Archive for ‘Daily Marriage Tip’
St. Benedict taught his monks to have a “rule of life” to order their days. What would your family’s “rule of life” be? Work, leisure, meals, prayer, etc.?
Social Media Tip: Make your status “married” and refer to your spouse in respectful, loving ways on the Internet, lest anyone wonder whether you are available. Let your spouse know your password. There should be nothing to hide.
Technology is wonderful when it works, but sometimes it robs couples of face time. Use tools like e-mailing, Facebook, and texting to connect with each other, not disconnect. A live spouse is better than a virtual one.
Check out the ads in the paper today. List five things you don’t need. Bingo! You’ve reduced your consumer quotient. Free your family of unnecessary clutter and stuff. Hopefully, it will open some time for a walk, a game, or just being with your beloved and kids.
“For we do not know how to pray as we ought.” (Rom 8:26) Prayer is good for anyone, at any time, but many couples aren’t sure how to pray together. It may feel like letting another into one’s private world. Check out 10 Pointers for Prayer or Who me, Pray?…With Her? for a start.
Don’t rush to supply activities when your child complains, “I don’t have anything to do!” A certain amount of boredom is a pre-requisite for creativity. Besides, you can run yourself ragged trying to entertain a child 24-7. Save energy for your honey.
“He was amazed at their lack of faith.” (Mk 6:6) Are there areas in your life in which you are lacking faith? Are you lacking faith in areas of your marriage? Entrust them to Christ so that He may work in your life.
What does it mean to be “free” in a marriage? St. John Paul II said it means that Jesus frees us from our hardness of heart to live fully God’s plan for our marriages and families. What good news!
Some spouses need to bite their tongues more; others need to loosen their tongues and share more. Which are you? With time, hopefully you can find the middle ground that is “just right.”
“Your life is more than your work and your work is more than your job.” (From the song by the same name by Charlie King.) Is your ‘job’ getting in the way of your family relationships? Both are important, but as another song puts it, “Time is love.”
Marriage Challenge (esp. for older couples): health. Aches and pains are inevitable but remind yourself daily that you still have a spouse to love.
Marriage Challenge for older couples: Retirement, and the life changes that come with it. Humbly offer your life’s wisdom for the good of others; your experience is priceless.
“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” (Albert Schweitzer) Is there a trait that you would like to foster in your spouse or child? How can you model that behavior this week in your own life?
“Daughter, your faith has saved you. Go in peace and be cured of your affliction.” (Mark 5:35) Are you or a loved one suffering from an illness? This can cause stress and sorrow. Remain faithful and the Lord will provide the strength and comfort you need.
Does your spouse accuse you of being irresponsible? Sometimes it might just be a different personality style, but don’t ignore the criticism. It may hurt, but not addressing any truth that might be behind the charge can build resentment.
Marriage Challenge: While you may have settled in to a comfortable lifestyle, routines can get boring. Try something new together this week – a new food, recreation, book…
Are you a perfectionist? It’s natural to want to do a good job but don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
St. John the Baptist leapt in his mother’s womb when he heard the voice of Mary. Today, rejoice to hear your spouse’s voice, and pray together to hear God’s voice.
Marriage Challenge: Balancing couple, parent, work, and personal time. Which one gets the least attention in your marriage? Fix it.
Marriage Challenge, especially for those with both kids and ailing parents: As part of the “sandwich generation” don’t be afraid to ask for help to meet the needs of both your kids and your parents.
“Why are you terrified? Do you not yet have faith?” (Mark 4:40) Do not doubt the Lord. Have faith. He will deliver you from danger and sorrow. You must simply trust in Him and have faith.
Tomorrow is Father’s Day. God bless all fathers! May they witness to God the Father’s love. And may men who desire fatherhood find ways to be fatherly to those in need around them.
If your child has a problem and wants your input, but you are caught off guard, try saying “Tell me more about that” or “What do you think you should do?” Responses like this can buy you time and clarify the situation. This works with spouses too.
Couples often have different internal clocks. Is one of you often ready to walk out of the house while the other decides to brush and floss? Be patient, and try matching each other’s pace.
Marriage Challenge: If you desire children but are not yet parents, tenderly support each other. Consider how your love may flow out to others needing your generosity.