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Ever heard of limerence? It’s a physical feeling of infatuation for another, like a crush. Although limerence can lead to committed love, it typically has a shelf life of 2-3 years. That’s why couples must transition to a more lasting love. Nurture romance but rely on enduring friendship.
Sit down with your spouse and look at some of your favorite photos from the past year. Was there an unexpected blessing? Give thanks.
“And this is my prayer: that your love may increase ever more and more.” (Phil 1:9) God wants your love to grow, always.
A nice tradition today, on the Feast of the Immaculate Conception, is to give a gift to a pregnant woman you know. Also pray today for mothers with difficult or unexpected pregnancies.
“John [the] Baptist appeared in the desert proclaiming a baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins.” (Mk 1:4) The sacraments are essential to the Christian life. Encourage your spouse to go to confession regularly. Participation in this sacrament will strengthen not only your relationship with God but your relationship with your spouse.
St. Nicholas, whose feast is celebrated today, was known as a secret gift-giver. Surprise your spouse and children with a little treat today, and read together the story of this inspiring saint.
The love between husband and wife expands when shared with others. Consider participating in your parish’s Giving Tree, or inviting an elderly or single person to your holiday celebrations.
A simple idea to make Advent prayerful: use your address book to pray for people alphabetically at dinner. Not sure what a person’s needs are? Consider calling them to find out.
St. Francis Xavier was a Jesuit missionary who took the Gospel to people who hadn’t heard of Jesus. Families too are called to be missionaries. Who can you share Jesus’ love with today?
Have you blessed your Advent wreath yet? There is a simple prayer service to do at home available on the USCCB website, www.usccb.org: search for “Advent.”
(Reader’s Tip) Pray together at meals, even if you’re in a restaurant. Don’t be afraid to show PDF’s (Public Displays of Faith).
“Be watchful! Be alert! You do not know when the time will come.” (Mk 13:33) Advent is a season of waiting. As Christians we are not only waiting for the celebration of the birth of Christ at Christmas but the day that Christ will come again. Always be prepared to meet Christ.
“I am the Alpha and the Omega.” (Rev 1:8) Just as God is the Beginning and the End, so your marriage has a beginning (the marriage vows) and an end (death). What’s important too is in the middle. Make the middle meaningful today.
As Christmas shopping accelerates, seek simplicity. Enjoy homemade fun (playing games, singing) and homemade treats today.
“Thanks be to God!” is a common expression not only of thanks but also of relief that a danger was averted. In this season of thanks, is there a bad fortune that you avoided? Thank God for invisible blessings – a cold not caught, a curt retort stifled…
Thanksgiving and Christmas are traditionally times when adult children return home and blended families gather in unique and complicated ways. This can be both joyous and stressful as family systems reshuffle. Be patient.
(Reader’s Tip) Be kind and joyful. Each day pray for your spouse and, as often as possible, pray with them.
Do you have a hard time getting your beloved to share thoughts and feelings with you? Some spouses are the quiet type who will talk when ready. Others just need you to be patient and make space for speech. Do you talk too much?
“Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me.” (Mt 25:40) Recognize Christ in your spouse and in all those that you meet. If you are struggling to serve your spouse, remember that you are serving Christ as well.
St. Cecilia is the patron saint of music. Whether you’re a virtuoso or can’t carry a tune, enjoy music today with your family (sing, listen to a favorite song, practice instruments together).
“But of that day or hour, no one knows…” (Mk 13:32) Death is not something most people like to think about, but it is inevitable and indeed we don’t know “the day or hour.” Don’t avoid talking about your deaths – even if you’re young. Do you know each other’s final wishes?
“Elijah said to [the widow] ‘Do not be afraid.’” (1 Kings 17:13) Do you have money worries? Have you ever? Do you or your spouse worry more about money? Pray for both prudence and detachment.
(Reader’s Tip) Keep Jesus’s teachings at the center of your marriage: Be the first to forgive and the last to blame, and never go to sleep angry with each other.
Married couples are called to lead each other to heaven. Show your spouse how much God loves them by doing an unexpected kindness for them today.
St. Elizabeth of Hungary, a married saint, became a young widow when her husband died of the plague after only six years of marriage. Pray today for those who have lost a spouse, and look for ways to support them.