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What does your spouse do that makes you laugh? Often it’s the silly idiosyncrasies or foibles that can be special secrets between you.
Do you know much about your spouse’s deceased relatives? Spend some time remembering and telling stories about the holy people in each other’s past. They may not have been perfect, but they are all in the family.
The Catholic Church honors all saints known and unknown today. Although your spouse may not always act like a saint (none of us do!), look for a saintly quality today. Is he or she generous, humble, self-sacrificing, courageous…? Celebrate the saint you are living with today.
Do you have a “mask” that you hide behind at work or for company? Sometimes putting on a “good face” is necessary, but don’t let your spouse just get the dregs of your energy and good manners. Be your best real self with your beloved.
“Rejoice always.” (1 Th 5:16) St. Paul’s advice may seem unrealistic, at least on some days, but surely you can find one thing to be grateful for today or to rejoice over.
Some couples readily and happily conceive. Others wait, sadly, as months turn into years without a beloved child. Natural Family Planning can help infertile couples know the optimal time to conceive and can help diagnose underlying medical problems. Check it out.
What’s your spouse’s primary love language? Words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch? (Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages) Is yours the same or different?
“Children benefit from our ‘presence’ more than our ‘presents’” (Raising Kids Who Will Make a Difference). That’s a great reminder for the upcoming seasons of Advent and Christmas.
Share a childhood memory with your beloved. What was your favorite song, TV show, toy, or outdoor activity? Is it possible to recreate it for a date?
“Take courage; get up, he is calling you.” (Mk 10:49) Are there changes that need to be made in your life that you and your spouse are nervous about? Job change, move, opportunities, challenges? God is calling you and he will go with you. Be not afraid.
Money and jobs: Finding the right balance involves weighing whether having more time or more money is a higher priority at a given point in time. It takes time to cook at home, do your own repairs, and clean, but paying someone else to do it may mean working longer hours at your job.
Take a trip down memory lane. Remember your first date or the first time you said, “I love you” to your beloved. Recall the early days of your courtship and how you came to realize that you wanted to spend your lives together. Who knew it first?
Today on St. John Paul II’s feast day, reflect on his words: “The family has the mission to guard, reveal and communicate love.” (Familiaris Consortio, 17) How does your family live out this mission?
“For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me, naked and you clothed me, ill and you cared for me, in prison and you visited me.” (Mt 25:35-36) Which of these works of mercy do you already do as a couple?
Some individuals are poor, some have disabilities, some are facing a personal crisis. Pick a person who is struggling and imagine yourself in their shoes today. It might be a family member or someone you’ve heard about on the news. Pray for that person. Developing empathy makes you easier to love.
Are you a skunk, a turtle, or an owl? In terms of conflict resolution, skunks just make a stink about it, often with a lot of noise. Turtles ignore or hide from the problem. Owls look the problem over, think about it, then suggest a solution. Choose wisdom!
“Whoever wishes to be great among you will be your servant; whoever wishes to be first among you will be the slave of all.” (Mk 10:43-44) It can be exhausting to always be caring for your children and spouse. Remember who you are ultimately serving: Christ. He will give you the strength (and the rest) […]
Social media rules for couples: Make it clear on your profile that you are married and refer to your spouse in complimentary ways. Share your passwords with each other readily. Limit your time online.
Traditional advice to newlyweds: Never go to a place you wouldn’t take your wife. Don’t go to bed angry. Always part and greet with a kiss. What advice would you give a newly married couple?
“When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls.” (Proverbs 31:10) Describe the value of your wife in poetic terms today. Go ahead try it! If you are the wife, try filling in the blank: When one finds a worthy husband, his value is far beyond _______.
Do emotional affairs “count”? YES. They are painful because you’re sharing intimately with another person and cheating your spouse out of your energy and full presence. Besides, it’s sometimes the first step toward physical infidelity. Pour your efforts into making this marriage work.
Fighting Fair Tip: Hold hands. It may sound corny but try holding hands when discussing something sensitive. It physically reminds you that you may disagree about something, but that you’re still connected and committed to each other.
“You recall, brothers, our toil and drudgery. Working night and day in order not to burden any of you.” (1 Th 2:9) Presumably both of you work and toil for the good of the family – whether within or outside the home. What is your most disliked chore? Consider trading for a day.
“You are lacking in one thing. Go, sell what you have, and give to [the] poor and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me.” (Mk 10:21) When you have family members to care for, you cannot sell everything, but that doesn’t mean you can’t live a simple life. Give what you can […]
“Children need time and space, attention, affection, guidance and conversation…They need jokes, play and touching. They need to have stories told to them by adults who know and love them.” (Mary Pipher) Which one are you best at giving? Weakest?