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Let’s fantasize. “If you suddenly had a million dollars, how would you use it?” (Better Marriages monthly discussion question) Is your answer different from your beloved’s? Could any of the money be spent to strengthen other marriages?
What’s your decision-making style? Slow or fast? Do you weigh the pros and cons? Go with your gut feeling? Defer to the other? Now, how does your style mesh with your spouse’s? Being similar can make life easier, but being different can often make it safer by covering all the bases.
Secret of a memorable date night: Novelty is more important than just doing the familiar. Sometimes the tried and true is fine, but often the effort to think of something wild and crazy wins points for trying harder – even if you discover the drive-in theater closed 3 years ago.
Do you ever try to “entrap” your spouse to win an argument? Must one of you always have the last word? Stop it!
Research says it takes five positive comments to counteract one negative. Try keeping track for one day. If you have children and they’re old enough, maybe they’d like to take part in the count.
Fighting Fair Tip: Pick a good time. That probably means not when one spouse is about to leave the house or just getting home from work. Sleep deprived or frantically busy spouses don’t make receptive listeners either. When is a good time for you?
Today’s Gospel reading (Luke 17:11-19) recounts the story of the ten lepers. All were healed, but only one returned to thank Jesus. For what can you thank your spouse today?
Who usually has the final word in an argument or family decision? If it doesn’t balance out, check if one of you is taking unfair advantage of the other. Somebody may be talking too much.
Have you ever sought professional help for troubles between you? Perhaps you don’t need it, but don’t let pride or procrastination rob you of the chance to learn new skills and heal.
What prompts your beloved to cry? Nothing? Anything? A sad movie? How do you usually respond? Is it a welcome response?
Does one of you desire more creature comforts than the other? Be flexible. Can you accept what you have, whether a lot or a little?
Learn something from a child today. From an infant it might be to let others care for you; from a school age child it could be a technology tip, teens can cue you to a cutting edge movie, from a young adult it might be an insight about relationships.
Do you feel anxious about something today? Sharing it can lessen its power. Look for a positive thought to balance your anxiety.
What is your role in marital disputes – the problem solver, peacemaker, challenger? Are you satisfied with how you solve disagreements? If not, it’s easy to get helpful ideas from this website.
Gifts on birthdays and Christmas are fine, but a surprise trinket/flowers may be even more delightful.
How do you use the “waiting” times of your life? Waiting for your spouse to get dressed or put on makeup? Waiting at the doctor’s office, red lights, commercials, or check out lanes? Use these as a prompt to pray rather than getting impatient.
Share a childhood memory with your beloved. What was your favorite song, TV show, toy, or outdoor activity? Is it possible to recreate it for a date?
Today’s feast of the Guardian Angels reminds us of God’s care for us. Sometimes it’s hard to trust that God is with us in difficult times. Have you felt God’s presence during a rough patch in your marriage and family life?
It’s usually easy to pray for our own children. Their needs are so apparent to us. October is Respect Life Month. Pray today for all children in our world, both born and unborn, and for all lives that are threatened or suffering.
What’s your spouse’s favorite flower or snack? Surprise her/him with it.
In today’s reading, the parable of the rich man and Lazarus (Luke 16: 19-31), Jesus challenges our attitudes towards the poor. How has your marriage been a blessing to someone in need? Is there something you can do today?
Do you know a childhood disappointment of your beloved? A goal or dream that was never achieved? If not, ask. Console. Is it too late?”
“Before we were married I expected that Rita would always be ready for sex when I was and that we would do it the way they vote in Chicago – early and often.” (Bob Boeke) Over time sexual desires can diverge. The cure? Patience, creativity, and compromise.
Over the years spouses learn little tricks to make life together work more smoothly. Are there any adjustments you’ve decided to make to accommodate your beloved’s idiosyncrasies like timing, temperature, eating, or sleeping preferences?
Humility is a great asset in marriage provided it is not laziness disguised as humility. “I don’t care. Whatever you want” can be gracious or it can mean you are overly passive. Check it out.