research. You might start with reading about St. Thomas More, St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, and St. Gianna Molla.


April 3, 2014

Parents-in-law can be a great support both practically and emotionally to a young married couple, but the negative jokes and stereotypes about in-laws aren’t created out of thin air. If there’s in-law tension in your marriage, talk about boundaries and always treat your spouse’s parents with respect.


April 2, 2014

Pope Francis asked married couples: “How are things when it comes to joy at home? Is there joy in your family?” How would you answer the Pope? He said that true joy “comes from a profound harmony between persons.”


April 1, 2014

Do you like April Fools’ Day pranks…or do they unsettle you? Learning your own temperament, and that of your spouse, can help avoid behaving in a way that’s natural to you but that bothers your spouse. It can also be an opportunity for both of you to grow.


March 31, 2014

Lent is a time of penance and purification but we needn’t walk around with sour faces. Do something foolish on April Fools Day tomorrow. Healthy families laugh together. Does your family have any running jokes?


March 30, 2014

“Not as man does God see…the Lord looks into the heart.” (1 Sam 16:7) Do you look into your spouse’s heart? Do you let them look into yours? Cherish the opportunity to go beyond appearances with the one you love.


March 29, 2014

Marriage is easier if both of you are of the same faith and relatively equal devoutness. Still, inter-religious couples sometimes are pulled into deeper understanding of their faith when explaining it to their beloved and learning about another religion. Praying at home is often unifying.


March 28, 2014

Although hopefully your beloved is either handsome or beautiful to you, many men and women are dissatisfied with their body – it’s too heavy, too thin, too old, too weak. Although love shouldn’t depend on being a hunk or sexy, taking care of oneself is a gift to your spouse.


March 28, 2014

Although hopefully your beloved is either handsome or beautiful to you, many men and women are dissatisfied with their body – it’s too heavy, too thin, too old, too weak. Although love shouldn’t depend on being a hunk or sexy, taking care of oneself is a gift to your spouse.


March 27, 2014

“Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34) Do you need to ask forgiveness from your spouse? Maybe you need to offer it. If there’s nothing recent to forgive, forgive someone you’ve been holding a grudge against. You’ll be more pleasant to be around.


March 26, 2014

Are you, or someone you know, in a troubled marriage? You don’t have to live with the pain; there are people to help you work toward a better marriage. Many couples have worked their way back to satisfying and stronger marriages, but it is work. Check out The Third Option or Retrouvaille for starters.


March 25, 2014

In the midst of the penance and purple of Lent, a feast of such good news! “Behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son,” the angel tells Mary. Couples who await their own “annunciation” bear a heavy burden. Pray for them today, and thank God for the gift of your children if […]


March 24, 2014

“In a family you don’t have to look very far to find your cross,” a father observes in Follow the Way of Love. Who in your family seems to have a mission to purify YOU today, to teach you patience, to challenge you? What cross do you bring to the others in your family?


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