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Have you held hands or hugged your spouse today? Little acts of loving touch boost endorphins and build mental bonds. Win-win!
Do marriage enrichment programs work? Aren’t those just for couples with troubles? Yes and No. Research shows that couples who attend marriage enrichment programs (even if they go reluctantly) report more marital happiness.
“Then repay to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and to God what belongs to God.” (Mt 22:21) It is easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life but you must not forget to devote time to God, both on your own and with your spouse.
St. Luke is the patron of doctors. Nursing a sick or dying family member is an act of love; but can be difficult. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help or take a break.
(Reader’s Tip) Find a task or chore that is your spouse’s least favorite thing to do (taking out the trash, doing the dishes) and do it for them as often as you can.
“The spirit of wisdom came to me.” (Wisdom 7:7) What’s the wisest thing your beloved has ever said or done (besides marrying you)? Tell him or her. What’s the most foolish thing you’ve ever done? Forgive yourself.
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” (Father Theodore Hesburgh) Don’t get so busy caring for your child that you forget the love that brought that child into being.
(Reader’s Tip) Love in marriage is a responsibility to God. If that is understood all else can be resolved.
Have any divorced friends? Many of us do. Divorce and separation are difficult, lonely experiences. Pray for your friends, and offer tangible help, like childcare.
“Go out, therefore, into the main roads and invite to the feast whomever you find.” (Mt 22:9) Consider helping other couples as they prepare for the sacrament of marriage. Bringing others to Christ in their marriage will help to bring your marriage to Christ as well!
Empty nest marriages can be an opportunity to discover new adventures together. You don’t have to have all the same interests but search for something new to do together.
Respecting human life means investing in children and nurturing their lives from conception until adulthood. Do you and your spouse support your friends’ children as well as your own children?
(Reader’s Tip) Always treat each other with respect, whether it’s in front of the children, in public or just the two of you.
“God made them male and female.” (Mk 10:6) Take time today to appreciate each other’s differences as a man or a woman and thank God for your spouse’s strengths.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. If you’re in a healthy marriage, give thanks. If you suspect someone is being abused, make sure they have the National Domestic Violence Hotline number (1-800-799-SAFE).
(Reader’s Tip) My husband and I set the alarm on our smartphones for the same time each day. When the alarm goes off it reminds us to stop and pray for our marriage.
“By the Lord has this been done, and it is wonderful in our eyes.” (Mt 21:42) Do we recognize the wonderful works of the Lord in our lives and marriage? Give thanks to God for the gift of your life and your spouse.
Are you compatible spenders/savers? Being either an extreme spendthrift or a miser can put stress on your marriage. Two spendthrifts are prone to debt. Two misers have little fun. Move to the middle if you need to.
(Reader’s Tip) Talk behind your spouse’s back…to God. If there is something your spouse is struggling with or trying to discern, your prayers on their behalf are very important.
Even if you’re not doing anything dishonest or flirting on Facebook or other social media, it can still steal time from your marriage. Take your eyes off your computer or phone and gaze at your beloved for a while.
October is Respect Life Month. We are reminded to value all human life and creation, especially the unborn, the poor and the vulnerable. Talk with your spouse and consider making a donation of goods, time or money to a group that helps those in need.
Reader’s Tip) My husband and I take turns planning our anniversary each year. Sometimes the plans are a total surprise to the other spouse, sometimes it’s a coordinated effort, but it’s always fun.
Can social media harm your marriage? It may start out innocently, just reconnecting with an old friend. Then you start sharing interests and news that you haven’t told your spouse. Be cautious: Online intimacy can grow and seem more exciting than real life.
Jesus’ parable of the vineyard and the two sons (Mt 21:28-32) reminds us that actions count more than words. Strive to make your words match your actions, and your actions be trustworthy.
(Reader’s Tip) Fall more in love every day. Don’t ever let the romance stop. Buy flowers often.