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January 6 (the 12th day after Christmas) is the traditional date of the Epiphany when the three wise men honored Jesus with gifts. Debrief what you liked (or disliked) about your gift giving this Christmas and consider new ways you can be more generous next year.
“Welcoming a child, through birth or adoption, is an act of faith as well as an act of love.” (Follow the Way of Love) Pray for couples who want a child but are infertile as well as for those who have an untimely pregnancy and are afraid. Bless your child today.
“On the 11th Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 11 Pipers Piping.” Now who needs 11 pipers? Maybe the appropriate interpretation would be to share music today. What’s your beloved’s favorite song? Play it or sing it. You don’t have to be good, just willing to try.
“At the name of Jesus every knee should bend, of those in heaven and on earth and under the earth.” (Phil 2:10) Catholics have always held the name of Jesus in high esteem. Do you give His name the precious devotion and reverence He deserves?
“On the 9th Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 9 ladies dancing.” Dancing is not only for ladies or newlyweds. Try it. If you have children, include them. It needn’t be ballroom to be fun. Think the Hokey Pokey, or dance to your first dance song again.
“When eight days were completed…he was named Jesus.” (Lk 2:21) You’ve been “wearing” your own name for many years now. Do you like it? Do you know what it means? Does your spouse have a special nickname for you? If you have children, do they know the meaning of their names?
New Year’s Eve can be a rousing time – if you’re single. Less so, if you’re married, and even more complicated if you have young children. Why not use this day to take stock of what you liked best about last year? Share it in a quiet moment with your honey and kids.
Today’s first reading reminds us to honor our parents all the days of our lives. Do you treat your spouse’s parents with the same respect you treat your own? Do you help your spouse take care of their needs?
“On the 5th Day of Christmas, my true love gave to me – 5 Golden Rings.” Take a look at your wedding band today with your spouse. It represents a covenant you made, one more precious than gold. Together, thank God for the beautiful blessings of the Sacrament of Marriage!
“On the 4th Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 4 Calling Birds.” Songbirds are recognizable by their distinct melodies. Is there something only you call your spouse? If you’re shy about terms of endearment, give it a try anyway.
“On the 3rd Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 3 French Hens.” French hens are known for their gentleness. Be gentle with each other today; a tender caress or a soothing word would be perfect.
“On the 2nd Day of Christmas my true love gave to me – 2 Turtle Doves.” Turtle doves are migratory birds that form strong pair bonds. Perhaps you are traveling over the holidays, hopefully together. Even if you are separated, confirm your commitment to each other.
Merry Christmas! If you are a parent, take a moment today to ponder the awesome miracle of your child’s birth. If you are not a parent, ponder a mysterious way that God has acted in your life.
Christmas traditions are important but some just add stress to our lives. Christmas Eve Midnight Mass is nice but not with cranky kids. A special meal is unifying – but not if it makes you frazzled. Pause for five minutes today to be quiet, and simplify your expectations.
As Christmas draws closer, the flurry of stress and activity intensifies. Be sure to make time for quiet and prayer with your family to prepare your hearts for Christ’s birth.
Enjoy the Christmas lights with your spouse: at the mall, on your street, on the city tree, in your own home. How has your spouse been a light in your life?
December 21 is the longest night of the year. Advent is about waiting in the uncertainty of darkness. Ponder the times you have waited in the “dark” with a family member. Perhaps it was illness, or maybe fear, that kept you in vigil together. Be not afraid.
What husbands like to hear: “I love being married to you.” “I think you’re handsome.” “I really respect the way you handled that.” “Thank you for providing for our family.” “You are right.” What could you say today?
What wives like to hear: “Let me help you with that.” “I’m so glad I married you.” “I love the way that outfit looks on you.” “You’re an awesome wife and mother.” “Sounds like you had an exasperating day.” “You are right.” What could you say today?
“Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall name him Emmanuel, which means ‘God is with us.’” (Mt 1:23) We hear this verse in both the first reading and the Gospel today, which helps us to see how God is faithful to His promises. How has the Lord been faithful to […]
Sometimes it can be frightening to embark upon a big change in life – a birth, a death, changing a job, or retirement. Call to mind a fear from the past or present. Share it with your beloved, and trust it will be kept safe.
Parenting teens can put stress on a marriage. If you have teenagers, you know that you can’t always pick the time when they are in the mood to talk. When they do open up, the parent needs to stop and listen.
For no particular reason make tonight’s dinner special: light candles, sip a glass of wine, and turn on soft music. Relax and enjoy each other’s company.
Affair-proof your marriage. Often affairs start because one spouse starts confiding in a friend of the opposite sex. Once personal troubles are compassionately received by another, a bond starts to deepen. If something’s troubling you enough, a counselor is the safer outlet.
Fighting Fair Tip: Never say “never” or “always.” It may seem like your spouse always leaves the gas tank on empty, but there’s always an exception that blows your argument. Be more accurate by saying “often” or “sometimes.” It stings less and creates less defensiveness.