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Advent check-in #1: Does your family have a plan for Advent this year? Even simple traditions like the Advent wreath and Christmas crèche help prepare your hearts and home for the coming of Jesus.
“Beware that your hearts do not become drowsy from…the anxieties of daily life.” (Lk 21:34) Advent is a time of watchful expectation. What anxieties make you “drowsy”? Talk about them with your spouse, and pray for peace.
You may be starting to think about what to get your beloved for Christmas. Consider a “Gift of Words.” Put 10 (25, 5, whatever) reasons that you love your spouse on separate pieces of colored paper and put them in a jar or envelope. Voila! A priceless gift from the heart.
The Thanksgiving feast is over, the house full of stuff or people. Or perhaps you’re traveling. In the holiday hectic schedule have you thanked God for a house to gather in, food to share, family and friends with whom to share memories?
For most families, Thanksgiving is a time to reconnect. It’s also a time when in-laws often mix. Happy marriages benefit from healthy extended families. Seek to know at least one extended family member better today.
Fighting Fair Tip: Keep it current. One couple has the rule of thumb that any issue older than the milk in the refrigerator is no longer game. Recurring arguments usually mean that there’s something behind the presenting problem that irks the other.
Even if it’s not your cup of tea, sometimes it’s worth doing something with your honey just because it pleases the other person. For example, watch her favorite movie or his favorite sport, try dancing together, take a lesson…
Do kids drain you of so much energy that you just want to stay home and veg out on a Saturday night? Consider sharing kids! Offer to take another couple’s child(ren) one night to give them a break. Then trade the favor next week.
“‘I am the Alpha and the Omega,’ says the Lord God.” (Rev 1:8) Jesus, King of the Universe, is the “beginning” and the “end.” As we near the end of the liturgical year, pray to the Lord for a new beginning as well, in whatever difficulty you’re finding it hard to overcome.
“Taking time to rest is not a waste of time.” (Susan Vogt) Give yourself a break today or tomorrow – from kids, a chore, worries. It doesn’t have to be long to refresh. Take your cue from God, our Creator, who rested on the seventh day.
“Fidelity to promises is truly a masterpiece of humanity!” – Pope Francis. Pray today for the grace to be faithful to all your promises, especially those made to your spouse and children.
Sometimes spouses have different conversation goals. One person might want to just talk or vent, while the other might want to fix the problem. Both approaches are fine, but it’s important to be clear about each spouse’s needs in the moment.
St. Elizabeth of Hungary was a married saint. Tragically, her beloved husband died only a few years into their marriage. Today, ask her intercession for widows and widowers, and support those who have lost a spouse.
As the weather gets colder, what inside activities do you like doing with your spouse? Reading, playing games, watching movies? Winter provides a lot of time to relax and just be together with your family.
“The wise shall shine brightly like the splendor of the firmament.” (Dan 12:3) Wisdom is a precious gift and blessing to husbands and wives, fathers and mothers. Pray to the Holy Spirit for wisdom today to live your vocation well.
What is a unique endearing quality of your beloved? Have you told your spouse? No harm in saying it again. Do it today.
What makes a happy marriage? Many things of course, but one glue that helps a lot of couples is being able to laugh when things go wrong. Is there a blunder that happened in your past that you’re now able to laugh about?
“Then the angel said to her, ‘Do not be afraid, Mary.’” Sometimes it can be frightening to embark upon a big change in life – a birth, a death, changing a job, retirement…Call to mind a fear from the past or a current one. Trust that sharing it with your beloved will be safe.
Parenting teens can put stress on a marriage. If you have teenagers you know that you can’t always choose the time when they are in the mood to talk. When they do open up, stop and listen.
November is a time to be thankful for all the gifts that we have, but it is also a time to give back. Is there a charity that you and your spouse could volunteer for this month?
“For they have all contributed from their surplus wealth, but she, from her poverty, has contributed all she had, her whole livelihood.” (Mk 12:44) We are called to give ALL to God, not just our surplus. Offer your day, your work, and your marriage to the Lord. Live for Him.
Affair-proof your marriage. Often affairs start because one spouse starts confiding in a friend of the opposite sex. Once personal troubles are compassionately received by another, a bond starts to deepen. If something’s troubling you a lot, a counselor is the safer outlet.
Fighting Fair Tip: Never say “never” or “always.” It may seem like your spouse always leaves the gas tank on empty, but there’s always an exception that blows your argument. Be more accurate by saying “often” or “sometimes.” It stings less and creates less defensiveness.
What do you think your spouse’s most cherished personal possession is? Check it out. Were you right?
One way to prepare your children for a healthy marriage is to let them see you being romantic with each other. Within the bounds of propriety, of course, a little playfulness helps them see the wholesomeness of married love.